A post came across my feed recently that really stopped me during my usual mid-afternoon scroll, "I was listening to a podcast yesterday and the girl said stop speaking negatively about yourself or your life, even as a joke. Your spirit doesn't know the difference" and just WOW at that relation.
Almost immediately after seeing this, another Insta-influencer I follow had posted on her story and talking about how she had stopped repeating to herself about her OCD and how much it positively impacted her life. Now, to be honest, I am a firm believer in signs. And if these weren't a sign to me, I don't know what could be!
I practice positive self-talk and future-self journaling pretty much every day, but even I catch myself talking negatively to myself a lot. A lot of the times I don't even realize I'm doing it. Sometimes it just becomes so accustomed to the way I deal with daily life that it just becomes another part of the routine.
Anytime I do something wrong, no matter how small it is, I almost immediately self-shame. No matter if it's even something as small as saying "You too," to the cashier when they say "Here's your receipt."
It has to stop.
Aside from the 25% of people that don't have an internal monologue, the rest of us are sitting with our voice in our head 24 hours, seven days a week. It's exhausting. Especially if all your voice has to say are negative things.
If you have to sit and hear that voice pretty much every single second of every single day, it might as well be positive thoughts. There is no need to be so negative to yourself over little thing. We are all human, and we all make mistakes.
Now please don't sit there angry with yourself at how much you negatively talk to yourself, that won't help anything. Just take a moment to breathe, and say to yourself, "I am strong. I am powerful. What I have to say matters."
The way you talk to yourself matters so much more than you think, so please be nice.