A Week Post-Valentine’s Day

A Week Post-Valentine’s Day

A post-Valentine’s Day note to all those ‘single’ guys and gals out there

Valentine’s Day; some call it the most pointless holiday to ever exist, some call it a marketing gimmick to promote sales, some even call it a hoax, but there are some that call it…well, a day of love.

HOW???? I used to ask my self that too.

What does it really matter that you were single for this Valentine’s Day? Or, better yet, what does it really that you’ve been single for every Valentine’s day that you’ve lived through? Society thrives on the fact that Valentine’s Day is about love, but only about loving your significant other. Make sure you buy the roses, the chocolate, the champagne!!!! Why do WE think that Valentine’s Day is only about loving the person you sleep next to? What about our parents, friends, family, siblings, colleagues, and so on?

Regardless of my relationship status, I have never been the biggest fan of Valentine’s Day. There has just always been something about Cupid striking someone with his ‘magic love arrow’ that never sat well with me. Unrealistic in my personal opinion. But, turns out February 14th had the potential to be different than what I always knew it to be. And, probably different too for all of you other quote-on-quote single folks out there.

I checked Instagram, as I do every few hours regardless of the day of the week or the month of the year, I’m always checking Instagram, but today was Valentine’s Day and I was prepared to see EVERY COUPLE I know post pictures of themselves and their significant others. After scrolling and scrolling and scrolling through photos of couples kissing in the pool, kissing on top of a mountain, and even kissing through the phone (don’t ask) I FINALLY came across something that was worth reading, worth my while. It was by a New York City photographer and blogger, Drew Jessup. I’m a huge fan of this guy’s work and style, he deserves to be on the cover of GQ some day, seriously. He’s a legend.

The photo posted to Drew’s Instagram was of his best friend and new fiancé (Drew took the photo of them) and the caption read:

“A big happy day to all my lovers out there. Even single I love Valentines day. I don’t think there’s anything more important than finding your person/your partner/your best friend. If you’ve found someone worth celebrating today my hats off to you two and make me excited to celebrate the holiday rightfully with a Valentine of my own someday. I’m constantly spoiled with couples in my life who share such magnetic love to constantly remind me what it means. These two above, who are two people I love dearly, are great examples of that and I had the honor of shooting their engagement photos on Sunday. Love love and keep fighting for it – it is always worth it. Happy V day <3”

So, 5:01 PM on Valentine’s Day I rushed to the card store and purchased a card for my parents (slim pickings as you could imagine) but it served its purpose and sent the message I wanted to send. I love my parents and they are both credited for the man I am today. Then, I decided a card wasn’t enough (I was feeling super ambitious and grateful at the time) and I went to the liquor store. I bought my mom her favorite bottle of vino and my dad a new bourbon to add to his collection, I was content, and both of my parents were super appreciative and thankful, not for the cards or booze, but for me. That was a nice feeling. I also texted all my close friends a nice message that evening as well, they deserved to know I care about them, and that my world would be completely different without them.

My point isn’t to buy your parents booze and text your pals, my point is exactly what Drew wrote; love love and when its found, embrace it. But, until then don’t hate on your friends or relatives that are happily in love, don’t envy anyone who has a significant other. For the time-being just be content with what you have, that’s why I did what I did for my parents and my friends. It may not have been much, but they’re all apart of my life and I happen to love them as well.

Don’t worry about being single for V Day, our time will come.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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15 Steamy Summer Date Ideas That Won't Burn Through Your Bank

Don't let date night get repetitive this summer...


With a new season, comes new opportunities for super fun date ideas to keep your love life fresh and fun. I'm sure your favorite brunch place is great, but why not take advantage of the beautiful weather and try out some new things with your significant other this summer?

1. Go to the farmers market.

There is something so refreshing about walking through a farmers market. How could you not be happy when surrounded by fresh fruit, coffee stands, and live music? This is such an easy way to get some sunshine and grab some AMAZING food. My farmers market used to have everything from freshly pressed lemonade to waffle sandwiches. If you want to take the date a step further, find a recipe before you go, and buy fresh ingredients to cook a yummy dinner together later that night.

2. Tie-dye matching T-shirts.

Tie-dye is messy, so take advantage of the beautiful weather and head outside where things can get as messy as you want! What a cute little date souvenir too!

3. Late night ice cream run.

Ice cream is cool and everything, but something about ice cream in the middle of the night seems way more adventurous than a mid-day scoop. And the only time of the year that its going to be warm enough out to get ice cream late at night is, of course, summer!

4. Draw with chalk.

Honestly, your possibilities with this are pretty endless. Drawing contests, hop-scotch, make a masterpiece together, whatever your heart desires. Bring a speaker and maybe some bubbles too while you're at it, sometimes embracing our inner child is a necessary, grounding experience.

5. Throw a barbecue.

Who says spending time together is limited to only the two of you? Cooking together for your friends can be great bonding time too. Invite the crew and spend the afternoon outside at a park or in a backyard. Bring some music and maybe some activities like frisbee or kickball and enjoy some beautiful social time.

6. Take partner dance lessons.

Salsa, tango, swing, rumba, foxtrot, your opportunities are endless. Nobody is saying you have to be good, but how fun will it be to have some new moves to show off next time you and your friends go out dancing or to a concert?

7. Float down a river.

Go with just the two of you or bring some friends, either way, this is a perfect way to spend a few hours out in the sun while staying cool in the water!

8. Take your dogs to the dog park.

Parks are already fun, but when they're full of dogs they're about a million times better! Also, who doesn't love watching their significant other play with puppies?!? It doesn't get cuter than that.

9. Go cliff jumping.

In a safe spot, of course! You know what they say, you should do something that scares you every day...

10. Go on a road trip

A road trip is perfect because it's not as huge of a commitment as going on a real vacation together, but it's still a good little getaway where you are sure to bond a ton. You will have the whole car ride to talk and jam out to each other's favorite songs, how could that not be a grand time?

11. Get artsy and do a photoshoot.

Even if you're not a photographer, its kind of fun to get creative with a camera! Pick a spot somewhere nearby with cool scenery (try golden hour for extra gorgeous photos) and be each other's models. It will be a nice simple date, plus you will get some good Insta content!

12. Go to a sports game.

Plan ahead and get some tickets to go see a sports game in your town or one nearby! Sports games have such a fun upbeat atmosphere, plus fun food, and they're a good excuse to get decked out in fun fan gear!

13. Go mini golfing.

SUCH a cute and fun date idea. Mini-golfing dates never fail to bring out peoples silly sides. Why not make it a competition? Loser buys ice cream for the two of you when you're finished.

14. Go rollerblading.

OK, this one scares me personally, but for anyone with the athletic ability to attempt this, I fully encourage (and envy) you! What cuter sight to see than the two of you holding hands gliding down the city walk together? Just please wear your pads!

15. Have a car wash.

I don't mean go to the car wash together! I mean break out the speaker, the buckets, the sponges, the hose, and get soapy and silly together in the sun. Who knew cleaning could be so much fun?!

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