Women Aren’t Just Cutting Their Hair After A Breakup Anymore

Women Aren’t Just Cutting Their Hair After A Breakup Anymore

The age of women changing their hair after a breakup is over.


The age of women changing their hair after a breakup is over. What used to be an adequate form of therapy isn't enough for most us anymore. Don't get me wrong, I still love changing my hair up when I'm feeling down and changing your hair after a breakup still feels great. But lately I've been craving more, and I know I'm not alone.

I've been seeing it everywhere with women when they go through a breakup or a really hard time. Instead of cutting their hair women are changing up their wardrobe, they're getting tattoos, they're getting piercings, they're working out or they're traveling. They're becoming the best version of themselves, the woman they've always wanted to be.

I started out small. I dated a guy who didn't think I should cut my hair and shouldn't pierce my nose. So what did I do? I broke up with him, cut my hair and pierced my nose. I started small, changing my hair and getting a nose piercing didn't seem too crazy. But each breakup or crappy situation I go through I keep craving a bigger change. I kept trying to keep myself this sweet girl with no tattoos, no crazy piercings and pretty long hair because it seemed that's what every guy wanted.

Screw that. Screw what guys want. In the past couple years, I've gotten five piercings and five tattoos and have rocked short hair despite guys always saying longer hair is more attractive. You know why? Because I want to.

I want to pierce whatever I want, I want to be covered in tattoos and I want to dye or cut my hair how I see fit. I'm sick of doing things according to what I think others will like. I've seen women transform into who they really want to be after a breakup and I think it's a beautiful thing. Instead of just cutting their hair and trying to keep themselves a certain way that they think will please people, they're becoming themselves.

This isn't in any way an article to try and bash men and say that all men try to control the way women look. That isn't the case at all. I've met plenty of guys who don't try to tell women they should look a certain way and think it's great when a woman does what she truly wants. It's just relieving now to see women not caring what others think of them anymore and doing what they've always been told is unattractive.

So to the girl going through a breakup or a rough time in general, get that tattoo, get that piercing or pick up and move states if you want. Do what you've been scared to do. If it helps with dealing with whatever pain you're going through, do it. You won't regret it.
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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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9 Things Shoe Store Employees Wish Their Customers Knew

Especially because most of it is common sense


Retail in itself can be extremely frustrating for its employees. The customers who don't understand the return policy, extended holiday hours, and continuously cleaning up after people can take it's toll on you. Working in a shoe store has opened my eyes to just how messy and careless people can be. If you work in a shoe store, you can totally relate to these things.

1. We know we don't carry a lot of inventory for larger sizes

And we're very sorry for this inconvenience! Believe me, if it meant I didn't have to hear your complaining and shy away from your glares, I would carry every single shoe in every single color in larger sizes. But the truth is, not a lot of people have a large shoe size, which means the company would be wasting money having an overabundance of larger sized shoes than the average size 6-8.

2. Please put the shoes back in the box where you found them

Nothing is more frustrating, blood-boiling or terrifying than finding a box with no shoes in it, or a box with one shoe in it. And on rare occasions, I've even found boxes with 3 shoes in it. I don't understand why, but please, just put it back the way you found it! Nothing is more tedious than cleaning up the same messes all day.

3. Yes, it still costs money, even if there isn't a price tag on it

I know this is a wacky concept to comprehend, but shoes have those little labels on the inside with a lot number for this very reason. Between shipment, stocking, people trying the shoes on, tags and stickers can fall off easily. That's why they're stamped or stitched onto the inside of the shoe so your sales associate can accurately ring in your item. So yes, it still costs money.

4. Do NOT walk into our store 5 minutes before closing

Shoe shopping is seriously such a tedious task. You have to try them on, find a style you like, and decide if you can afford the shoe you fall in love with. I've helped some people who have spent 3 hours in the store trying on every shoe in their size. So please, do not come into the store 5 minutes before we close claiming, "I'll be quick!" You won't. There's no way. Don't lie to yourself and waste my time.

5. And if you do, please don't come in with a pile of returns

The last thing we want to be doing when we have a closing checklist a mile long is to deal with your multiple receipt return. Not only is it time consuming, but we would've been able to help you a lot faster when we weren't in the middle of closing down the registers.

6. If you really have to come 5 minutes before we close, at least be nice to us

More than likely, we're going to have to stay open later just for you. We're going to have to stay there even longer because we can't do some of the closing tasks while customers are still in the store. And, we still have to clean up after the mess we KNOW you're about to make.

7. If you have a big return, be patient

Figuring out returns that are made up of multiple receipts, have missing items or the items were on sale can be confusing for an associate to decipher. We're just trying to make sure you get the correct money back in the proper way that the company's policy allows. I know you'd like to be doing something better with your time, but trust me, so would we.

8. We WANT to help you

Our mission is to greet and size every customer, and make sure you leave happy with your purchase. When we suggest a shoe or accessory, it's not to build our sales. It's to help you take advantage of a sale, or show you something you might like that you hadn't seen originally.

9. We're still human at the end of the day

Everybody has a bad day, but that's no reason to take it out on us. We're terribly sorry that we don't have your size or the color you wanted, and we will do whatever we can to either hold it at another store for you, or special order it. But if we're being courteous and pleasant to you, we expect the same in return. Save your attitudes for someone else, because we sure don't deserve it.

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