"Oh, he's cute! I'm gonna go get his number!"

"Man she's hot! I'm gonna ask her out!"

"See that guy over there? He's in my Biology class. We've never talked before, but he's super cute. I wanna be his girl!"

I hear this kind of stuff on the daily, and they all have one common factor – mistaking physical attraction for a connection.

Now, I understand that we as human beings have eyes for viewing and that we are naturally drawn to things/people that are aesthetically pleasing, but there's so much more to a human being than their outer appearance.

Physical attraction can be one of the biggest tricksters when it comes to choosing a partner, and here's how you can recognize when you're giving in to mere attraction to appearance.

When your potential significant other is near you, do you automatically think to ask those around you, "How do I look?" Do you feel the need to dress up nicely just for them?

Do you feel the need to wear extra makeup, or do your hair a certain way in order to please them? Does your heart start racing whenever they're near you?

Are you at a loss for words in their presence? Do you gaze over their social media posts, mostly when it involves shirtless pics or swimsuit pics? Do you constantly refer to them as "hot" or "sexy"?

If your answer to some, or most of these questions, is "yes," then I hate to break it to you angel – but you're probably just physically attracted to them.

There's probably no real feelings there for them, and I'm sorry to burst your bubble.

These kinds of "feelings" never result in anything good.

Either they become another member of your "Almost Lover" list, or, if you do end up becoming their significant other, the relationship can become unhealthy fairly quickly.

Trust me, I know exactly what I'm talking about. I had to learn this lesson not to long ago, and the hard way.

When you put it in perspective, anyone can be "aesthetically pleasing to the eye" with the right hair, the right makeup, the right wardrobe, the right posing, the right camera, the right lighting – I could go on for days.

But what does an attractive outer appearance say about one's character?

Absolutely nothing.

When choosing a significant other, you should look for someone you have a connection with, not just someone you find to be "good looking."

Be with someone you know like the back of your hand. Be with someone who understands you better than you understand your own self.

Get to know the person for who they are, before considering a relationship with them. What is their favorite color? What is their earliest childhood memory?

What is their biggest fear? What makes them happy when they're having a bad day? Have you ever been around them when they're vulnerable? What do they stand for?

How do they handle themselves? What are their morals? Do they have any life goals, and if so, what are they? What's the best thing that's ever happened to them?

What is their family life like? Where do they come from, and what does it say about where they're going? What makes them, well, them?

Don't try to be with someone you feel the need to put on your best dress and full face of makeup on for. Be with someone who makes you feel like the most beautiful person in the world when you're wearing sweatpants and a bun in your hair.

Don't be with someone who makes your heart race a mile a minute when they're near you. Be with someone who provides you with a sensation of warmth and comfort – a sign of trust.

Don't be with someone who only cares about the fancy dinner dates and fancy car rides (though there's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying these things in addition to other things *hint, hint*).

Be with someone you can have backyard Nerf water gun fights, with followed by marshmallow roasts in Autumn.

Don't be with someone who causes you to lose your ability to speak. Be with someone that you can talk to for hours on end with, without a single dull moment.

Don't be with your "50 Shades of Grey" fantasy. Be with your real life best friend.

Now I'm not trying to say that physical attraction has no importance whatsoever; there's no problem with being physically attracted to your significant other (I mean hello, I'm quite gorgeous not gonna lie).

But, as they say in Elena Undone, an all-time favorite movie of mine, "Don't mistake the attraction to the physical with the yearning of the soul."