The other day as I was getting my nails done, a wife walked in with her husband and they got pedicures together.

Every woman in the salon looked at that man like he was crazy! Then about 30 minutes later, a man who was alone walked in and wanted a mani-pedi. He looked like he did some “real men’s work” for a living and wanted to treat himself. This time, instead of looking at him like he was crazy, they (the women getting their nails done) all looked at him like he was some kind of alien that they didn’t want there.

All of the technicians were happy to help and provide the service but I couldn’t help but think, “WHY DONT ALL MEN DO THIS?!” And, “why in a world where we preach equality and gender neutrality was it some obscene action for a man to want the same things we do?”

Literally, it all just blew my mind.

The women who were there with their friends that were cackling before the men got there were whispering and looking at them. I even saw a few people taking pictures and laughing. Why though? Because it’s not okay to see a man pamper himself after a long days work? Or it’s not okay for a man to want to do things with the woman he loves? Why are we judging other people on something that they want to do that does absolutely NOTHING to impede on your experience?

How can we preach equality and fairness when all we want to do as women, is judge others? We want to judge their hair, their clothes, their size, the amount of money they make, the things they do, where they live, the list goes on and on but when it comes to us being judged, oh hell no it better not be done.

We digress. So men, don’t feel bad about going to the salon and doing something that makes you feel a little better after a long week(s) work. Hell, if I could have somebody rub my feet every day I would, so why shouldn’t you want to?

Women, stop judging them for it. It doesn’t make them soft, any less of a man, none of that. In my opinion, it makes them more of a man because they are willing to spend money on something that makes them feel better- and we all know when you feel good you look good- and makes them happy. Instead of going out for a night drinking with the guys or spending two hours playing video games, they are spending roughly an hour or two, spending $30-$60, and just relaxing.