Putting the entirety of your trust into someone else can be the most freeing feeling, especially when you've found the right person.
However, trusting somebody else can come up with lots of precautions and repeated behaviors from your past, and once you've bypassed these thoughts and natural reactions, your life can be blissful.
You have to be super cautious about who you can trust. Some people are easy to read, while others have become so talented with covering up their intentions to the point where they cause manipulation and trust issues within their significant others and friends in their life.
After encountering such narcissists and liars, it can be quite difficult to open yourself up again because you might have built up walls to prevent yourself from getting betrayed again.
From my experience, I dated a compulsive liar. It completely threw me for a loop when I realized that a human being could look another human being in the eye and be dishonest, while I was nothing but truthful and respectful. After, I went on a cleanse, a cleanse from dating other men because I really needed some time to heal from manipulative behavior.
Spending time for myself was the best thing I could've done. It taught me a lot about myself and showed me the perks of being independent. I also became more aware of the people I surrounded myself with and learned to trust my intuition.
Fortunately, when I wasn't looking, love found me. The unexpected act that we all see in movies. The BIG word that used to make me roll my eyes because of my history in dating.
I found the one who I could be myself around. The one who I felt compelled to let my walls down. Trusting in him was so instinctual, I felt I didn't have control over it and neither did he.
Of course, completely trusting in someone isn't all strawberries and cream. The process, like many others, took time, but we both communicated to one another and shared our thoughts whenever we felt afraid or felt insecure about something. It might've felt uneasy to bring things up, but in the end, being open helped us grow from a healthy foundation.
You will know when your heart is safe when you find your person or "the one." I can remember when I used to ask my mom growing up how to know if I found the one, and she would just respond with, "You just know."
I get that now, Ma.