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Trust Issues

"If there is no trust, there is no us"


Having people you trust in your life is very important. Whether it’s your friends, members of your family, potential partners, or your actual partners; trust is the key to everything. Not having trust in these people makes your life a lot harder because now you feel that it is necessary to not be yourself and always watch what you say in front of them. Growing up, I never really had trust issues; I felt that I could trust everyone right off the bat. This alone led me to realize not everyone is who they say they are and people change from what they used to be to what they are now because of how they trust people. This led to me having a lot of trust issues in my future. I have indeed lost a lot of friends and partners due to lack of trust. Like everyone usually, I would try and give second chances to them but this is not something you should always be doing. I learned the hard way of giving chances to people who truly don't deserve them and I have learned that people do actually learn from their past in order to create a better future for themselves. When you lose someone due to lack of trust, it creates a consistent negative preconceived notion that you cannot trust everyone no matter who they are. You immediately start doubting everyone in your life because of that one person; it is truly unfair to you and to the people in your life who are actually there for you. Trust is something so easy to gain and so easy to lose at the same time. It is not fair to anyone to give them a reason to doubt your every move and everything you say. The feeling of being trusted by people is a blessing. Not everyone these days are easy to trust so when you have certain people in your life no matter who they are, do not give them a reason to doubt and I am sure they won't either. I felt the need to write this because of the amount of trust issues I have realized that I have had over the years. Keep the ones you trust close to you and the ones you do not trust are not worth your time anymore; do not feel that you always have to give chances to these people in your life because you knew them. Some people are meant to be temporary. I am going to end with a quote but it is unknown who the originator is: "If there is no trust there is no 'us'."

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An Open Letter To My Unexpected Best Friend

You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It's so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it, but suddenly, there right in front of you is everything you ever need."


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can't thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You've taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and, more importantly, adventurous.

You don't realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn't see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can't see my life without you in it. It's funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn't know existed.

I don't even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn't have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the yin to my yang, and I don't care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I've learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It's as if I wished up a best friend, and poof — you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn't trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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10 Fun Things You Should Do With Your College Friends Before Summer

Before your friend from New York heads back home, grab her and enjoy her company while you can.



1. Go on a shopping spree for summer clothes

2. Try out a new restaurant

3. Get matching tattoos (or henna if this is too extreme)

4. Get piercings together

5. Go bowling with a group of friends

6. Go skydiving

7. Go explore a zoo

8. Go on a hiking trail

9. Plan out a weekend to meet over the summer

10. P-A-R-T-Y!!

In college, you meet people from all over the world. Though when you become best friends with those people it is hard to say goodbye when the college year ends. Hopefully, these ideas will help you say goodbye easier (it will definitely be hard but at least you have these memories to hold on too)!


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