We Continue to Evolve

We Continue to Evolve

Become the best version of yourself


Evolution comes in many forms and can result in many different outcomes. Evolving is a form of change but what isn't always realized is change also means discarding what isn't necessary. As humans, the body learns to internally evolve. We used to need our appendix to break down difficult foods, now it is a mass which resides in our flesh and serves absolutely no function. That pink part from the corner of your eye, that used to be a third eyelid, we see how much we use that nowadays. The generational movement from technology is happening here and now whether you like it or not so either get on board or be left behind. Now think about how much you have changed over the last year from things which at one point you thought were so important. Friendships, relationships, family, school, work… some have changed, and some have not budged but we are different because of those outcomes and we learn to evolve under the circumstances.

With all that being said, we don't really "need" the things which we thought at one point were crucial to exist. Now don't read this and immediately think that you can stop eating healthy or quit your job and a new one will just pop up. I for one have always thought that I could be better, and that self-conscious attitude is what pushes me to succeed, better grades, better looks, better attitude, etc. Others may need a pat on the back and told they are the best, and in some cases, people just need to be left alone to see what they want. Whatever we do to succeed is what we have evolved into doing. It is how the "bad kids" became bad and the "goody two shoes" learnt their manners. It is the environment we grew up in going hand in hand with the people we surround ourselves with and it turns us into well… who we are.

Imagine growing up in a house where you are loved and cared for and praised on a daily basis, you will most likely be happy and spontaneous, trying to achieve more and striving to constantly get a pat on the back. Now flip that and think about being raised in a house of horror. Screaming and yelling. Being reminded of your flaws and told you will amount to nothing. You will most likely turn into the stereotypes. You will drown your emotions and do whatever you can to block out the voices eating away in your mind. It is a scary game because 6/10 kids are brought up in a household which falls smack dab in the middle of these two outcomes and it results in confusion, anger, desperation, depression, anxiety, stress, none of which will bring on happiness. It is no single person's fault and there is no blame to hand out because everyone would be red carded at that point.

So how do we cope with this cluelessness which most millennials have sadly fallen into the cycle of? The obvious answer which most people say is do whatever makes you happy… I wouldn't fully agree with that statement only because I have seen what too much freedom of happiness can do to people and it is a terrifying image. Drugs, alcohol, medication, it is all just a platform to ignore the issue and enjoy a moment. Not a lifetime. I think the biggest weakness from our generation is accepting part time happiness through distractions and procrastination. We expect that things will work out overtime, so we just live in the moment instead of having a vision for what will come tomorrow. Sometimes the world is overwhelming, and we do need a break. We need our "getaways" and irrational decisions, we are kids after all, what do you expect. But those escapes in reality will cloud our judgement and STOP OUR EVOLUTION. They will push us backwards instead of forwards. They will hold us back from understanding our true function in society.

Evolution can only occur when we allow ourselves to cut out the toxins which have been weighing us down and accept that we can change our lives for the better no matter how we are raised or what anyone tells us. There are billionaires who grew up in poverty. CEO's who founded companies from an idea which spiraled out while they were in the shower. Friendships built up from what was once jealousy or hatred. Love which has blossomed from complete strangers. There is always change but it requires work, patience, visions, and a lot of it. Today could be the worst day of your life, and a year from now it could be the best. We are clueless on what our future holds and when our foundation is shaky, so is our mindset. And that is okay. It is time to rebuild so we can evolve into the best forms of ourselves. It will be one of the hardest things you have ever done. It will call for commitment and trusting yourself more than the voices in your head. Be patient with the process because a bad day can always get worse, if you don't want it to get better. Lose the pessimistic attitude that you don't deserve happiness and build for a better tomorrow.

You cannot rebirth a dead tree, but you can plant a seed and care for the roots to ensure it grows into something you are proud to call yours. Get away from the distractions and focus on evolving yourself into someone you are proud to be.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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In Real Life, 'Plus Size' Means A Size 16 And Up, Not Just Women Who Are Size 8's With Big Breasts

The media needs to understand this, and give recognition to actual plus-size women.


Recently, a British reality dating TV show called "Love Island" introduced that a plus-sized model would be in the season five lineup of contestants. This decision was made after the show was called out for not having enough diversity in its contestants. However, the internet was quick to point out that this "plus-size model" is not an accurate representation of the plus-size community.

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It is so frustrating that the media picks and chooses women that are the "ideal" version of plus sized. In the fashion world, plus-size starts at size 8. EIGHT. In real life, plus-size women are women who are size 16 and up. Plunkett Research, a marketing research company, estimated in 2018 that 68% of women in America wear a size 16 to 18. This is a vast difference to what we are being told by the media. Just because a woman is curvy and has big breasts, does NOT mean that they are plus size. Marketing teams for television shows, magazines, and other forms of media need to realize that the industry's idea of plus size is not proportionate to reality.

I am all for inclusion, but I also recognize that in order for inclusion to actually happen, it needs to be accurate.

"Love Island" is not the only culprit of being unrealistic in woman's sizes, and I don't fully blame them for this choice. I think this is a perfect example of the unrealistic expectations that our society puts on women. When the media tells the world that expectations are vastly different from reality, it causes women to internalize that message and compare themselves to these unrealistic standards.

By bringing the truth to the public, it allows women to know that they should not compare themselves and feel bad about themselves. Everyone is beautiful. Picking and choosing the "ideal" woman or the "ideal" plus-size woman is completely deceitful. We as a society need to do better.

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