I know that New Years resolutions are a thing that nobody really ever gets accomplished, but I feel if we looked at them differently things would get done. Instead of always setting the goal of "losing weight" or "Finding love", because those are very vague and big steps to take. I feel if you take the subgoals to get to that goal, your resolutions would be accomplished like you wanted. It would also help if people would stop making fun of others for wanting to make goals for the new year. They say that people who have goals and stick them are more successful than those who don't have goals. Usually the people who don't have goals work for the people that do. So if you need some inspiration here are three goals that I plan on working on this year.

1. Loving myself to a better potential.

I have written articles in the past explaining why I decided to love myself. Well friends, I actually have gone downhill from there. My mental health this year was as bad as its been in a while. It wasn't as bad as it was last year I can say that. I often have these random fits of depression and hating myself. It was its worst the week before and week of finals where I was stressed and ready to go home. I don't enjoy being sad and down on myself because I know somewhere in my body that I deserve it. My worst enemy is comparing myself to other girls, especially girls who are thin. I've always wanted to be thin there's no doubt about it, but I want to be thin because finding clothes for my size is hard. I want to be able to go shopping without having a mental breakdown essentially. But in order for me to understand that it's not my size that matters its whats inside my heart matters. Which in this case is the potential to love myself and who I am. So I am hoping this year that I can actually convince myself that I am worth love and worth it.

2. Becoming healthy and fit.

This goal ties in with the first one a little bit, but loving myself is the first step. I don't want to be thin although that would be nice. I want to be fit, I want to have carved out muscles and I want to be healthy. I want the muscles because well I am in a drum core and without muscles you can't do anything. I do have this weird undeniable amount of strength in my body that I cannot control. What bothers is me is that I don't look like what I put out there. I often get comments said to me like "Well I didn't know you were that strong because looking at you, you don't look it." or when it comes to my crazy immense flexibility I get "Looking at you, you don't look that flexible." and I should take those as compliments but I feel any normal person wouldn't. I feel highly offended actually. So my goal is just to be fit and lose a few pounds for my health and my bad knees.

3. Standing up for myself and being able to say 'no'.

Ever since I can remember I have never been able to tell someone 'no'. One reason is because I feel guilty if I do not help that person or I feel they would be mad at me. I usually get used and walked all over and I let it happen unfortunately. I let people run my life and I let them treat me like absolute crap. Well, I can't let this happen anymore because I am my own person and I should be able to say 'no' to you if I need to. Nobody really truly understands how draining it is to always be there for people but when you need something in return, they disappear. Or they turn around and tell you, the person who can't say no, and has been doing everything, no. It's getting really old and I am ready to be my own person and do what I please.