Dyeing My Hair Doesn't Change My Personality, It's Just Part Of The Change

Dyeing My Hair Doesn't Change My Personality, It's Just Part Of The Change

Changing your appearance is a way to express yourself, and that is why I do it.

I grew up constantly hearing my mother and others tell me to never dye my hair, that people pay a lot of money to get their hair to look like my natural color. For years, I took pride in that and believed that I shouldn’t change it. Adding to that trend, I then never cut it. For years, I had the same long blonde hair.

Then, last year I decided to cut it shorter, just past my shoulders, and dye it red.

To be fair to myself, I had wanted to do it for a while, but every time I brought it up, I got a similar reaction, that I shouldn’t change my hair. When asked why I wanted to change it, I never had a straight answer, but I started to understand that I didn’t need one.

Sure, I have influences, like my favorite Disney princess, but overall, I just wanted a change. It was the beginning of my sophomore year, I was finally feeling a sense of independence, and there was no reason not to.

I was also pleasantly surprised when people liked it. Changing your appearance might not always seem like a big deal, but it affects almost everything in your life.

In my case, it gives me a chance to be more myself.

That may sound weird to some people, “you change yourself to be yourself?”, but when you’ve lived your whole life looking a certain way, it can morph into your identity. I believe I used my hair as a kind of safety blanket. It was long enough that I could cover my face or entire back, so by cutting it and dyeing it a color that is harder to ignore, I gave myself a kind of confidence boost.

I don’t like a lot of attention, but it is nice to be noticed or get a compliment sometimes. My hair is no longer a way for me to hide, but a way for me to stand out and lessen my anxiety. If I feel like people are looking at me, I just imagine it’s because of my hair.

I am not the quickest to embrace change, in fact, I’ve proven myself quite stubborn, but I feel like dyeing my hair is the smallest way to make the biggest impact on my life. Since I started dyeing my hair, I feel more willing to try new things, like meeting new people or allowing myself to be challenged.

I don’t think changes in my personality or identity necessarily derive from dyeing my hair; I think dyeing my hair is a part of the change.

Changing your appearance is a way to express yourself, and that is why I do it. I want to show myself, and others, a different side of me and a new stage in my life.

My hair, or any part of my appearance for that matter, doesn’t define me, doesn’t change the fact that I’m me. It’s just hair, but it is my hair.

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8 Summer Time Struggles You'll Only Understand If You're Whiter Than Mayonnaise

A jar of mayonnaise could get a tan easier than me.

With Spring and Summer around the corner, everyone is slowing trading in their thick layers and boots for daisy dukes and tank tops. We are quite literally shedding our winter coats. It is truly a great time of the year. But for some, it is not as great as it is for others. I'm talking about all my pale people out there. If you find yourself paperwhite, immune to tanning, pasty AF, and most likely covered in freckles, then this article is for you.

Now, even though the sun is my mortal enemy, I still love the warmer seasons because I am not the devil. But, with warmer weather, us pale folks have a few struggles that seem to happen each year, no matter how hard we try to prevent it.

1. You can't wear a swimsuit without blinding every unfortunate soul that sees you

^ Everyone after you take off your cover-up to reveal your blindingly pale stomach (and rest of your body).

I can't go swimming without one person commenting on how pale my thighs and stomach are. I get it; I look like the Pillsbury Dough Boy.

^ In case you needed a visual, this is the Pillsbury Dough Boy, AKA me.

2. You HAVE to wear 1,000,000,000,000 SPF sunscreen

Because if you don't you will be set on fire by the sun and die. No exaggeration.

3. You don't tan you just get more freckles

It looks like an entire constellation of stars is mapped out on my face by the end of the summer.

4. Your sunburns NEVER fade into a tan

You would hope that after being burned to a crisp you would at least get a tan in the end. But no, you are wrong if you ever hope for such fantasies.

5. People constantly compare their new, golden tan to your pasty pale skin

^ Me every time after someone holds up their beautifully tanned arm to my translucent arm. Yes, you are tanner than me, but so is a napkin.

6. Fake tans are not as promising as they seem

To look like a Cheeto or a piece of paper? Neither are ideal options.

7. You are the "pale friend" of your friend group

^ Me every time my friends start to complain about their tan lines.

8. You are too pale for some swimsuits

Some colors are just not going to look good up against paper, pale skin, especially when so much of that pale skin is visible.

But in the end, you just have to embrace your luminous skin and not care that you look like Casper the friendly ghost — because everyone is beautiful in their own way!!! (Sorry for the sap.)

Now go put on some sunscreen.

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Natural Does Not Have To Be A Hassle

Tips on how to achieve perfect natural hairstyles in less time.

Having curly hair in college can be a struggle sometimes. Each morning consist of find clothes and spending an hour or more in the mirror trying to detangle and moisturize your curls for the perfect style. My fellow naturalist, it can all be so easy with 5 simple tips:

Tips 1: The tangle is real!

If your hair gets tangled while you sleep try LottaBody and twisting your hair into sections at night. When you wake up your hair will be detangled and it will cut your hair time by minutes since the twisting method will also reduce shrinkage.

Tip 2: Shea doesn’t have any moisture.

Find the best product for your hair. Just because it's name brand hair product, does not guarantee that it will work best for your hair. Everyone hair is different, so the better you learn your hair the easier it will be to get your perfect hairstyle on the first try.

Tip 3: Time is money.

Try waking up 30 mins earlier. Waking up early may be a hassle but consider your hair as a new relationship. In every relationship, you must put the time in to get to know each other better. Waking up will allow you more time for changes and laying each piece of hair perfectly. Once you learn your hair you can sleep longer and doing your hair will take less time.

Tip 4: H.2.O.

Water is always your best friend. When it comes to your hair, water is your pencil and pen. It is used for creating and fixing mistakes. Applying water to your hair can be tricky. Find the balance between avoiding shrinkage while having hydrated hair. Every natural lady needs a spray bottle. Life without a spray bottle is basically an unfulfilled life.

Tip 5: Curls that could kill.

Try a new style the night before to see how your hair will fall and be placed. Practice makes perfect. Utilize your bobby pins because they will make your life so much easier and make your style choice unlimited. Don’t be afraid to try different creative styles. Your hair, your curls, are your crown! Wear it with style.

These five simple tips can help any naturalist on her journey to loving her curls and cut minutes off their morning routine.

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