In life, WE ALL make mistakes. We all say something here and there. But what if someone who you have been so close to calls you "a worthless sack of shit," to their significant other just right after you went out of your way to do this person a favor? Or when someone spills tea about something you didn't want others to know? Or when someone manipulative hurts you? Someone hitting you? Or when someone mocks you and whatever surrounds you? Yeah, these are things that have happened to people I know. Some of these things have also happened to me too. Whatever the case may be, you are not FORCED to forgive someone even when they say, "I'm sorry."
When I dated a drug addict, my father called me a hoe. My mom slapped me for the manipulative things my father was saying about me. And the only one who listened and believed me was my best friend. But because of the actions that my parents made that night, I cannot forgive the actions the people who raised me. I love them, but those things being thrown at me have affected me. I now flinch more constantly and even if the word hoe is used a laughing term, I get offended. Although my guardians, whom I love so much, have said "I'm sorry," them degrading me and thinking of me as less than I am, is something that I will never let go of. It is the lack of trust, and the actions they made that night that make me think twice on what to say and to who I say things to.
Someone at school made fun of me and my mental health. To the person who said that, someone's mental health is something you should not be mocking. How do you call yourself a leader, but laugh at someone just because their friend died? Or because I stay distant from many.
Repenting or saying "sorry, please forgive me" is one thing, but not wanting to do is not mandatory. You are not obligated to forgive someone who has wounded you deeply. And some may thing that having no enemies is better than having any. But although you may forgive, you may not forget. So then you are triggered. Then what?
I have been wounded by many and I don't see the need to forgive those people. The actions people make that hurt you the most are what should be reasons why you should feel obligated to forgive someone. You can grow and learn more of yourself and your values and what to expect from others. You can still let go by forgetting that person. And you can still let go if you respect yourself.
