Dyeing My Hair Doesn't Change My Personality, It's Just Part Of The Change

Dyeing My Hair Doesn't Change My Personality, It's Just Part Of The Change

Changing your appearance is a way to express yourself, and that is why I do it.

I grew up constantly hearing my mother and others tell me to never dye my hair, that people pay a lot of money to get their hair to look like my natural color. For years, I took pride in that and believed that I shouldn’t change it. Adding to that trend, I then never cut it. For years, I had the same long blonde hair.

Then, last year I decided to cut it shorter, just past my shoulders, and dye it red.

To be fair to myself, I had wanted to do it for a while, but every time I brought it up, I got a similar reaction, that I shouldn’t change my hair. When asked why I wanted to change it, I never had a straight answer, but I started to understand that I didn’t need one.

Sure, I have influences, like my favorite Disney princess, but overall, I just wanted a change. It was the beginning of my sophomore year, I was finally feeling a sense of independence, and there was no reason not to.

I was also pleasantly surprised when people liked it. Changing your appearance might not always seem like a big deal, but it affects almost everything in your life.

In my case, it gives me a chance to be more myself.

That may sound weird to some people, “you change yourself to be yourself?”, but when you’ve lived your whole life looking a certain way, it can morph into your identity. I believe I used my hair as a kind of safety blanket. It was long enough that I could cover my face or entire back, so by cutting it and dyeing it a color that is harder to ignore, I gave myself a kind of confidence boost.

I don’t like a lot of attention, but it is nice to be noticed or get a compliment sometimes. My hair is no longer a way for me to hide, but a way for me to stand out and lessen my anxiety. If I feel like people are looking at me, I just imagine it’s because of my hair.

I am not the quickest to embrace change, in fact, I’ve proven myself quite stubborn, but I feel like dyeing my hair is the smallest way to make the biggest impact on my life. Since I started dyeing my hair, I feel more willing to try new things, like meeting new people or allowing myself to be challenged.

I don’t think changes in my personality or identity necessarily derive from dyeing my hair; I think dyeing my hair is a part of the change.

Changing your appearance is a way to express yourself, and that is why I do it. I want to show myself, and others, a different side of me and a new stage in my life.

My hair, or any part of my appearance for that matter, doesn’t define me, doesn’t change the fact that I’m me. It’s just hair, but it is my hair.

Cover Image Credit: Brandy Clymer

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyphs means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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California Is Officially Banning Animal Testing, This Is A Hop In The Right Direction

What many people fail to realize is that cruelty-free makeup is a huge deal to animal rights activists because of the terrible things that occur to the animals that are being used.


As of September 4th, 2018, California became the first state to ban animal testing for beauty products. The ban will be in full effect after 2020, but this is a huge hop in the right direction for animal rights activists and animal-friendly beauty lovers alike.

Although plenty of brands have gone cruelty-free, the vast majority of companies still test their products on animals before releasing them to consumers. This is obviously problematic and an example of how we as humans tend to treat the lives of animals as if they aren't worth as much as a human life. What many people fail to realize is that cruelty-free makeup is a huge deal to animal rights activists because of the terrible things that occur to the animals that are being used.

First off, these animals are often in captivity for their entire lives, and contrary to popular belief are not just rodents and bunnies; plenty of puppies end up being tested on as well, particularly beagles because of their size and relatively passive nature.

Plenty of animals have been killed after having products tested on them, but the methods are rarely humane, especially after the torture the animals must deal with in order to be test subjects.

Beauty product testing is often done on the skin to see if it reacts well or causes a reaction. In many cases, a reaction does occur, leaving these animals to deal with their condition or be killed in favor of a "clean" test subject.

Hopefully, other states will follow suit and ban animal tested products and put an end to the suffering of these animals. The official bill states that after January 1st, 2020, no products will be sold that were knowingly tested on animals, allowing more transparency between brand and consumer, as opposed to the sometimes tiny and cryptic symbols that have become the norm in telling whether or not a product is cruelty-free.

Remember: until this is in effect, and until all states put it in effect, look for the little bunny symbol on all of your beauty products (or better yet, switch to a vegan brand, such as the Fanciful Fox, Jeffree Star, or Kat Von D) to ensure that your routine is not at the expense of an innocent life.

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