Snapchat Was Ruining My Life, So I Got Rid Of It

Snapchat Was Ruining My Life, So I Got Rid Of It

And I'm not logging back in anytime soon.
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After much thought and consideration, I am writing this to let all of you know that my dear friend Snapchat user name isabelleadler56 has been put to rest. I know what all of you are thinking, but contrary to those beliefs, I have never felt better.

At the start of this year, I enrolled in a Technology in the Communication class. First assignment, digital and social media cleanse. I laughed out loud when this was assignment announced. Me, go 24 full hours with no phone, computer, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook and Netflix? HAHA no. Obviously, I bullshitted the assignment and carried on with my normal routine. Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, repeat.

There was a girl in my class who had mentioned that she did not have a Snapchat. I thought this was beyond strange. Like, it's 2017, every millennial has one. I literally thought she was lying when she uttered the words "I do not have a Snapchat." I was like umm..ok..like why tho? But after hearing her response, it all made sense. She said that if someone wanted to have a conversation with her they could text or call her. She said it was a waste and time and energy for her. Damn, she was so deep.

I admired it but ultimately was not willing to let go of my precious Snapchat or any social media for that matter. I went many weeks thinking about what she said, however, was still keeping up with daily technological norms and of course my Snapchat streaks. 621, 554, 321, 223, and 181 were just some of my many snap streaks. I clearly put a lot of time and effort into Snapchat and was not willing to let go of that. But why..? It's just a number, right?

Recently, I've noticed that my bad days were adding up and seemed to be more than my good days. There was always something that either made me anxious or sad. Whenever I was feeling down, I immediately would do is check my Snapchat. As if Snapchat was going to solve all my problems. I would send snaps to people that made it clear I was upset so they would ask me why.

I was just asking for attention in the most deplorable way possible.

I think I would do it impulsively as an excuse as well but recently came to the conclusion that it was the source of my bad days and anxiety.

I thought back on it and realized anytime I felt sad, left out, and/ or anxious was because of what I was seeing. Seeing a snap story of the boy who wouldn't text me back brought me to tears, seeing friends out and knowing I was not invited made me feel like shit, and on top of that I felt like I was not liked when I would send a Snapchat and the person would open it and blatantly not answer. The open arrow on Snapchat drove me to such insanity, I would delete conversations with people to get rid of proof that they did not answer me.

What did I have to prove? That I took nice vacations and ate at good restaurants. I literally could not go anywhere "nice" or "cool" without storying or Snapchatting it. It was pathetic to me. Looking back on it, I was extremely pathetic.

All in all, Snapchat was adding to my mental health issues.

So I thought about it. I thought to get rid of it. If someone wants to talk to you they will call or text you. What did it matter where I had avocado toast and why did I have to take 15 pictures of it in order for it to be story worthy. Also, why was I letting a number define my relationships with people? And on top of that, why was I allowing what other people were doing to influence how I felt not only about myself but how I felt in general.

So I said fuck it and I logged out and deleted the app. AND, I did it on like the most popular snap story week ever. Thanksgiving.

I deleted my Snapchat on the start Thanksgiving break and I have never been more thankful.

Pun intended.

Instead of constantly wanting to send pictures of where I was or what I was doing, I actually just enjoyed where I was and what I was doing. I started to live life without caring as much. I also felt less anxious. I suddenly did not know what 300 of my closest friends were doing every second of every day and something about that was nice. It was relieving.

My little social media cleanse has quite literally changed my life and the way in which I not only see it but live it.

Needless to say, I do not plan on logging back in anytime soon.

The next thing to go? Instagram.

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25 Responses To Your Friend Who Doesn't Text Back

Omg thanks for responding so quickly...oh, wait.
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We all have that friend. That friend we love to death, but if we are sure of anything in this world, it’s that they will not respond to your text because they suck at texting. That moment when you see “Read 1:04 p.m.” and you’re like “and???? Helloooooooo!”

These are 25 responses for that dear friend.

1. Lol thanks for tagging me in that FB post, now text me tf back.


2. OMG, wait you met Chris Hemsworth and he’s professing his love to you??!! No? Okay, then you can def text me back.

3. Hey I’m coming to help you since you obviously broke your thumbs and can’t respond.

4. Lolol thanks for responding. I’ll just continue the conversation with myself. That’s cool.

5. Good chat.

6. Yeah I wouldn’t know how to respond either, pizza topping selection is a thought-provoking process. Take your time. Meditate on it.

7. The classic: ^^^^^^^^^


8. I hope you’re writing me the 8th Harry Potter novel.

9. That was a yes or no question. This isn’t difficult. You wouldn’t do well with ‘Sophie’s Choice.’

10. Omg, did you pass out from the excitement of getting a text from me? Totally understandable. Text me when you regain consciousness, love.

11. Omg what a witty and clever response. Nothing. So philosophical.

12. The only excuse I’ll accept is if you’re eating guac and don’t want to get it on your phone. Because avocados are life.

13. I love it when you do that adorable thing when you don’t text me back for hours. So cute.


14. Okay I’ll answer for you. Yes, you’re going out tonight. Glad we had this convo.

15. In the time it has taken you to respond, dinosaurs could have retaken the earth.

16. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA

17. The dramatic but also very valid response: That’s what happens when you don’t respond for 30 minutes. People die.


18. I apologize for asking if you were coming to watch Bachelor, clearly the decision has caused you serious reflection on your priorities. I’m sorry to have caused you this existential crisis.

19. Sorry I annoyed you with my friendship. But like plz respond…

20. Your response time is longer than Ross and Rachel’s entire relationship. 10 seasons. You couldn’t text me back for 10 seasons?!!

21. Wait. You’re responding too fast. I can’t keep up. Hang on. Don’t respond so quickly. Jeez.

22. A subtle but perfectly placed gif. What will you go with? The classic eye roll perhaps or maybe a “you suck.”


23. Did you fall off a cliff? Wait, you don’t exercise. Pause your Netflix and respond b*tch.

24. Omg I WON THE LOTTERY. *responds* Lol now you respond…

25. And my personal favorite and go to, Did you text me and then decide to THROW YOUR PHONE ACROSS THE OCEAN?! Lol swim fast, I need an answer.

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Should Your Actions At 17 Define Your Life Now? Conservatives Say Yes For Women, No For Brett Kavanaugh

If you don't believe Kavanaugh's actions at 17 should dictate the rest of his life, you shouldn't think that a pregnant 17-year-old's actions should dictate the rest of her's, either.

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Brett Kavanaugh, Donald Trump's (inevitably) controversial pick for the Supreme Court, has been swirling around in the news again since being selected. But this time, it is a little bit less about Kavanaugh now and more about Kavanaugh at the ripe age of 17.

Christine Blasey Ford, a California professor, held onto the information for 36 years. But as Kavanaugh came closer and closer to a seat in the Supreme Court, she said, "I feel like my civic responsibility is outweighing my anguish and terror about retaliation." In a shocking, detailed account, Ford alleges Kavanaugh pinned her down against the bed, groped her, attempted to rip off her clothes and put his hand over her mouth to stifle her screams.

She was 15.

It is no wonder Ford was afraid to share her story. Beyond the extensive wait time, Kavanaugh is approaching a position of extreme power. With the #MeToo movement, people are quick to assume women are falsely accusing powerful men of sexual assault to receive money or notoriety. And, like all survivors who come forward years later (or even right away), many people are vehemently against her.

But beyond people believing she's a lying, money-hungry life-ruiner (and here it is worth mentioning that she both passed a polygraph and there are notes from her 2012 couple's therapy about the incident happening), some people do believe her, and simply believe it isn't really a big deal due to Kavanaugh's age:

"Ford claimed Kavanaugh was drunk. Hell, if ATTEMPTED stuff by drunk 17 year-olds is the standard by which we judge the persons in their 50s, I suspect most of the world's men would be in serious trouble!" — @laraineabbey

"Thinking of the accusations against Judge Kavanaugh, even if true, is he the same person now that he was when he was 17? Are you? I know I am not." — @HEassa

"Kavanaugh was 17 years old. I remember when I was 17. Sex was all I thought of. Give this wonderful Judge a break. We were all different in our teenage years." — @2Tebow

Let's jump elsewhere, though, to another classic Kavanaugh point of contention: Abortion. In a now very popular case, a 17-year-old immigrant girl was detained for crossing the border. She was fleeing domestic abuse from her parents, so was unable to provide a parental sponsor. In his final dissenting opinion, Judge Kavanaugh ruled that she could not get an abortion, as illegal immigrant minors shouldn't get "an abortion on demand."

I urge you to put your views on immigration aside and see this: A minor, with a family so abusive she fled illegally while pregnant, was (nearly) forced to have a child. Bringing a child into that situation doesn't seem very "pro-life" to me, it seems somewhere between "pro-birth" and "pro-control." But regardless, Brett Kavanaugh believed that two decisions she made at 17 (to have sex and thus become pregnant and to enter the U.S. illegally) should affect her life forever. Forcing a minor with no family, no home and likely no resources to have a child at 17 will absolutely define her life forever.

And some people seem to agree that that is A-OK.

"I don't think abortions are cool. If you get pregnant, oh well. Deal with it. Shit happens. It might be your karma or something that wronged you." @TrishyyMariee

"You have consensual sex = you take the chance of getting pregnant (duh) & just bc you don't want the responsibility of a child that you unintentionally created doesn't mean it should have to suffer the consequences by being aborted. That's your own fault, grow up & raise your kid. " — @brooklynelson

"If you spread your legs and get pregnant, grow up and raise your child. It's not your baby's fault you're a hoe." @lil_annalyn_

Here's the thing. This article isn't about immigration or abortion or really even sexual assault.

It is about double standards.

If you don't believe Kavanaugh's actions at 17 should dictate the rest of his life, you shouldn't think that a pregnant 17-year-old's actions should dictate the rest of her's, either. There is no world in which a man is simply too young to realize sexual assault is disgusting and wrong but a pregnant woman is in the situation by her own fault.

That is a double standard.

Brett Kavanaugh was 17 years old when he allegedly assaulted a woman, but it is OK because he's in his 50s now and that was simply a mistake kids make and shouldn't have his entire life change because of it.

Brett Kavanaugh was in his 50s when he attempted to deny a 17-year-old immigrant the right to an abortion, which apparently means she was more than just a kid and it was OK for her entire life to be changed because of it.

So should your actions at 17 define your entire life? Brett Kavanaugh says yes — if you're a pregnant woman

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