If you're like me, you have a hard time not controlling things that, well, you want to control. Whether it's friends, family, romantic relationships, or even you're favorite TV shows (AKA "Scandal"), there seems to be so many things that we just have to accept. Despite how badly we don't want to. I suffer from this on a daily basis and there are days where it's all I can think about. So when do we know when to actually take a step back?

From my experience, knowing when to take a step back doesn't always come that easily and definitely doesn't always come before you make a mistake. It's just one of those facts of life, which sucks. I personally struggle with wanting, so badly, for my friends to be insanely happy and I will obsess over what I can do to make that happen. Sometimes the best thing you can do in a situation like that is just let them be. I've met so many people in my life that I want to help and make them realize that they deserve better than the life they're living. Let me tell you a secret: it doesn't matter what you say to them or do for them, if they don't want help, they're not gonna get any. That's when you know you need to take a step back.

You can go on and tell people everyday how amazing they are and how great life could be for them if they just live it, but you're wasting your time. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to let go. You can tell them that you will be their friend or meet them for coffee every now and again, but you have to accept the fact that they do not need you. And if they do, they will only tell you on their time. It will hit them one day that they lost someone incredible and that they screwed up, but until then, sit back and let them be.

You're going to have to trust the process. There is a path they are on, a designated road they are taking in life that will lead them to their ultimate destination. It may not be a smooth road and there may be several road blocks and speed bumps, but it's the road they need to be on. Everything in life happens for a reason whether we think it or not, but can you honestly say that every moment in your life hasn't led you to where you are now? For the good or bad, we are who we are because of the choices we have made and the things that have happened to us. Trust that God has a plan for everyone, even the broken.

If you really love and care for someone, care for yourself more. If they are bringing you down and causing you pain, that's their problem, not yours. But don't let it get to you. At the end of the day, they are hurting way more than you ever will. I know you want to help, but you can't. You are way more important than someone who doesn't give a f*** about you. They won't always be like this, because again, that's not part of God's plan.

Let them go, but be their friend if they truly need it. Don't be angry at them and hold a grudge. That will not help them and will certainly not help you any. Trust in God's plan and the process they are on in life. All you can do for them is wish them the very best and nothing but happiness.

Jesus replied, " You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand."