10 Struggles Of Being Bilingual

10 Struggles Of Being Bilingual

Sometimes it all gets a little too real...

If you're bilingual you're probably familiar with some of the things in this list:

1. You don't know which language to think in.

You know those times… the times where you have an idea but you either don’t know with which language to further develop it or you don’t know which language you’re speaking in.

2. You have a hard time translating conversations.

“Hola, me llamo Sarah”… “Hello, her name is llama…" Ugh! No! Sarah. My name is Sarah.

3. When you forget words in both languages, and end up basically mute.

“What’s that one word that means the thing that does the thing? Sí, that one; you know the one, right? No not that one… the other one.” We’ve all been here before, right? Tell me it’s not just me. It’s even worse when the word or phrase you’re missing would be a hilarious response in the current conversation.

4. Speaking the wrong language at the wrong time.

It’s happened to me many times... where I’m chilling with my English-speaking friends and I answer back to them in Spanish. Only awkward glances and forced laughter from your part happens after that. The least awkward thing to do after that embarrassing situation is simply to leave. Just run. It’ll be better than explaining.

5. Speaking both languages at the same time.

Whenever I talk to my mom on the phone (or just in general), I find myself talking in both languages; alternating with no intelligent or coherent transitions.

It kinda’ sounds like this: “Hi, Mami. Yeah. Of course que sí. I told you que ella ya dijo que está fine. Yeah, no hay problems. Sí, okay, I’ll talk to you later. Adiós, quiero mucho.”

That’s it in a nutshell.

6. Messing up grammar... all the time.

When you just can’t figure it all out. It’s just not an easy task to remember every single rule for every single word or phrase. It’s simply not going to happen, so you give on grammar.

7. Not being completely fluent in either language.

Whenever someone says that it’s really cool to be fluent in two languages… you feel you might as well answer, “Yo no know” (without Spanglish, it means, I don’t know). You can usually partake in simple conversations in two different languages, but when it comes to more than that you’re dead meat.

8. Autocorrect. Period.

The keyboard settings never comply with the language you need at the moment. You’re trying to write “estornudo” and it switches to “is tornado”. Dear autocorrect, I’m trying to text my mom the velocity of my sneeze, not of a tornado.

9. Not knowing how to answer the phone.

Is it “hello”, “hola”, “haló”, “yo”, or “what up”? I don’t know what to do in those very difficult, real-life situations! The struggle is very real and I’m confused now.

10. The Love-Hate Relationship.

So maybe, just maybe there are a few struggles with speaking two languages. But you know you would never trade the ability! Not only can you communicate in two of the most popular languages in the world, you're probably going to be more sought-after in the job scene. It's a win-win! Be (healthily) proud of your bilingual-ness.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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It's 2019, And I Can Confirm One Size Does Not Fit All, At All

I'll take feeling good over meeting your standards. Thank you.


We live in a society where being yourself and expressing who you truly are is something that is becoming more and more accepted and is actually trendy. Left and right, people are coming forward and declaring who they are and want to be in life and there is a crowd of people there to cheer them on.

There is also always that small percent sitting in the corner, ready to throw derogatory comments and taint the self-love, respect, and acceptance that's flowing.

Every single time this happens, the internet breaks and feuds form in the comment sections. How many times does this fight have to be had before people just mind their own business? How someone looks is frankly none of your concern. Whether you think the person is too fat, too skinny, too girly, too rough, too whatever, it's none of your business.

I'm a firm believer that one should focus on their own life instead of living to tear others down. You should be more concerned with feeling good in your own body than wasting your energy trying to make people ashamed of theirs. It's not your place to comment on someone's appearance.

We should work on building up confidence and feeling good in our skin. Exercising, working on your mental health, and surrounding yourself with good energy will improve your life exponentially. DO NOT do this to achieve an aesthetic or try to look like an Instagram model. Only do it to feel good about yourself internally. What you look like on the outside should only matter to you.

I would be lying if I said I didn't fall victim to countless beautiful women who post their swimsuit photos looking like they stepped out of Vogue magazine. I would be lying if I said I didn't struggle with my own body image and have to remind myself daily that it's okay to not fit their mold. I won't lie to you. We live in a world that feels the need to comment on every inch of our skin rather than focus on more important issues. Shut off the noise and ignore the words that are given in hate. You have better things to do than focus on their negativity.

Make your own mold.

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