Ladies and gentlemen, I know we all want that perfect companion. It is probably one of the only emotions everyone can truly relate to. We have grown up on the want of finding that someone who fits all of our seams and expectations. In the search of your picture-perfect man or woman, remember to search and grow in yourself. If you are not becoming the woman or man you want to become, you will not know what kind of companion to attract or devote your life to.

Women:

Often we find ourselves asking questions revolving around us. Am I pretty enough? Will I be successful in the future? Why can’t I find the man of my dreams? We look at another woman and think she has it all, the body, the hair, the perfect man, a great job, and etc. In reality, though, every woman struggles. Now your struggles may be different, but that doesn’t mean you can’t relate in some form or fashion. As women, we should understand that NO woman is higher or lower than the other. Believe in yourself. I’m not saying you won’t have doubts, but overcome those doubts with faith and God. Establish yourself in a firm and strong foundation. Once you see your worth and value the options will begin to weed themselves out. Become a Woman of God and you will attract a man of God. That boy you longed for in the past will become a glimpse of what use to be. You’ll begin to understand why guys from previous relations never worked for YOU. Lastly, you’ll know what kind of morals and values the man you invest in will hold.

Men:

It is hard to stay spiritually, mentally and physically strong in today’s society. The temptations of the world are growing stronger and stronger. Instead of looking for beauty we long for seductiveness, we rather lust over someone than adore someone, and we rather play around with our hearts then invest in their seams. Men, please know that modesty, loyalty, and kindhearted woman do still exist. When beginning to know a woman look for “wife material,” characteristics. Does she hold herself to a high standard? Is she kind to everyone? Does she have a selfless heart? Lastly, in order to find the woman worthy of marriage, you must be worthy enough to her. In order to attract a woman of God, you must be a man of God, leading her in faith and in life at all times.

Men and women:

Remember when you are dating, in a relationship, or marriage, it takes equal effort. Some individuals say the person who cares the least holds the most control. Please don’t live your relationship or dating life through this perspective. Find someone who will cherish, care, invest, be loyal, honest, love, and selfless for YOU. Men and women deserve someone’s full heart. Relationships are not a 60/40 they are a 50/50. Have high standards and a pure heart.