Women Aren’t Just Cutting Their Hair After A Breakup Anymore

Women Aren’t Just Cutting Their Hair After A Breakup Anymore

The age of women changing their hair after a breakup is over.

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The age of women changing their hair after a breakup is over. What used to be an adequate form of therapy isn't enough for most us anymore. Don't get me wrong, I still love changing my hair up when I'm feeling down and changing your hair after a breakup still feels great. But lately I've been craving more, and I know I'm not alone.

I've been seeing it everywhere with women when they go through a breakup or a really hard time. Instead of cutting their hair women are changing up their wardrobe, they're getting tattoos, they're getting piercings, they're working out or they're traveling. They're becoming the best version of themselves, the woman they've always wanted to be.

I started out small. I dated a guy who didn't think I should cut my hair and shouldn't pierce my nose. So what did I do? I broke up with him, cut my hair and pierced my nose. I started small, changing my hair and getting a nose piercing didn't seem too crazy. But each breakup or crappy situation I go through I keep craving a bigger change. I kept trying to keep myself this sweet girl with no tattoos, no crazy piercings and pretty long hair because it seemed that's what every guy wanted.

Screw that. Screw what guys want. In the past couple years, I've gotten five piercings and five tattoos and have rocked short hair despite guys always saying longer hair is more attractive. You know why? Because I want to.

I want to pierce whatever I want, I want to be covered in tattoos and I want to dye or cut my hair how I see fit. I'm sick of doing things according to what I think others will like. I've seen women transform into who they really want to be after a breakup and I think it's a beautiful thing. Instead of just cutting their hair and trying to keep themselves a certain way that they think will please people, they're becoming themselves.

This isn't in any way an article to try and bash men and say that all men try to control the way women look. That isn't the case at all. I've met plenty of guys who don't try to tell women they should look a certain way and think it's great when a woman does what she truly wants. It's just relieving now to see women not caring what others think of them anymore and doing what they've always been told is unattractive.

So to the girl going through a breakup or a rough time in general, get that tattoo, get that piercing or pick up and move states if you want. Do what you've been scared to do. If it helps with dealing with whatever pain you're going through, do it. You won't regret it.
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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.
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It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.


2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."


3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.


4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."


5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."


6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."


8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)


9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.


10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.


11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.


13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.


16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."


18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.


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American Media, Your Next Goal Is To Represent East Asian Women Of ALL Sizes

East Asian women should be encouraged to embrace their bodies too, especially for those who don't exactly fit into what many see as the standard for Asian beauty.

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When it comes to East Asian women, there is a very specific view of what they should look like. People often expect them to be small and thin, with sleek, straight black hair. This is not what all East Asian women look like, but it is certainly what most of the East Asian women succeeding in American media look like.

Popular Asian-American actresses like Constance Wu, Lana Condor, and Kelly Marie Tran, all seem to fit this description. And it isn't their fault. I'm happy to see their success since Asian-Americans are so underrepresented. The issue is not that these women are succeeding, it's the perception of what Asian beauty should be. There is enough pressure to fit a certain body type in many Asian-American households, with these same beauty standards being widespread in East Asian countries.

In the United States, women are beginning to promote body positivity, with many of them being more open about their bodies on social media, and a number of plus-size models, such as Ashley Graham, speaking out about issues of inclusion in the modeling industry. What's missing from these movements is Asian women. Yes, of course, there are some, but Asian-American women seem to be rarely represented in these discussions of body positivity. East Asian women should be encouraged to embrace their bodies too, especially for those who don't exactly fit into what many see as the standard for Asian beauty.

Everyone deserves to see themselves being represented and to see that they can succeed no matter what they look like. Going forward, I hope to see more Asian plus-size models being celebrated. There are already some steps being taken in South Korea, with models like Taylor Tak promoting size inclusivity in the modeling industry. Hopefully, this extends to Asian women in the United States as well. It's been a great year for Asian-American representation, and I'd love to see this continue with Asian women of all sizes.

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