I'm Thankful For The Toxic People Who Have Left My Life

I'm Thankful For The Toxic People Who Have Left My Life

This sounds passive aggressive, I swear it's not.


It's almost impossible to know who the toxic people are in your life until you take a couple steps back and look at the whole picture. At the start this year, two toxic people left my life and I can honestly say now, it was a very low point for me. I was anxious on campus, cried a lot, and felt so many looming feelings of not being good enough. If trust were a plate, mine was carelessly dropped on a marble floor in the middle of a museum for all to see. It was very obvious to my friends how low I had hit and how broken I was. In the end, the people I was mourning over, weren't even worth the tears and fears. Toxicity is everywhere and although it's unavoidable, getting out of toxic relationships is something that I couldn't be more thankful for

These two people were introduced into my life at a time where I had just got out of a summer relationship that ended in shambles. I was looking for new friendships so both of these relationships formed at a very convenient time in my life and for a while, things felt good. Long story short, the boy and girl ended up dating behind my back and it felt awful on my behalf because I thought that the boy and I were entering a relationship. I was toyed with. Eventually, I noticed how poorly these people were treating me, but by the time that happened, it was too late. When the conclusion of these relationships arrived, I didn't know if I should be happy or sad because even after they left, I was still questioning myself.

I felt myself comparing myself to the girl and what she had that I didn't and had to endure a month of aftermath drama from the two. I had to mentally detox from the confusion, shock, and anxiety I dealt with after these relationships came to an end. Although I felt used and abused, I was thankful I only was close with these two people for a couple months as my closest friend was dealing with the toxicity of the girl for years. Recently I have gotten into a new relationship and the stark contrast between the relationship I am in currently and the relationship I was entering at the beginning of the year is like night and day. I am a firm believer in the phrase "Everything happens for a reason" and I believe that these toxic people were introduced into my life in order for me to recognize a healthy relationship even better. My trust in people was very fragile for a while but, with this year coming to a close, I have become wholly aware of the good people in my life. I am thankful for toxicity because without it I would not be able to recognize the strong bonds I have with the people I surround myself with now.

Thank U, Next <3

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8 Lyrics From T. Swift's New Song 'You Need To Calm Down' That Will Give Your Instagram The Strong Female Empowerment It Needs

Let this girl-power ballad spark your insta-piration for your next post.


If you've ever experienced cyber-bullying, or if you ever feel caught up in our over-critical society, Tay Swift's new song "You Need To Come Down" is the song for you. While we live in a world with free speech, and especially as a journalist I am all for that, sometimes its best to think before you speak - or tweet. We should all try to be understanding and kind no matter what the circumstance, even if it means not clicking send on some Twitter rants. These lyrics are a friendly reminder to stay calm and focus on what's important.

1. "Say it in the street, that's a knock-out. But you say it in a tweet, that's a cop out."

If this isn't the call-out message of the year on cyber-bullying (in song, at least), I don't know what is.

2. "But I've learned a lesson that stressin' and obsessin' about somebody else is no fun."

We all need to remember at times that getting mixed up in drama isn't fruitful for our lives or growth.

3. "Like can you not step on my gown? You need to calm down."

Don't let the haters control you or stop you from living, just tell those voices to calm down.

4. "Why are you mad when you could be glad?"

Focusing on hate or being critical can be exhausting, and it's better to focus on the good things.

5. "Sunshine on the street at the parade, but you would rather be in the dark ages."

Show people that going into the light is so much easier than they realize when they are stuck in a drama-cloud.

6. "You just need to take several seats and then try to restore the peace."

Instead of trying to have the last word in every fight, try to be the peace-maker instead.

7. "Control your urges to scream about all the people that you hate."

Hate never made the world go 'round. Hate was never what Jesus spoke about. And some things just aren't worth using energy to yell at.

8. "But we all know now we all got crowns."

Don't be afraid to show that you are a princess and no one can take your crown.

This song is not just a collection of Insta-quotes, but also a call-out for all of us to live better lives, to remain a positive and uplifting human in this cancel culture world. By no means should we remain silent on important issues or let people get away with bad things, but we can choose to not get mixed up in petty drama that won't matter in a week. Let's agree to be kind to one another.

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Starbucks Is Cancelling Straws, But I Have A Better Idea

A business plan for Starbucks that would be 100% more effective than getting rid of plastic straws


I find it fascinating that as our Earth has twelve years left before being majorly threatened by Carbon Dioxide and the biggest stride big corporations think they can make is doing away with plastic straws. One of the main companies that have gone public about making this change is Starbucks. Still, as I walk around campus and see girls with their Starbucks cups full of acai refreshers and iced coffees, I see a green plastic straw and a plastic cup. If we're trying to create a sustainable society, why are we so concerned with plastic straws when single-use plastic cups haunt our lives every single day and even more frequently than straws. If Starbucks were so willing to save the environment they would draw their focus to all plastic products and not just straws. Now many may think, how would we even solve this problem and I have a solution. I'm not saying my idea is the be all end all that will 100% work, but it is a thought.

So my idea is to offer Mason Jars or cups to serve drinks inside Starbucks. For people who are on the go, offer them to buy the reusable travel cups and if they bring it back, they are gifted with an exclusive reward program. It just seems like something along these lines would help make a bigger step in reducing the Starbucks carbon footprint than getting rid of plastic straws (which seems to still be a work in progress). It upsets me so much that a company striving to be sustainable posed such a small stride as a huge accomplishment. I want big corporations to stop using sustainability to gain clout unless they are actually doing something extremely effective that will actually help to make an active change in the saving of our environment.

Hearing about the amount of time we have left until this world is at risk, makes me fearful that more of these companies will play along as friends to the environment when in reality a change in one plastic product will not help the years and years of carbon emissions and trash buildup that is present in our world. I love visiting local coffee shops where you're given a ceramic mug or glass cup, but a Starbucks is so much more accessible than most local places. Until the easy access stores and companies make sustainability easy for a mass of people that aren't aware of this arising problem, we'll never fix the problem. My biggest wish is that these changes can happen soon because there is only one Earth. Let's celebrate and accept sustainability because it is the future.

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