This is a poem I wrote about being afraid to speak paired with a video I made when I was too alive to stop. Last semester I realized something. Often, when I really want to speak, I stay silent. Whether the reason is obvious or not and whether I'm oblivious or not is not the point. The point is that although I often find myself "too tired to speak," this video proves that I am too alive to stop. This video, filmed by my friend Sean, serves to commemorate that and remind me to always do what scares me. Even if that means saying "Hello."
To the girl struggling with her body image,
You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.
Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.
So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.
Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.
Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.
Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.
It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.
So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.
Love your body, and your body will love you right back.
In the age of technology, where A-list celebrities got their start online it may seem hard to do the same when comparing yourself to them and their fourteen million fans, but there are a few tips and tricks to help the average social media lover evaluate their platforms for a more professional and aesthetically pleasing look much like their favorite internet celebrities.
1. Find your special niche
When setting out to elevate you Instagram it's very important, to begin with, defining who your audience is and why they follow you. This does not include friends or family, but actually, the people who enjoy your posts. These followers enjoy what you bring to the table and your story for a reason. You and everyone else bring a certain special theme or quality to all your posts, and this can be seen as a niche, which is good because people who enjoy your niche will follow you. The most popular niches include lifestyle, fashion, and beauty. While these are popular, it is better to take one broad niche and make it a little more specific to stand out and gain a following from the uniqueness of your content that can not be found anywhere else, but your specific account.
2. Inspiration eliminates boring posts
While there is nothing wrong with posting a head-on selfie every once and then, it can get boring and bland if that is all your Instagram has become. Showing variety is easy just by adding different angles, incorporation full body shots, and even a location change, but the problem is you've come used to taking the same selfie from the same angle in the same location that you're not sure what else is out there, but have no fear there are billions of photos for you to gather inspiration from on the same app, and many more like Pinterest, and Tumblr. These apps have become online databases for beautiful photos and inspiration material like photoshoots, outfits, and even recipes for food blogs. The one rule when using inspiration is, do not copy and give credit where credit is due. Many beauty gurus and influencers have been "canceled" these past months due to them copying other's makeup looks and not giving credit to the original source so take that as a warning.
3. It is all about visual aesthetics
The best way to not only stand out but to also create an aesthetic for yourself that others do not have is having a consistent and recognizable preset/filter. This is not only to make all your posts look more cohesive as if your Instagram is one big story, but it will also drive attention to your account due to the distinct, and aesthetically pleasing aesthetic. If editing photos and creating your own filter/preset is not your thing there are many sold on Etsy or your favorite Instagram influencer is already selling theirs.