"I have made the choices that work best for me. I know I cannot please everyone, and that's fine." Marlee Matlin

Why is it we worry so much about pleasing others? Is it for attention? Is it for approval? Is it for love?...What do you think? Most of everyones time involves trying to please others. Always trying to please our friends, parents and bosses. But is it even possible? The answer is simple. No, we can't please everyone. But we can please one person in particular, ourselves.

Throughout history, human beings have always been the ones to want to please others and make others happy. However, over time we have learned that it doesn't work that way. I've spent countless hours trying to please others, that I wound up losing myself and what I found most important. It's great to want to please others, but realistically, it's impossible. Moods are always changing, feelings change, but most importantly people change.

I used to think people couldn't change, but looking back on my life, I realized that I have changed. I've learned to love my wild, crazy self. I've learned who true friends are. I've learned to accept myself and above all, I've learned that life isn't about pleasing everyone else. I spent years of my life trying to please my friends, teachers and family members, but this year has been one of the craziest years yet. Mistakes have been made, I've moved on, you've moved on, life moved on.

I used to strive to please others, never making time for myself and I've learned that if you try to constantly please others and what they want from you, you will never please yourself. Which is sad because our lives are short as is, we shouldn't be worried about what other people say and think about the choices we've made. Everyone makes mistakes. No one in this world is perfect. Not even Beyonce.

People complain, judge, criticize, whisper and plenty more. We can't spend our time worrying about that though. When you've become too focus on living up to other people's standards, you aren't focusing on raising your own standards. So I'll ask again... Why do we as human beings crave the attention of pleasing others?

Because we all want love and we want to receive love. We'll do whatever it takes to gain the attention from doing what others want us to do, but that's not fair to ourselves. I am done pleasing others. I am done worrying about things that shouldn't matter. I refuse to let my happiness die down just to gain approval of my peers. We should ALL let our light shine, don't dull down to make others happy. In the end you'll only be hurting yourself.