Hang in there, before you start reading this just know that you’re not alone and that no matter what happens there will be people to keep you grounded and will catch you before you fall.
You are so important, and even though right now you might not feel that way, it’s the truth and although you don’t see it, someone else does. At a recent time, you probably felt at your absolute lowest, and weren’t sure if you would ever be able to overcome all the bad things happening in your life. Whether it’s family, friends, relationships or school problems, there will always be something positive that can take you away from the things that are hurting you.
As we were all growing up, we have come to the common thought that we need to be in a relationship to actually achieve happiness. I’m not saying that being in a relationship is bad, because if it’s with the right person, it can easily be the best thing for you. But with relationships there’s a 50/50 chance that the two of you will break up and there will be a broken heart, or maybe even two. When the break up is one sided, there will be a time period where you will be lost and confused. Where the only comfort you will find is a tissue box, your bed and very sad music on repeat. And this is okay.
Throughout this time, you will be upset, and there is no time limit on how long you can be upset, because the whole thing will be a play it by ear situation. During this time period, there will be a chance where you can get lost and lose who you are as a person. And that’s okay because one day you will find yourself again, and hopefully as a new and improved person.
Your value doesn’t decrease because of someone’s inability to see your worth. You were once whole, and you will be whole again soon. Just because he took some pieces away from you when he left, doesn’t mean that you won’t get them back. It will take time to completely get over the boy, and that is probably the hardest thing to do. Especially when he can easily get over you first.
But you know what that means? That he didn’t really care as much as you thought he did, because if he really did he would not have been able to do this to you as easily as it was done. Just because he can’t see how much of a strong, beautiful, talented person that you are, doesn’t mean that it’s not true. You deserve the world, and one day will receive it.
Do not go out of your way to chase him, do not give him the satisfaction of that. You were perfectly fine before him and you will be perfectly fine without him. Just because he wasn’t able to see how much of an amazing person you are doesn’t mean that someone else won’t see it. You are the woman that some guy is praying for. If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one.
Although you can’t pinpoint how you’re feeling and you are constantly thinking about him. Don’t forget that you were okay before you met him and that you will be okay after this mess continues to unravel itself. You can get through this and when you finally start to feel put together again, everything will make sense.
Until then, find refuge in friends, family, Netflix series, music, or poetry, anything that will keep your mind off of things. Do what is the best for you, and one day you will find your way back, maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but someday you will.
As Cristina Yang from “Grey’s Anatomy” once said, “He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. YOU ARE.”
