The Life I Want vs. Society

The Life I Want vs. Society

Do we lead with our hearts and desires or plead into what society expects our lives to be?


I want creativity. I want to help others. I want passion. Will society understand? In today's day and age, we are tempted with structured classes and coursework that create doctors and accountants. But, what about me? I feel like I don't fit in with what societies preconceived notions look like for "after college" careers. How about moving to an unfamiliar city and sharing a small apartment with strangers and riding a subway to commute to a dream job?

Recently I went on a trip where I met a couple of people who asked about my after college plans and desires. I shared my interest in moving to New York and working as a writer. They asked if I wanted to be a reporter or a journalist and were confused when I shared my dreams to work in the lifestyle industry as a writer or maybe work as a freelance writer...or help people become writers and explore their options? I was asked about money and strictly told there was no way I would be able to "survive" financially on these goals I had curated for myself. I know I am not alone. But, it was incredibly frustrating told that money and living in a place where a family isn't possible was disheartening. I wondered why society had put such an obligation on making lots of money where that beats out having a dream and working to find success.

I may have this wrong, but I grew up believing that you should strive to become something you are proud of. You should attempt to work every day and feel like you are living out your dream. You should strive to help others and make the most out of experiencing new things.

What I want: happiness, a lot of love, a lot of passion, and I want to know I worked as hard as possible to reach my fullest potential

What society wants for me: happiness, love, money, stabilization, and a family

Stabilization is not a bad thing. I would love to ensure stabilization, but I am not going to push my dreams aside to feel safe. Success sometimes comes with uncertainty and taking risks, and I think sometimes society forgets that taking risks is essential.
I think pushing yourself to believe you deserve more is taking action to make it happen. The first step is understanding the future and knowing that money comes in stages and growth is always possible. You are not "stuck" where society believes you will be. Push yourself beyond all limits.

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On June 22nd I Celebrated My 22nd

*Insert cliche Taylor Swift song "22"*


It's about time I turn 22. I've been told that after your 21st birthday, the years begin to fly past you in a blur. I don't know if I agree, but I can definitely say that I don't feel 22. Sometimes I look around at all the people who are freshmen in college, or juniors in high school, and I begin to reminisce about when I was their age. One thing getting older does do is make you a skeptical, cynical person.

I've thought a lot about my birthday as another day that I get to eat cake because let's face it, I'm not really here for anything else, except maybe a shot. I remember celebrating my birthday when I was younger was much different from what it turned into after I turned 20. Back in the day, I would celebrate my birthday with a pool party. Pizza, chips, cake, and soda. A few balloons and candles and that was it. I'd only invite my closest friends and we'd have so much fun.

I miss that kind of birthday. The kind you pick out an outfit for days prior, the kind you get so excited for and can't sleep, the kind that makes you feel special. It doesn't feel like that anymore. What it feels like now is, "welp, there goes another year." This line is also applicable to New Year's Eve, but we'll cross that bridge six months from now.

My birthday is pretty uneventful. It feels like the spark is gone, the excitement is gone. I wish I could feel happy that I'm turning 22, but I also know that it's just a reality that we all get older and things like birthdays begin to feel strange. You're faced to realize that you're supposed to have gained another year of experience and intelligence in the aspects of life, but it's almost like you feel the same.

It's safe to say that this has been a bit of an existential-crisis-themed birthday, but I'm just a little scared of getting older. I think we all reach a point where you realize you aren't invincible anymore. It's time to see what's in store for the future, what your career goals are, where you plan to move to after graduation, how to eat better, and how to feel like you've reached your full potential. It's a bittersweet moment in my life, but I'm ready to see what's next.

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Goodbye To Our Favorite Family Member

Our bond with you, Skippy, will always be forever.


After 14 or some years my family and I faced a difficult situation we never thought we would come to. I thought it would be easy putting my dog, Skippy, down but after it, a lot of things came to my mind that I never noticed. I regret taking the smallest moments for granted. I never appreciated the memories with Skippy that seemed to be pointless at the moment but in the end, they mattered the most now.

At the randomness times, he pops into my mind. There will never be a time where my siblings and I argue and fuss over who is going to take the dog out. As much as we butted heads over it, I wish I could take him out one more time while arguing with my siblings for old times' sake.

What I will miss the most is his presence. Watching television with him right by my side and picking him up and hugging him will no longer happen anymore. Even coming home from a long day or late at night, you would see Skippy perched at the window waiting for you. Now I pull up and he is not present. My family and I still continue to worry about picking things up from the floor and shutting doors, yet we no longer have to. We have habits that we have been used to for so long and now we have to quit them.

It hasn't been awhile but since I have been home, I have picked up on some moments where Skippy made an impact on our lives. There was a moment where my dad and I were eating in the kitchen and he dropped a chip. Normally, my dad would yell at Skippy to eat it but this time around there was a long pause. Before my family and I would leave my dad would call us wondering who left the dog out before we left. However, this time around Skippy wasn't there to be left out before we left the house. The days in the house seem quieter than what they used to be and the nights seem odder. Skippy was definitely another member of the Meehan household.

I never realized how big of an influence Skippy had on my life and for the rest of my family. It will be a change for all of us to fill the hole where Skippy mattered. It will take some time to get used to it but in the end, this was best for Skippy and we all have to come to terms with it. Skippy will always be by our side whether it is sleeping on the couch or whining at the door, he will be present through our daily lives in a different, unique way.

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