Here's Why You Need To Unleash Your Boundless Vulnerability

Here's Why You Need To Unleash Your Boundless Vulnerability

Vulnerability has a negative connotation in our minds. Here's why it shouldn't.


Vulnerability is a petrifying thing. Being completely exposed to the possibility of being harmed, physically or emotionally. Yep. That's the definition. Let those words sink in for a minute. You're in harm's way, at the very minute you start to feel raw, and quite powerful, emotions that are meant to be felt. Vulnerability is a petrifying thing.

My nightly Grey's Anatomy binge grabbed my attention, sparking a whole train of thoughts about this crazy thing we call vulnerability. Shonda Rhimes, the creator of "Grey's Anatomy," succeeded in her worldly attempts to wreck me by assigning the powerful line, "Boundaries don't keep people out, they fence you in," to the main character, Meredith Grey.

No one ever specifically told us to conceal our feelings and emotions, but it's in our humanly instinct to want to avoid any sense of embarrassment. However, there's also something in our human nature that acknowledges this fear of being exposed, yet encourages us to not bottle everything we are up and shove it way down deep.

Eventually, coming from personal experience, those emotions you swallow and never allow to see the light of day, often times surface and all the wrong times; all at once, until you're drowning in the sea of issues you could have dealt with earlier on. Perhaps this is why it's been given the definition it has. We keep it hidden in the dark for so long it becomes an unknown: a scary unknown that we have to train into existence.

Boundaries aren't created just for your relationships with others: they're created for the relationship you have with yourself too. Regardless of how high or thick, you build the walls around yourself, the things that hit a little too close to home will always find their way in. As for you? Your vulnerability should be boundless. It should be limitless and outpouring in no specific direction. Being vulnerable isn't just a petrifying thing: it's beautiful, natural and more importantly, it's a necessary thing.

We live in a world that is striving to accept others however they are; you better believe that the ability to feel everything so purely is a gift, and an accepted one at that. One of my favorite chapters of the Bible is Ecclesiastes 3, not only because it solidifies the point I'm trying to make but also because the movie Footloose recites some of it. It says, "For everything, there is a season... A time to cry, and a time to laugh, a time to grieve and a time to dance."

There's a time to be vulnerable, so don't fence yourself in, trapped with your unvocalized emotions surrounding you. Find a friend you're comfortable with and share. Start journaling. Praying. Running. Crying. Whatever it takes for you to find the sense of relief you need from the things that knick your emotions just a bit too deep. Your ability to be vulnerable is a gift. A beautiful, petrifying and powerful gift. Use it.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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My View On Religion Changed When I Got Closer To God

Understanding that God loves me and protects me has encouraged me to be honest with myself and the choices I make.


I was not raised Christian or any religion of any sort, but since I was in elementary school I always wondered what religion meant and why people practiced it. The problem is people are so verbal about stereotypes that all Christians are homophobic or believe that women should not have the right to abortions. These are both common beliefs practiced in Christianity, but it does not mean that all Christians think this way. Hearing those things that went against my beliefs scared me away from practicing any type of religion.

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The pastor explained how God created everyone and that God loves all of his sons and daughters no matter what. That comment meant a lot to me and it still sticks with me today. Being a good Christian is loving and forgiving people no matter what because that is what God does. When people are hateful towards people who are part of the LGTBQ+ that just means that they are ignorant and intolerant, they are not preaching God's words because God is loving.

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I always believed that things happen for a reason and I realized that is God. I feel like ever since I have gone to church I have a better understanding of life and what things mean. Since I am such a curious person always looking for answers, I felt that I was able to find some of those answers in the Holy Bible.

My journey of faith was confusing and a lot of people would make fun of me for going to church and still do, but I don't let it get to me. I have been a much happier person and have been able to set and accomplish more goals for myself it doesn't matter what people say about my faith. Church and just reading bible quotes is my therapy.

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