Women Aren’t Just Cutting Their Hair After A Breakup Anymore

Women Aren’t Just Cutting Their Hair After A Breakup Anymore

The age of women changing their hair after a breakup is over.

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The age of women changing their hair after a breakup is over. What used to be an adequate form of therapy isn't enough for most us anymore. Don't get me wrong, I still love changing my hair up when I'm feeling down and changing your hair after a breakup still feels great. But lately I've been craving more, and I know I'm not alone.

I've been seeing it everywhere with women when they go through a breakup or a really hard time. Instead of cutting their hair women are changing up their wardrobe, they're getting tattoos, they're getting piercings, they're working out or they're traveling. They're becoming the best version of themselves, the woman they've always wanted to be.

I started out small. I dated a guy who didn't think I should cut my hair and shouldn't pierce my nose. So what did I do? I broke up with him, cut my hair and pierced my nose. I started small, changing my hair and getting a nose piercing didn't seem too crazy. But each breakup or crappy situation I go through I keep craving a bigger change. I kept trying to keep myself this sweet girl with no tattoos, no crazy piercings and pretty long hair because it seemed that's what every guy wanted.

Screw that. Screw what guys want. In the past couple years, I've gotten five piercings and five tattoos and have rocked short hair despite guys always saying longer hair is more attractive. You know why? Because I want to.

I want to pierce whatever I want, I want to be covered in tattoos and I want to dye or cut my hair how I see fit. I'm sick of doing things according to what I think others will like. I've seen women transform into who they really want to be after a breakup and I think it's a beautiful thing. Instead of just cutting their hair and trying to keep themselves a certain way that they think will please people, they're becoming themselves.

This isn't in any way an article to try and bash men and say that all men try to control the way women look. That isn't the case at all. I've met plenty of guys who don't try to tell women they should look a certain way and think it's great when a woman does what she truly wants. It's just relieving now to see women not caring what others think of them anymore and doing what they've always been told is unattractive.

So to the girl going through a breakup or a rough time in general, get that tattoo, get that piercing or pick up and move states if you want. Do what you've been scared to do. If it helps with dealing with whatever pain you're going through, do it. You won't regret it.
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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.
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It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning. You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret. So here are 20 tattoos where you can't go wrong. Here are 20 small tattoos with big meanings. (But don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!).

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.



2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."



3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.



4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."



5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."



6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."



8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)



9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.



10. The Greek word “Meraki” means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.



11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.



13. “Lux in tenebris” means “light in darkness.”

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora” is translated literally as “Towards greater things.” It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.



16. A glyphs means “explore.” It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."



18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower’s first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.


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A Look Inside My Overpriced Dorm Room

The cutest 200 square feet.

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For most, the thought of leaving home and living in a space the size of their parent's master bathroom is terrifying; however, once you have lived at a camp for half the summer, you are oddly blown away with the space of an entire desk, futon, fridge, and closet to yourself.

A summer of hot hikes and bunk bed living prepared me more for a 200 square foot room at a 37,000 student population school than I ever could've thought to be thankful for. After a very sweaty 7 am Sunday check-in, a wholesome chipotle family gathering, and one last goodbye, I was officially a college student living almost on my own.

Dorm Sweet Dorm!

An over-the-door mirror was a must and apparently so was the "ring for champagne" wall decor that is only hanging up for the sole purpose of aesthetics and color scheme despite having no actual function. On our letter board, I had to throw in my favorite summer camp saying "Cho Boi" which is part of an African chant used to welcome warriors back to the safety and support of their villages and means "welcome home". We also keep our glorious shower caddies by the door on top of the dorm-hall-supplied "pedestal" which has quickly become our snack cabinet. We also have taken "adulting" all types of serious by buying pink and grey bins for real cleaning supplies and even a shower curtain to give the appearance of clean closets.

THE Futon

Here's to the people who sell color scheme matching futons on facebook for $15. Since our futon is on the smaller end and was built to be resting low to the ground, my super dad played Bob the Builder at 7 am and put together all the pieces of the futon frame we designed. When it comes to 200 square feet, storage space is the greatest gift, and we are blessed with a full drawer under the futon and two ottomans to contain an Amber Scholl sized shoe collection. We also can't forget about the Yeti-skin looking faux fur through that feels like a polar bear hug.

The Desk/Makeup Table/Step-Stool

For Senior Night, my mom took out the glass from an old picture frame and replaced it with chicken wire, and with some glittered clothespins and a paint pen banner, the cutest DIY picture display was made. I keep my hair products and tools on my shelf alongside all my "desk pens" (I keep them separate from back pens so I have them no matter where I am). I attached my extension cord with command strips to be out of the way and reach up to my lofted bed and down to the desk easily. I have gold accents for all my organizers and even a matching laptop case.

I have a slanted mirror from IKEA for makeup. I keep a three drawer cart for makeup where I use spray painted file organizers for pallet storage, have bins in each drawer to organize my products, and have grey buckets for eyeshadow and face brushes.



My Sacred Space

Hi, my name is Ansley Cartwright, and I have an unhealthy love for coffee.

We returned our bulky K-cup organizer, and instead, used a decorative bin for all my latte needs. We have a white basket for dry snacks and a Scentsy for our candle-free dorm. We also are in the process of setting up a Wii and TV for game nights, Bachelorette showings, and Netflix addictions.

Throwin' it out!

A cute wooden sign to remind me of home, and all the throw pillows you could ever need. The ruffle bedding is also a 10/10 because you don't have to iron what is supposed to look wrinkly!

Though dorm life is a challenge, I have absolutely loved our first few days in our tiny home!!

Please enjoy pictures of a CLEAN dorm, because it won't last long !!

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