How Video Games Have Played A Huge Part In My Life: From Female Eyes

How Video Games Have Played A Huge Part In My Life: From Female Eyes

“Oh so you're a gamer girl” has been uttered to me far to many times to count.

I'll never forget this first time I picked up a gaming controller. I was only four and could barely speak a full sentence, but my brother was bored and decided I was a good second play for his Mario brothers game. As a kid ignorance is bliss, so that's exactly what I thought happened. The reality was one that to many older sibling I'm sure can recount. My brother was actually peacefully trying to beat the level in super Mario while I decided I wanted attention and kept blocking the TV; just generally being an asshole to him. It was all innocent in my eyes because I just wanted the attention of my big brother. He did what any person would do in that situation and got pissed at me for being so rude. (In hindsight he was really close to beating Bowser and I totally ruined it) He yelled for my mom to come and deal with me, but she didn't see a problem. After all I just wanted to spend time with him, so he formulated a plan. A plan that would stick with me for the rest of my life. Instead of shooing me away he handed me a controller. I looked at it in amazement and confusion. After all I was really young and the concept of gaming was brand new to me, so I pleasantly sat down and pressed buttons. He never told me that he didn't plug in my controller, but you just know those things. I'll cherish my time spent laughing and cheering on my big brother in front of that TV, but the love for gaming I took away from the experience is something I will enjoy for a life time.

I eventually graduated from the days of smashing buttons on a dead controller. My brother is quite a bit older than me, and because of that my mother used his gaming systems like hand-me-downs. Which is a really good idea on her part. Seriously, the woman needs a damn medal for the things she does. So when my brother got the new N64 I got his super Nintendo. That was the best day of my child hood. He got an Xbox, I got the N64. I was fine with it because no one cared about having the newest game back then. We couldn't play online with each other so we just had a personal experience with our game. It was much more intimate, so no one cared when they got it, they just wanted to be able to play it. I believe that is part of the reason why games like Mario and Zelda have stayed around so long. The gamer's that have been around since the beginning don't care as much about new graphics and co-op stories if they get a truly good game that makes them feel something.

From the time I was four I held a controller in my hand, and from the time I was six I actually knew how to game. I played a little bit of everything, I had racing games, adventure games, action games, and everything between. For years I never thought about my gender affecting my gaming experience, but like most things in life that didn't last forever. Once online was introduced to the gaming world everything changed.

With the adaptation of using microphones to connect players it also added the pressing matter that your gender would likely be revealed if you ever decided to use a mic while gaming. I didn't think it would matter much when I first got my mic for Call Of Duty. I was in love with the zombies mini game that went along with it. The best way to play was using strategies that could only happen when the team could communicate. If you weren't in the same room as your team the only way to communicate was your headset. This didn't bother me until I was continuously bullied for my gender online. I was hurt to say the least, but like the saying goes 'hell hath no fury like a woman scorned' so I spent months practicing to get my skills up. I was already very adept at gaming, but having a target on my head made it that much harder. I decided to use the anger felt to fuel my motivation for becoming the best gamer I could be. It worked too because I became better than most of the men who initially made fun of me.

Don't get me wrong. I'm all about fair play. If you aren't a good player that just a fact I don't care what your gender is, but assumptions aren't helping anyone. The best remedy for a player that isn't very good in my eyes, is encouragement, tips, and practice. The trend we have with bullying people who aren't as good as you has to stop. The trend going on where people assume females are somehow incapable of playing games at the same level as men has to stop as well.

That being said I've also gotten a lot of respect for my gaming capabilities, some guys have gone out of their way to tell me how impressed they are with my skills. I'm thankful, but I also find it funny because my gender is the only reason they decide to speak up 9 times out of 10. The females who actually enjoy playing games are countless, but you find a lot them scared of going online because of the implications behind being a woman gamer.

I personally don't care what others think of my gaming because its something I've enjoyed doing my whole life. I'm not going to let some negativity ruin my favorite past-time. I think more girls would get into gaming if they didn't feel that there was a stigma behind it. It's a great way to learn new things while having fun, and everyone should be able to enjoy it no matter what gender they are.

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1. Life goes on, with or without you.

2. Don't Worry Be Happy! Bob Marley

3. Be Happy.

4. Be Confident.

5. Be Positive.

6. Don't be a liar, everyone hates a liar.

7. Chillin' with my peeps.

8. Go big or go home.

9. What's the deal?

10. The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it's all that matters.

11. Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

12. Life is a gift.

13. You couldn't handle me even if I came with instructions.

14. Forgive, yes. Forget, never.

15.There's a hole in my heart where you used to be.

16. I don't need any part-time people in my life.

17. Get the gist.

18. Boy, it's the 21st Century, get with the program.

19. Hey, I just met you, this is crazy!

20. I woke up like this.

21. Keep smiling because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.

22. Beauty is power, a smile is its sword.

23. Last day of class!

24. I donut care!

25. Got my donut and coffee today.

26. Happy as a clam

27. Beach days are the best!

28. A friend will always make you smile, especially when you don't want to…

29. Always classy, never trashy, and a little bit sassy.

30. If only we could turn back time...

31. With you, I forget all my problems. With you, time stands still.

32. Life's a climb, but the view is great.

33. "Ohana, means family, family means no one gets left behind or forgotten." — "Lilo & Stitch"

34. We come to love by not finding the perfect person, but by learning to see the imperfect person perfectly.

35. If I ever write a story about my life, don't be surprised if your name appears a billion times.

36. She's got that red lip, classic thing going on.

37. I don't know what's tighter, our jeans or our friendship!

38. Best friends make good times better and hard times easier!

39. Not sure what I did to deserve you as my best friend :)

40. I don't need your approval to be me.

41. So call me? Maybe?

42. "I am who.I am, I am what I am, I do what I do and I ain't never gonna do it any different. I don't care who likes it and who don't." — Buck Owens

43. Take me as I am, or watch me as I go.

44. "Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars." — Ed Sheeran

45. Cause you're a sky full of stars — Coldplay

46 . I keep dancing on my own — Calum Scott

47. Can't keep my hands to myself — Selena Gomez

48. I just want to look good for you — Selena Gomez

49. Kill em with kindness — Selena Gomez

50. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. But when I say sorry… I mean it!

51. Me? Weird? Please! I am limited edition!

52. Turn that frown upside down.

53. Smile, it's the best thing a girl can wear!

54, Stay true.

55. Laughing is the best medicine you can ever get!

56. "You're the king, baby I'm your queen." — Taylor Swift

57. Best Friends Forever!

58.Throwing it back to the good ole days!

59. Ugg Life.

60. I know you like, first-name-basis.

61. *Sends selfie to NASA cuz I'm a star*

62. Basic white girl.

63. Frisky Friday!

64. My thoughts are stars that I cannot fathom into constellations. — "The Fault In Our Stars"

65. "Maybe our okays will be our infinities." — The Fault In Our Stars

66. So hold onto me because I'm a little unsteady — Unsteady

67. This has got to be the best day of my life.

68. She's the beauty and he's the beast.

69. "All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them." — Walt Disney

70. "If you can dream it, you can do it." — Walt Disney

71. "Hakuna Matata, it means no worries for the rest of your days." — "The Lion King"

72. "The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it." — "The Lion King."

73. "Remember you're the one who can fill the world with sunshine." — "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs"

74 ."The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." — "Mulan"

75. "You don't have time to be timid. You must be bold and daring." — "Beauty and the Beast"

76. "All it takes is faith and trust." — "Peter Pan"

77. "A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference." — "Winnie the Pooh"

78. "If you focus on what you left behind, you will never be able to see what lies ahead." — "Ratatouille"

79. "Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself." — George Bernard Shaw

80. "A true hero isn't measured by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart." — "Hercules"

81. "Life's not a spectator sport. If watchin' is all you're gonna do, then you're gonna watch your life go by without ya." — "The Hunchback of Notre Dame"

82. "The things that make me different are the things that make me ME." — "Winnie the Pooh"

83. "Giving up is for rookies." — "Hercules"

84. "Happiness is the richest thing we will ever own." — Donald Duck

85. "Change is good." — "The Lion King"

86. "In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years." — Abraham Lincoln

87. "An unexamined life is not worth living." — Socrates

88. "Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky." — Rabindranath Tagore

89. "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." — Helen Keller

90. "The sky broke like an egg into full sunset and the water caught fire." — Pamela Hansford Johnson

91. "Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success." — Swami Sivananda

92. "Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices. Today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity, but embrace it." — Kevyn Aucoin

93. "Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'," — Audrey Hepburn

94. "Keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you." — Walt Whitman

95. "My power's turned on, starting right now I'll be strong." — Rachel Platten

96. "Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." — Buddha

97. "Let your life lightly dance on the edges of Time like dew on the tip of a leaf." — Rabindranath Tagore

98. "I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'" — Muhammad Ali

99. "Why don't you be you, and I'll be me." — James Bay

100. Life is like a camera, we focus on the positives and develop from the negatives.

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