How I Grew Up in College

College Changed Me In a Great Way

That's me with my two bff's.


I reflected on a lot of things recently. One night, I was just lying on my bed, listening to Ariana Grande (you know, the usual) when a thought came up. I can't quite put into words the thought that led me into the reflection, only that I was having a whole world inside my head, and Ari just happened to be on. Leaving me alone with my thoughts means time wherein I think just about anything. I found myself pondering on love.

Don't ask me about romantic love because ya girl doesn't have a solid clue, but I do know something about that friendship type of love. It's the one that made me grow into a happier version of myself: someone who knows her worth (princess bish!), who embraced her creativity and type of intelligence- even if it wasn't in STEM, who loved everyone. I loved everyone because they made it easy to spread happiness. 2011-me, high-school-freshman-me, never thought this type of happiness existed. She was shy and quiet, but she found friends who loved her and helped her grow. 2018-me, college-senior-me, sees the difference.

Yeah, yeah, I'm cheesy- I know. Of course, there have been times when I doubted myself.

There were moments when I grew upset over rejection emails, telling myself that just from the introductory "thank you for your time..." that it was a rejection email. These started to bug me, but reason told me that at least I tried. Being in college has taught me to be more patient that way. The friends I've made, and the friendships that strengthened (hi Bes <3), not only made me happy but they also empowered me. They encouraged me to try out for things that I never thought I would ever do, like auditioning for the Filipino cultural night's play. I know I surrounded myself with the right people when I saw how genuine they were, and how influential they were with their acts.

I grew in that I became more adventurous, more caring towards myself and others, more loving, and more patient. I grew to want to expand on creativity, seeing that I'm happier when I get to work with colors. There was so much I wanted to love, but rejections/failures came to tell me I couldn't. I think I became better at accepting this, though. I put on a strong face because I turned these negativities to humor, accepting that I can't physically do anything to change the circumstance but time and experience helped me twist them to be more positive and lighthearted.

It only took about some twenty years for me to find incredible happiness.

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These Are 4 Proven Ways That Vaccines Cause Autism

Stock up on those essential oils.


Let's just start with the first (and main) point.

1. They don't.

Susan in your anti-vax group is not a scholarly source (despite her hours and hours of Google research).

2. But in case you still believe Susan...

Maybe you'll believe Autism Speaks who says, "Scientists have conducted extensive research over the last two decades to determine whether there is any link between childhood vaccinations and autism. The results of this research is clear: Vaccines do not cause autism."

3. And if Autism Speaks still didn't convince you...

Feel free to take a look at this comprehensive list of studies that all say that there is no relationship between vaccines such as the MMR vaccination and the development of autism.

4. But here's what you should know...

There have been a few studies lately that have shown that autism develops in utero aka before a baby is even born AND before a baby can even receive vaccinations.

Vaccinations have prevented COUNTLESS deaths and illnesses. Vaccination rates are continuing to fall and do you know what that means? Measles will make its way back. Whooping cough will come back. Rubella, mumps, and polio will come back and there will be no way to stop it.

So, now that you know that vaccines do not cause autism, you're welcome to go tell Susan from your anti-vax group that as well as tell her that the Earth isn't flat. But, don't forget to mention it to her that her essential oils and organic foods are not keeping her children safe from the measles or tuberculosis.

Vaccinate your children. And, besides, even IF vaccinations caused autism, wouldn't you rather have a child with a developmental disorder rather than a child who died from the measles?

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.


When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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