Worse case scenario, your significant other is casually contacting someone saved in their phone as "Bill Collector". This is as low as it gets. Yes, things are rocky. However, relationships are supposed to be built on multiple stairways- how easy it is, how hard it is, how fun it is, what your willing to take or forefeet from etc etc. This time, oh it isn't the case.
We started off easy like a Sunday morning. First kiss- trying to be gentle now- and everything else was in the interim of friendship. Having fun, nothing seriously, I began to think taking chances aren't so bad. The man was a gentleman and still is a innocent man and I've alway been the type to be relaxed and compromising and to understand " no" the first time. But when your deep in, the signs you dismiss in the beginning were signs of free radicalism in the relationship early on.
I'm an advocate- some say I'm obsessive- with Judge Lynn Toler a Divorce Court Judge. During my adulthood I understood, my parents were mostly giving me my freedom or hiding me from it- during my discovery of boys. This led me to attempting to find out what to do on my own. According to Judge Lynn Toler, " Your 20's are about finding yourself, and dropping a man if he doesn't work out for you. Not locking down a dude." I'm here today to let you know this is the case for me.
After finding the mysterious, "Billy Collector" I confronted the man- the man who was so previously kind, smart, and courageous enough to take me on- he explained this as "the contact was saved previously and before he met me under this name."I truly was not bothered by other women having contact with my man; I was upset because the relationship was being hidden. As any person believing they are in a committed relationship, I responded that this situation bothered me. I thought the man I was committed to understood, just change the name of the contact in your phone, and you'd think it was over. You think.
Once the conversation is over, less than 30 days, after you said it bothers you he never changes the name, still "Bill Collector" exist. You know text are missing. As soon as he receives a call from is his best friend on the phone, your man say's, "Your on speaker" and automatically the conversation becomes not so verbal. All theses things, I didn't notice in the beginning. I wil get worse. Which leads me to the bottom line.
DON'T GIVE UP BUT REALIZED WHEN YOU'VE COMPROMISED ENOUGH. I didn't understand this but the issue was never resolved. Ladies I'm here to tell you to take the hint.
Personally, I believe Mrs. Toler's saying about the concept of dropping anyone who isn't good for you is the word. Don't be stuck. And In Beyonces' words, " Just LISTEN." I'll let you know if anything positive comes to this.
