I feel like i am at a constant battle with myself, on whether or not I should believe what my mind wants me to think, or if I should just think positive thoughts and move along just like everyone tells me to do. I would love to sit here and give an entire explanation on how to get over anxiety, but personally I just don't think there is a specific thing or things in which an individual can do to "heal" their anxiety. The truth of the matter is that one must come to terms that some things are uncontrollable and not everything is preventable. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the only way out is through. You have to look your fears in the face, and really logically think about them. Are they something you can change? Are they something you can prevent? Is it really worth all of the stress and pain it causes you on a daily? If your answer to any of these questions is no, then finally let that shit go and breathe. I know that this is easier said than done, because let's be real, just like love, our fears can be blinding. Our fears cause us to not see what may be so obvious to those around us. For example, if your biggest fear is that you're going to fail in life, then you might hold a list of every time you've ever failed and constantly prosecute yourself for it. Others around you look at those failures as bumps and learning blocks, but because you're so focused on being a failure, you see those things as reasons in which you will fail. You become so obsessed with trying to do things "right" or "perfect", instead of realizing that your very fear of failing, might actually be the only reason you fail. No matter what your fear is, always focus on the big picture of things and know that things do get better.