Why You Need An "I Will" List Right About Now

Why You Need An "I Will" List Right About Now

Stop saying "I wish" and start saying "I will".

I found something on my laptop the other day, hidden in my notes section that I wanted to share. It was an “I will” list. I created it over a year ago when I was going through a lot. I went through many life-changing events which caused me to struggle with who I was and who I wanted to be. With all of these thoughts rattling around in my mind, I decided to numb my constant worries with hours and hours of NCIS episodes. In one of the episodes, Ziva (who use to be a main character) created a list as a child. One of the other main characters, Tony (who left the show as well) found her list she had written as a little girl.

At that moment, that list was exactly what I needed. I needed a reason to get up and preserve every morning. I wanted to give myself a push in the right direction, to become the best version of myself that I can be. So, my list is short and simple but, complex at the same time. These goals can be interpreted many different ways. It doesn’t tell me how to pursue my goals; I have to figure that on my own.

Growing is something hard for me to do. Because growth means change and I am allergic to adapting (it doesn't mean I don't try). However, I have come to embrace the punches that life throws at me. Because, if I don't, I'll be missing out on what life has to offer. By facing my fears head-on, it allows me to bloom and thrive in a way I hadn't.

My dreams are different than they once were and I am the happiest I have ever been. I’m changing and growing for the better, day by day. It just goes to show that my list can follow me in any situation that I’m in. It helps me to feel comfortable in my decisions and who I am. It gives me something to strive for and to turn my dreams into a reality. Life isn’t simple, but it gets a little easier once you know what you want out of it. Sit down, make a list and stick to it (or alter it, because things change a people change) Check up on yourself (and your list) every so often and have faith in what will be. Before you know it, you'll be taking the world by storm.

I remember writing my list, but I had forgotten all about it. Looking at it now, over a year later it puts a smile on my face. Because, the fact is, I’ve changed a lot this past year, meaning I’ve followed my list without even knowing. An I" will" list is more powerful than you may think. Anything can follow it, and it's up to you to make those decisions. The world is full of endless possibilities, what are you going to will for yourself?

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants

Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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You're Not Coal, Stop Putting So Much Pressure On Yourself To Become A Diamond

I wish that I had lived in the moment and embraced being a kid instead of trying so hard to be a mature adult.


Recently, I have been feeling exponentially overwhelmed. At nineteen, I'm graduating this spring with my bachelor's degree, I have no idea what I'm doing, how I'm going to reach my goals, or where I'm going. Am I going to get a full-time job? Am I going to join the Peace Corps? Am I going to move to Hawaii and live a life completely off the grid, eating mangos, and surfing all day? (I wish)

I have no freaking clue, and I'm sure most of you are feeling the same way.

Growing up, I put a ridiculous amount of pressure on myself. To get straight A's, excel at sports, be part of ASB, get scholarships, and go above and beyond with every task I was given. I wanted to be the perfect student/daughter/sister/friend and this mindset wrecked me. One time, during my junior year of high school, I got a C in a math class that I was struggling with and I was completely DESTROYED. I had never got a grade below an A- before and I beat myself up for weeks because I thought that I was a failure.

I so wish I wouldn't have put all of my self-worth into my grades and my success at sports. I might have actually enjoyed high school and I know without a doubt that I would have been a happier teenager.

I wish that I would have lived in the moment and embraced being a kid instead of trying so hard to be a mature adult.

I'm grateful for my work ethic, but I'm quickly watching myself spiral back into this mental space of feeling like a chicken in a pressure cooker, ready to pop because I want to change the world and I have no damn idea how to do that.

It's good to be a dreamer, but if there's one piece of advice that I could possibly give, it is that I'm figuring out that you have your entire life to accomplish your goals. Just by you being happy, kind, compassionate and living your best life, you will change the world. It's a ripple effect.

You're happy, it makes someone else happy. Their happiness makes someone else happy. Like when someone pays for your drink at Starbucks and you decide to pay it forward.

I recently saw a Rumi quote that read, "Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." You don't deserve all of the pressure that you are putting on yourself. Embrace the unknown. You have two options, to either be anxious or to be excited. Choose excitement.

You will accomplish great things.

You're already a diamond.

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