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Stop Mistaking Constructive Criticism With Negativity

In this generation of dreamers, we tend to get too emotional when we are told about the loopholes of our goals and usually it is taken as a vote of no confidence or simply "hating" from the people who tell it to us.

Ted Apondi

Sep 06, 2018

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Stop Mistaking Constructive Criticism With Negativity

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Criticism is always harsh, but sometimes we misappropriate constructive criticism as negativity. Here are some tips on how to decide whether what you're hearing from people is beneficial to your future or just meant to bring you down.

1. Listen to understand and learn not to reply and defend yourself.

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A keen listener is one who is able to disseminate between constructive criticism and blatant manipulation to put them down. The way someone approaches you about your project, relationships, work or dreams will determine their intention and your reply. Keeping calm will give you the ability to have your emotions in check and self evaluate whether what was said to you contained fact or was inaccurate. After this, ask why? why the person telling you that feels that way and how a solution may be provided. If the person fails to answer then you will know it wasn't said with good intentions.

2. Negative people will always be salty when you succeed.

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Negative people are always salty when you win because they don't want to see you rise but people who give you constructive criticism will always be your number fan. They will be there giving you props because they want to see you be the best version of yourself.

3. Your critics will sometimes provide solutions or open up your eyes to new possibilities

new ideas or approaches may pop up during critics.

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Last semester my professor had me rewrite my paper almost 6 times due to lack of clarity and trust me when i say i wasn't pleased. However, during those corrections i was also able to produce a more authentic argument for the overall research. Now i'm sure you're wondering how this all applies to the "cut-off" mentality and this is why: in college people tend not to care about corrections after receiving a final grade but there's always that option to see where you can improve your work and your knowledge but its all dependent on you to suck it up and listen to how you went wrong and maybe you just might think of something better.

4. Cutting off people may be a show of weakness to deal with challenges.

Don't be quick to avoid people.

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In this generation we tend to have an escapist mindset of trying to find the right vibe and putting ourselves with only the right crowd. This is good in the social context of making friends and meeting new people. But when it comes to business, networking, relationships and failures, we cant simply step aside to have a peace of mind. More than ever it's important to face the criticism head on or at least consult with people with more experience on how to improve.

Life is a social process filled with growth and empowerment through education. Even if there are views that are polar to yours, you have to open your mind to enlightenment from both scenarios and that is how you rise above ignorance or naivety .

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Stop Mistaking Constructive Criticism With Negativity

In this generation of dreamers, we tend to get too emotional when we are told about the loopholes of our goals and usually it is taken as a vote of no confidence or simply "hating" from the people who tell it to us.

1. Listen to understand and learn not to reply and defend yourself.

2. Negative people will always be salty when you succeed.

3. Your critics will sometimes provide solutions or open up your eyes to new possibilities

4. Cutting off people may be a show of weakness to deal with challenges.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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