The Guide To Dating Someone With Different Religious Views: From a Christian's Standpoint

The Guide To Dating Someone With Different Religious Views: From a Christian's Standpoint

"The need of the moment is not one religion, but mutual respect and tolerance of the devotees of the different religions."

-Mahatma Gandhi


I am going to begin this article with a general statement. If you truly love someone, then you should be with them. I say this because when you do what makes you happy, everything is going to fall in to place.

Dating someone with different religious views can be extremely difficult. What can be hard is when you want to marry that person. The reason I believe it's hard is that sooner or later you're both going to want kids, and you're both gonna have to talk about how they should be raised. Most parents will be thrilled to take their kids to church, but when you're with someone who has different religious views, they may want to spend their Sunday's a little differently.

What I believe is that an interfaith relationship, no matter how different your views are, can be just as strong as any other relationship.

Begin With Respect

A huge aspect of religion and relationships is respect. To have a strong interfaith relationship, you should both respect what each other believes. Mahatma Gandhi said "The need of the moment is not one religion, but mutual respect and tolerance of the devotees of the different religions. "God calls us, in John 13:34, to "love one another as I have loved you." In this verse, God is telling us that we should love every other being as he loved us and gave his only son for us.

Give Support To Your Partner

Another aspect of a strong interfaith relationship is giving support to your partner.

Every strong relationship I've ever been around has been strong because both people have supported each other indefinitely. When you show your support for your husband/wife, you're letting them know that you love them no matter what differences you may have.

Now, I know there can be some major differences that can come up. I have already mentioned the point on how children will be raised, but you can also ask the questions: "Will we be going to church normally?", "Will we include God in our wedding vows?", or "Will we give thanks over each meal?"

These can all be answered the same way. If you and your husband/wife respect each other's religious views and you support each other wholeheartedly, then there will be plenty of compromises.

Be Willing to Compromise

In every strong relationship, there will be some compromise, even in relationships with the same religious views. If you truly adore someone to the point of wanting to marry them, I believe anything can be overcome.

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It is easy to fight for the life of someone who isn't born, and then forget that you wanted them to be alive when you decide to hate their existence.


For those in support of the #AbortionBans happening all over the United States, please remember that the unborn will not always be a fetus — he or she may grow up to be just another person whose existence you don't support.

The fetus may grow up to be transgender — they may wear clothes you deem "not for them" and identify in a way you don't agree with, and their life will mean nothing to you when you call them a mentally unstable perv for trying to use the bathroom.

The fetus may grow up to be gay — they may find happiness and love in the arms of someone of the same gender, and their life will mean nothing to you when you call them "vile" and shield your children's eyes when they kiss their partner.

The fetus may grow up and go to school — to get shot by someone carrying a gun they should have never been able to acquire, and their life will mean nothing to you when your right to bear arms is on the line.

The fetus may be black — they may wear baggy pants and "look like a thug", and their life will mean nothing to you when you defend the police officer who had no reason to shoot.

The fetus may grow up to be a criminal — he might live on death row for a heinous crime, and his life will mean nothing to you when you fight for the use of lethal injection to end it.

The fetus may end up poor — living off of a minimum wage job and food stamps to survive, and their life will mean nothing to you when they ask for assistance and you call them a "freeloader" and refuse.

The fetus may end up addicted to drugs — an experimentation gone wrong that has led to a lifetime of getting high and their life will mean nothing to you when you see a report that they OD'd and you make a fuss about the availability of Narcan.

The fetus may one day need an abortion — from trauma or simply not being ready, and her life will mean nothing to you as you wave "murderer" and "God hates you" signs as she walks into the office for the procedure.

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Do not tell me that you are pro-life when all of the above people could lose their lives in any way OUTSIDE of abortion and you wouldn't give 2.5 shits.

You fight for the baby to be born, but if he or she is gay or trans, you will berate them for who they are or not support them for who they love.

You fight for the baby to be born, but if he or she is poor or addicted, you will refuse the help they desperately need or consider their death a betterment of society.

You fight for the baby to be born, but when the used-to-be-classroom-of-fetuses is shot, you care more about your access to firearms than their lives.

It is easy to pretend you care about someone before they are even born, and easy to forget their birth was something you fought for when they are anything other than what you consider an ideal person.

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