A Thank You To The Girls Who Didn't Love Him Right

A Thank You To The Girls Who Didn't Love Him Right

We all move on for the better.

I think we can all own up to the fact that when we break up with someone, we don't speak the best about them.

We remember the end when everything was tense, and we do our best not to remember the good parts because it makes everything hurt worse. Yet sometimes things don't work out, not because they were terrible people, but simply because they didn't love us right. I am very happy that my boyfriend's exes didn't love him right. It means that I am now able to.

As I am sitting here thinking about how I am the luckiest girl in the world to have my man, it makes me think about his past relationships. I struggle with the idea that I am actually different, an attribute I can thank my not-so-good exes for giving me. I know a lot of the negatives about those relationships, and there is always one thing in common.

He didn't love them. Not really anyway.

I am a firm believer that you cannot truly love someone who does not love you correctly in return. Things may seem happy and they may seem easy, but there is a good chance that you are with that person simply because it is indeed easy. This is why so many people look back on those they dated in high school and wonder what in the world was wrong with them. It was convenient and the choices were limited.

Therefore, you were "happy."

Life changes as you get older and people change. You realize that people didn't love you for you. They didn't love you for a future together. They loved you because you were the star athlete, the one with money, a popular one that everyone liked, or maybe the needy one who could be there just when they needed you. When I think about who he has dated in the past, I see those things. Yes, good intentions were there, but it was not right.

I cannot explain how happy I am that none of it was right.

I love him when he's moody, has had a rough day, has no money, sports aren't working out for him, he isn't happy with his schooling, and many, many other times. I love him when he's happy, energetic, rambling on about something I know nothing about, and all of the other times he is unexplainably happy.

The girls of his past didn't do that. They didn't love him like he needed to be loved.

If you are one of those girls, thank you. Thank you for helping to shape him into the man that he is today, but thank you for not being right for him. That sounds selfish, but I want to be selfish when it comes to him. You took advantage of the time you had with him, and I will never do that.

I am thankful for every single second that I have with him, and nothing will change that. Thank you for the lessons you have taught him, but please know that he is in the best hands possible now. I will love him like he deserves, and I will make him happy for the rest of his life.

I wish you true happiness, but thank you for letting me have mine.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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8 Taylor Swift Songs For Every Kind Of Breakup

Taylor Swift: superstar, singer, songwriter...best friend?


Music is one of those things that everyone turns to in just about any situation. Happy in a relationship? Music. Breakup? Music. Depression? Music. Euphoria? You guessed it--music. One of the world's best-selling and widely-acclaimed singers and songwriters happens to be the one and only Taylor Swift. She's gone from country, to pop country, and is now somewhere in between pop and alt-pop. Fortunately, this means there's a T-Swizzle song for every kind of break up you might be going through.

1. You just got broken up with, and you're sad about it -- Sad Beautiful Tragic (2012)

With lyrics like "We had a beautiful magic love there / What a sad, beautiful, tragic love affair" and "Kiss me, try to fix it / Would you just try to listen?" it's hard to not cry when you listen to this song after a particularly upsetting breakup. If you're in your feels about a recent split from your boo, Sad Beautiful Tragic is there to remind you that it's okay to be sad about the end of a good relationship.

2. You just got broken up with, and you're content -- Holy Ground (2012)

"Holy Ground" is one of those songs you listen to after the end of a good relationship that had reached the end of its line, and you're okay with it. Some notable lyrics are "Darling, it was good / Never looking down / And right there where we stood / Was holy ground," acknowledging that what you once had was special and you'll look back at it fondly, but it ended right when it should have, even if sometimes you feel like you could've lasted longer.

3. You just got broken up with, and you're mad about it -- You're Not Sorry (2010)

The album Fearless is underrated in its entirety, but the song "You're Not Sorry" is one of the ones that deserve to go down in history. Set to a lovelorn piano, it's easy to think this is a sad song, but when you pare it down, Taylor--or whoever is narrating the story of the song--is pretty pissed that it ended the way it did. "You can tell me that you're sorry / But I don't believe you, baby / Like I did before" is a personal favorite line of mine. Yeah, you may be sorry that you broke up with me, but I don't really believe it--not like all those other times you apologized.

4. You just got broken up with, and you're happy/relieved about it -- We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together (2012)

The go-to song for the "bye bitch" kind of break-up, WANEGBT is a buh-bye song for the ages. "I say 'I hate you' / We break up / You call me / 'I love you'" is a situation I'm sure many people have been through. It perfectly captures the feeling of being tired of the whole on-off relationship that is so common these days when people just can't seem to figure out what they want. It's catchy, upbeat, and totally relatable for those of us who feel like it's just time for something to be over with.

5. You just got broken up with, and you're torn about your emotions -- "I Almost Do" (2012)

Okay, there's a pattern to breakup songs, and they all come from the album Red, which is undeniably her best album. "I Almost Do" is a perfect song for when you get broken up with and you want to get back together, but--oh, well, maybe you don't. You don't know. Ugh, relationships are so hard. "Every time I don't / I almost do" is peak "should I / shouldn't I" when it comes to wondering if you should beg for another shot at a recently broken relationship.

6. You just broke up with your SO, and you're reflecting -- Red (2012)

Being the song that shares the title of the iconic album, it's got some pretty high standards. Red reflects on a relationship that she ended, but is just thinking about--happy, sad? Yes. Both. "Losing him was blue like I've never known / Missing him was dark gray all alone / Forgetting him was like trying to know somebody you never met / But loving him was red" acknowledges that a break-up can be more than just black or white. All of these colors represent emotions about your relationship, and you don't feel one way or another about it yet since it's probably pretty fresh.

7. You just broke up with your SO, and you're relieved -- Getaway Car (2017)

"Getaway Car" is one of the most beloved songs of her album reputation, but it's also one of the best for someone who just got out of a relationship that they've wanted to leave for a while. "Should've known I'd be the first to leave" is the shortest line of the song, but also one of the ones that will probably make you go, "relatable af." Your relationship was probably going downhill for a while, and you both knew it but didn't accept it.

8. You just broke up with your SO, and you regret it -- Back to December (2010)

We all make mistakes, but most of us realize it a second too late. You probably took your love for granted and left before you really wanted to. We've all been there, kiddo. The best line to represent this kind of breakup is, "If we loved again / I swear I'd love you right" and "I'd go back in time and change it / But I can't / So if the chain is on your door / I understand." You'd take a second chance if you got it in a heartbeat, but second chances aren't easy to come by.

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