Just now my phone is blowing up with texts from a friend.
We were on her phone the other day scrolling through a dating app when we saw a familiar face. It was the boyfriend of another friend of mine. We decided to swipe right to see if he was still active on it or not.
Sure enough, she was texting me that they matched. He had swiped right on her, ensuring us that he was still an active participant in dating apps.
And I'm not shocked at all.
Dating is a challenge in this generation because of social media, so I'm not surprised it's not working for him either. The issue is that there's always something shinier and prettier around us, and since we grew up hearing how special we were, we believe we deserve the best.
We think if we just stick to one person and accept their flaws, we're settling. Or we think that one person is great and all but why choose one when there are so many options?
As long as dating apps keep growing and our dependency on them as well, we will always keep searching. Because what if the next person you swipe on is the one? What if your perfect partner is just three swipes away? Or even 100 swipes away?
We won't know unless we keep swiping.
So, this leaves us in a predicament. We can continue swiping, picking out the flaws in each new swipe. Or we can choose monogamy, be content for awhile, but then notice things we don't like and start looking around.
Because what if we're missing out on "the one" by being with this one.
I don't have a solution for this growing plight, just more of a statement. If we keep treating each other as "swipes" instead of humans, monogamy will only continue to deteriorate.