The First Trip Home Is Beyond Much Needed

The First Trip Home Is Beyond Much Needed

When you go home, don't forget to tell them you love them!

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Going home for the first time since you left college is an amazing feeling. After a month and a half, I finally walked through my door and was instantly hit with the fragrance of my mom's Indian food. It's funny because my friends always told me my house has a very distinct scent and it wasn't until that moment that I could smell it. It was a blend of spices and home.

Being with your family after a long time makes all the little issue melt away when you finally meet. My brother and I didn't fight once when I went back. The distance strengthened our bond. And when we reminisced we talked about the happy memories that were made and about what was new.

When I was with my family every day of every week of every year, I didn't know what I had. I focused on going away, being independent. Many college students do the same thing. We are so focused on growing up and doing what we want and moving on, that we forget to really cherish the luxury of being loved by our parents or having those family dinners and movie nights. We won't ever get that time back. But we can cherish the time we do get with our families now. And I think the best way to do that is to take your focus away from what you want and focus on what your loved ones want.

The best feeling is the happiness you feel when you see your mother or brother happy. Try to cook with your mother instead of forcing her to take you to the mall. Take your little brother out for ice cream. Spend time with your dad listening to music. Doing things that they love will allow you to show your family how much you love them. And you'd be surprised at how much you enjoy the activities they do.

When I went home, my mother and I watched Bollywood movies all day long, we made Indian tea and eggs for breakfast Saturday morning like we used to do. And it was just very relaxing and calming to leave the stressful campus atmosphere for the cozy home ambiance.

No one will love you as much as your mother or father, so we must cherish them for as long as we can, and we must show them that we care and that we love them. When you go home, don't forget to tell them you love them!

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A Letter To The Grandpas Who Left Far Too Soon

The thoughts of a girl who lost both of her grandpas too early.
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Dear Grandpa,

As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.

I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.

My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone. It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then Christmas, that I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost dread them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were alive. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back.

You know what broke my heart the most though? It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their dad, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Grandpa, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away. There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their grandparents and that they get to see them all the time. I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by.

I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile from ear to ear. I hope that the person I marry is someone you would approve of. And I hope that my kids get more time with their grandpa than I did because the amount I got wasn't fair.

I want to say thank you for raising your child to be the best parent ever because they will one day be the best grandparent ever. Just like you.

Cover Image Credit: Katelyn McKinney

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The Ultimate Shopping List Of Stuff You Need When You Move In Together

Other than the obvious groceries, there's quite a few things you and your boo should get before moving in.

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You've finally hit that stage in the relationship where one of you moves in or get a place together! It's exciting, it's new but here's the stressful part...what do you bring?

When moving in it's crucial that you each go through your stuff to get rid of anything you don't need/want. But there's also things that need to be bought too. You might not realize it yet, but you do not want to move in together without having all the essentials ready to go. So here is the ultimate shopping list for when you and your significant other move in together!

1. Extension Cords

You don't want to be fighting over who gets the outlet by the bed and who has to put their phone on the other have of the room, get extension cords now so you don't have to worry about the hassle!

2. Extra Blankets

If your boyfriend/girlfriend is anything like mine, he is a HUGE blanket hog. Buy some extra blankets to keep under the bed so when they decide they need 95% of the blanket, you have back up.

3. Extra Towels

You never want to be the one stuck needing to shower without a clean towel at hand.

4. A Calendar

My boyfriend and I are constantly busy. Between both of us having two jobs (me having three plus school) it's hard sometimes to keep track of who's where at what time. A calendar will take away that stress!

5. A whiteboard for the fridge

It might sound silly but this is great! If you need milk but won't have time to pick it up, leave a message on the board for your boo! Or if you feel like leaving a note saying they need to pick their socks up from the living room floor...

6. More hangers

I personally prefer to hang my clothes up, it leaves less of a hassle trying to rummage through clothes to find something to wear. You're going to want more hangers when you're sharing a room with that special someone.

7. An extra key

Obviously you should both have keys to the house, but there is going to come a time where one of you gets locked out, and the other can't get to you for hours. Make that spare key and hide it in a good spot to save the hassle of trying to climb into your window without your neighbors calling the cops...

8. A key rack

This is so convenient. Keeping track of keys can be a struggle as is, let alone when you and your S.O. keys look the exact same. Buy a key rack to keep them in place.

9. A shower caddy

Buy one ASAP. Those shower ledges can hold your shampoo and conditioner but when you double it up, it's messy.

10. Door mat for shoes

Now that you live together, you're going to want to have a door mat (if you don't already) for you to leave your shoes when you walk into the house. Shoes that you tend to wear frequently can be left my the door and other shoes (heels and dress shoes) can be left in the closet!

11. A shoe rack for the closet

One person tends to own at least four pairs of shoes. (Well, my boyfriend owns like four pairs of just boots.) If you both have a lot of shoes and don't want to take up too much space, get a shoe rack for the closet! This keeps them organized and won't leave you tripping over any of them.

12. Candles/air fresheners 

This is crucial. You guys live together now and there's going to be times where you're "doing your business" and it leaves that smell behind. Make sure you have candles or air fresheners to mask away that dreadful stink.

13. More laundry baskets

You may not realize it now, but one or two laundry baskets isn't going to cut it. There is going to come a time where you won't have time to do laundry for either of you that week. One or two laundry baskets can fill up pretty quick with two people. Always be sure to have extras. Better to have more than not enough!

14. Spare bed sheets

This comes in so handy. You always want to be able to sleep in a clean bed, but sometimes it can take FOREVER to wash them! Get that extra bed set that, when it comes time to wash one, you always have a clean back up to not feel rushed!

15. All the cooking stuff

Seriously, whether you are getting a new place together or moving in with your S.O. you want to have ALL the essential cooking needs. Even the non-essential ones.

16. Plates and silverware

Self explanatory.

17. Area rug

These are just nice to have cause they really tie the room together!

18. Storage, storage, STORAGE

This is ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL. There's two of you know, you're going to want as much storage as humanly possible to fit all of your stuff together

19. A welcome mat

20. A blow out mattress

If you are anything like my boyfriend and I, we are constantly having friends over. You want to be completely prepared if friends need/want to spend the night!

21. LOTS of tissues, paper towel and toilet paper.

You can never have more than enough of this.

22. Batteries

It's never fun when the remote batteries die.

23. Extra light bulbs

24. Cleaning supplies

Broom, mop, vacuum, duster, pledge, ALL OF IT.

25. Decorations for the holidays

Because you NEED to be spirited. This is finally your time to decorate your home just how you like it.

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