I Can Be Single And Happy At The Same Time
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I Can Be Single And Happy At The Same Time

I am in no way saying that I will never want to be in a relationship again, What I am saying is right now is not my time. I am okay with that, so why aren't you?

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I Can Be Single And Happy At The Same Time
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I am single, yes.

Am I lonely? No.

I know this may be a difficult concept for some of you to process, but just because something is unfamiliar does not mean it is false.

I am begging you, please stop putting your timeline on me. Please stop making me feel I need a significant other in order to live a purposeful, blissful life. You are wrong.

I am in no way saying that I will never want to be in a relationship again. Qhat I am saying is right now is not my time. I am okay with that, so why aren't you?

I have been single for about two years now, coming out of an extremely emotionally abusive and toxic relationship. For some of you, maybe you had a choice to leave, you fell out of love, and you left. In both cases, both equally as painful, we chose ourselves.

I looked, searched even, to find someone to fill this void I had in my heart. This emptiness that I thought only another individual could fill. I would hear from everyone, "You will find your person, don't worry."

"That person will come along and you'll be so happy."

I know you people thought this was what I needed to hear, but honestly, it was only setting me up for future failed attempts, putting me under this extreme amount of pressure to find this person that is supposed to make my life complete.

This is when I started to question: why must another person complete me? Why can't I be whole by myself?

I was constantly pushing against this feeling because everyone was telling me to do so. I got so caught up on trying to make the "right choice" on a future partner, that I missed out on the beauty life was providing right in front of me.

I lost myself, trying to find another.

I decided to choose myself once again, which isn't an easy thing to do. I started to embark on this journey of "finding myself" and becoming the best possible version of me. This meant taking a hard look at who I am internally, making changes within myself that feel almost impossible to do. Things that were embedded in me since before I could remember.

This is why I am asking everyone out there to stop pushing a relationship on people who are not ready for one, do not want one, or simply do not have time for one. We are fine without a significant other and do not need to be pushed in a direction that you see best for us. For women especially, we don't need the reminder that we have a biological clock and it's ticking.

So, from single women everywhere, we are happy, we are thriving, and we are living our best lives!

We are embracing our journeys and we hope that you are, too!

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