When You Know, You Know

When You Know, You Know

You don't believe the saying until you actually find the one.

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Growing up girls fantasize about finding the love of our life. We dream, even if we don't want to admit it, about finding our "night in shining armor", our "prince charming", the most perfect guy we can think of. As we get older we get curious.

The butterflies in our stomach become so strong we want to follow those feelings into every crush we have, hoping maybe he/she will be the one. With falling in love one after another we here the saying from our support system, "When you know, you know".

I had never quite understood or even believed in that saying. I wanted to so bad, but when you get burned too many times it becomes harder to follow those butterflies. I have had two serious relationships in my life.

My high school love, man that feels like a whole other life, and he taught me pain that I never thought I'd have to deal with at such a young age.

Then in my second year in college, I found one, who I thought would be my last butterfly chase, but I was wrong. He taught me pain, but he also helped me find myself again. Each big and small relationship we have in our lives teaches us something, and that is a silver lining I always try to find.

We may not think of the day or situation that happened every single day. Eventually, it becomes old news, but we remember it most when we help another friend who is going through a heartbreak.

It took me a very long time to trust someone again, and trust me it's okay to still think about the important loves. The main ones who were a huge part of your life and who put you through the worst. It's impossible to completely block them out because that will only hurt us more in the end.

As long we learn and never go back to someone who treated us so terribly then we are on the right path. As long as you are able to pick yourself back up and prove that they did not break you, that you are stronger for going through that pain, then you are winning. Time does heal, but it will take a while. You may not ever think you're gonna be able to open up again.

I promise you though that when the right person comes into your life it'll feel like you can't hold anything back.

I have been in a relationship for 6 months now, I know some of you are wondering why I'm writing this if it's only been 6 months, but I knew it was him the first time we hung out. The first time he got in my car. The first time I looked into his eyes I knew he was the one. It was the weirdest but best feeling in the whole world. I hung out with him two days later, and when he left I literally said to myself, "well shit this wasn't supposed to happen".

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It wasn't supposed to happen. I had started school again and my goals were to focus on myself, my grades, make some money, and then he showed up. I saw this quote on Pinterest a few days later and I laughed so loud when I read it, "I found you when I was trying to find myself". Now I don't know who said that, but man did it fit the situation so well.

I had never felt these type of butterflies before, and I loved that feeling. I had never been so open so fast before and that scared me, in the best way. I could look into his eyes and see so much. I could see so much that I could never "just see" with the others.

I had always dreamed of my future with the others, but with him, it was so weird! It was as if I could actually see my future and he was there. No forcing of my imagination, no wishing, and no asking. He was just there doing things that I loved without me even asking.

He amazes me still today. Going on 6 months, and he never stops trying. Going on 6 months and I've already been through so much with him. Being an adult is hard and man is we realizing it, but we never argue.

We talk it through at that moment when things are getting tense. He never lets me go to bed upset, and he asks me if I'm doing okay when he can tell something is wrong.

Even when I have my moments where something is wrong, but I can't think of the words to express it, he just holds me and tries his best to make me laugh. He always tries, and that is the newest/best thing for me.

I have thought to myself, "what did I do to deserve this man?" Then I remember all of the past relationships and shit I went through, and I thank the universe for him every day.

Every time I questioned something, this was the universe's plan all along. It is so comfortable to be completely free around someone you are so connected with. The feeling of never having to try to be pretty, try to dress up, try to keep a smile all of the time, try to keep your cool in a stressful situation. It just feels so right.

The butterflies flew me straight into this relationship that I didn't see coming. I couldn't thank them enough though. I wake up every day thankful that I have someone who cares about me on all levels.

I wake up every day so happy that I have my person. My one. My best friend. Six months in, and I can see it all. They were right; when you know, you know. Don't ever settle... because it is real.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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The Cliche 'Follow Your Heart' Is Probably The Most Important Cliche Of All Time

Our heart or our brain? What should we listen to first?

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In life, we are constantly faced with tough decisions concerning relationships, college, career, marriage … the list of decisions we must make in a lifetime is endless. This means, however, that there are plenty of moments in our life where we will put into question our very own intuition, where we will waste time going back and forth between our mind and our soul. So then we ask ourselves when faced with a decision, what do we listen to? What should we listen to? Our brain or our heart?

Yeah, okay so following your heart is probably the most cliche thing you've ever heard. Our younger selves constantly heard the saying all the time growing up. Did we act on it? Maybe, but not in the ways that we should be acting on it now. Give it a chance and just think about it for a second.

I've realized that as you get older, it becomes harder to just listen to yourself. There are distractions all around you. Some come from the comments of your peers, some come from the devices in your hands, some come from the news headlines you see in bold. With this, you find yourself struggling to find a balance between thinking about something and just doing it. You find yourself unable to decipher what exactly you should listen to. You suddenly become lost within your own little world.

Who would you be if you didn't follow your heart? Would your life be completely different than it is now?

If we think about how we got to the place we're at today, we simultaneously also think about those decisions I mentioned earlier. And those decisions were probably mostly made from our own intuition, not from logistical thinking. The sad part is we don't even realize this, and we don't even realize how important this is.

How did you choose a college? Deciding where you're going to spend the next four years of your life, working towards a career is a big deal. Some will describe their decision as a feeling they got when they stepped on campus. Yes, the tuition was a factor along with retention rates and undergraduate programs and study abroad opportunities, but the one factor that truly mattered was how they felt so at home, while in reality being so far away from their hometown. So, this decision was made from a feeling, this decision was made from the heart.

Relationships. When deciding to tell someone you love them, you're following your heart. When deciding to commit to someone in a relationship or in a friendship or whatever it may be, you're following your heart. You're putting everything on the line because of how you feel. Nothing else matters. Just the two of you, together, happy and in love. And because of that, because of the magnitude of that one feeling, you listen to your heart first and figure out everything else later. Now, being able to have that, being able to experience this type of love, well that's just one of the best feelings in the world.

We can even consider a career. When trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, you are looking for that feeling, for that career to find you. You are searching for that inevitable inclination telling you, you're meant to do something in this world. You dream big imagining yourself doing this one job that you feel so passionately about, changing the world and inspiring others to do the same. You are motivated by this one field so much that you decide to do it for the rest of your life. If that's not following your heart, then I don't know what is.

It seems so obvious. We hear "follow your heart" all the time. But do we ever actually realize how much impact a heart can have on one's life? No. And that's why it's maybe not so obvious. Because we're told to follow our hearts, but we never actually take the time to comprehend it. And so, we live our lives letting this concept of intuition before cognition become underrated. We let it secretly impact some of our most important life decisions without even ever realizing it.

So realize it. From now on don't just listen. Act. Follow your heart as much as you can and never look back.

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