Stop Shoving Your Beliefs Down Your Child's Throat And Let Them Think For Themselves

Stop Shoving Your Beliefs Down Your Child's Throat And Let Them Think For Themselves

Society will never change if we keep those same small-minded beliefs.


Growing up, I didn't have the beliefs of my family dictate my life. I was not raised by people with huge opinions on things like religion and politics. In fact, I didn't even know the difference between the two parties until 2015.

Granted, it's not like my family has radical beliefs. I was always taught to treat others respectfully, which meant no bullying. I also was taught to not have prejudice. I never looked at someone with a different skin color or different sexuality as being lesser than.

I was raised Catholic, but the Bible wasn't the focal point of what I learned. In fact, I've never read the Bible in my life. I wasn't brought up in a home that valued religion and the teachings of an old book more than common sense. My family was also quiet when it came to politics. My mother never really shared her opinion on candidates when voting came around. It wasn't until this past election that I actually knew her opinion. Because of that, I was able to form my own opinions. We disagree on some things, but she's never tried to sway me into believing something just because she does.

That's how it should be. Children should be able to form their own opinions on things. If someone is being raised by racist or homophobic people constantly shoving that bullshit into their heads, we're just going to end up with more ignorant people.

I see young people with terrible opinions of others. Not because they've lived and decided what to think for themselves but because of their parents pushing them into believing nonsense. A child does not yet have the life experience to figure out who the bad people in life are, so tricking them into believing it's black people, gay people, immigrants, or whoever bigots blame for their problems, is just terrible.

Almost all the people I personally know who have very ignorant views of the world gained their insight from their parents. Meanwhile, those with more pleasant viewpoints often come from families like mine. Again, this is speaking from my personal experience.

I don't believe parents should force their beliefs on their children. Without the ability to think and form opinions for one's self, we'd all be brainwashed minions lacking independence and free will.

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11 Great Books For People Who Don't Like Reading

If you don't like to read, this is the article for you.

I’ve mentioned it before, and I’ll say it again, I am no reader. My twin sister, on the other hand, is a huge curly-q bookworm.

I always see her flying through novels for pure pleasure. I'll be honest, the sight of it makes me cringe. My body won't stay still after I get through 20 pages (unless I'm hooked). You can consider me the girl who doesn't finish anything (like Professor Calamitous in Jimmy Neutron...I even have the short stature down).

Maybe my dislike of reading stems from teachers force feeding us excruciatingly boring summer assignments.

1984? Straight up diarrhea

Fahrenheit? Vomit vomit vomit.

Animal Farm? Excruciatingly yuck.

The only thing I enjoyed about Animal Farm was laughing at how awful the movie was. On the other hand, give me a young adult novel, and you can count me in. I guess I have Vikas Turakhia to thank for introducing me to J.D Salinger and provoking my drive to become a better writer--after he made me cry and gave me a B- for a report regarding a book about Polenta. High-School was a time... amiright?

Anyway, even though I am not a big reader, there are still a few books that have stuck with me throughout the years. Here is a list of novels I highly recommend to those who associate reading with chores...this time it won't have to be.

1. Looking for Alaska

"Miles Halter is fascinated by famous last words–and tired of his safe life at home. He leaves for boarding school to seek what the dying poet Francois Rabelais called the “Great Perhaps.” Much awaits Miles at Culver Creek, including Alaska Young. Clever, funny, screwed-up, and dead sexy, Alaska will pull Miles into her labyrinth and catapult him into the Great Perhaps."

2. Eleanor and Park

"Two misfits.
One extraordinary love.

Eleanor... Red hair, wrong clothes. Standing behind him until he turns his head. Lying beside him until he wakes up. Making everyone else seem drabber and flatter and never good enough...Eleanor.

Park... He knows she'll love a song before he plays it for her. He laughs at her jokes before she ever gets to the punch line. There's a place on his chest, just below his throat, that makes her want to keep promises...Park.

Set over the course of one school year, this is the story of two star-crossed sixteen-year-olds—smart enough to know that first love almost never lasts, but brave and desperate enough to try."

3. City of Thieves

Written by the writer and producer of Game of Thrones... enough said. Another book that I was forced to read thanks to Vikas Turakhia and one I will never put down.

4. Paper Towns

"Quentin Jacobsen has spent a lifetime loving the magnificently adventurous Margo Roth Spiegelman from afar. So when she cracks open a window and climbs back into his life–dressed like a ninja and summoning him for an ingenious campaign of revenge–he follows. After their all-nighter ends and new day breaks, Q arrives at school to discover that Margo, always an enigma, has now become a mystery. But Q soon learns that there are clues–and they’re for him. Urged down a disconnected path, the closer he gets, the less Q sees the girl he thought he knew."

5. Franny and Zooey

"FRANNY came out in The New Yorker in 1955 and was swiftly followed, in 1957 by ZOOEY. Both stories are early, critical entries in a narrative series I'm doing about a family of settlers in twentieth-century New York, the Glasses. It is a long-term project, patently an ambiguous one, and there is a real-enough danger, I suppose that sooner or later I'll bog down, perhaps disappear entirely, in my own methods, locations, and mannerisms. On the whole, though, I'm very hopeful. I love working on these Glass stories, I've been waiting for them most of my life, and I think I have fairly decent, monomaniacal plans to finish them with due care and all-available skill." -Salinger

6. The Catcher in the Rye

"The hero-narrator of The Catcher in the Rye is an ancient child of sixteen, a native New Yorker named Holden Caulfield. Through circumstances that tend to preclude adult, secondhand description, he leaves his prep school in Pennsylvania and goes underground in New York City for three days.

The boy himself is at once too simple and too complex for us to make any final comment about him or his story. Perhaps the safest thing we can say about Holden is that he was born in the world not just strongly attracted to beauty but, almost, hopelessly impaled on it.

There are many voices in this novel: children's voices, adult voices, underground voices-but Holden's voice is the most eloquent of all. Transcending his own vernacular, yet remaining marvelously faithful to it, he issues a perfectly articulated cry of mixed pain and pleasure. However, like most lovers and clowns and poets of the higher orders, he keeps most of the pain too, and for, himself. The pleasure he gives away, or sets aside, with all his heart. It is there for the reader who can handle it to keep.

J.D. Salinger's classic novel of teenage angst and rebellion was first published in 1951. The novel was included on Time's 2005 list of the 100 best English-language novels written since 1923. It was named by Modern Library and its readers as one of the 100 best English-language novels of the 20th century. It has been frequently challenged in the court for its liberal use of profanity and portrayal of sexuality and in the 1950's and 60's it was the novel that every teenage boy wants to read."

7. The Westing Games

"A bizarre chain of events begins when sixteen unlikely people gather for the reading of Samuel W. Westing's will. And though no one knows why the eccentric, game-loving millionaire has chosen a virtual stranger - and a possible murderer - to inherit his vast fortune, one thing's for sure: Sam Westing may be dead... but that won't stop him from playing one last game!"

8. Milk and Honey

"milk and honey is a collection of poetry and prose about survival. It is about the experience of violence, abuse, love, loss, and femininity. It is split into four chapters, and each chapter serves a different purpose, deals with a different pain, heals a different heartache. milk and honey takes readers through a journey of the most bitter moments in life and finds sweetness in them because there is sweetness everywhere if you are just willing to look. "

9. Room

"To five-year-old-Jack, Room is the world....

Told in the inventive, funny, and poignant voice of Jack, Room is a celebration of resilience - and a powerful story of a mother and son whose love lets them survive the impossible.

To five-year-old Jack, Room is the entire world. It is where he was born and grew up; it's where he lives with his Ma as they learn and read and eat and sleep and play. At night, his Ma shuts him safely in the wardrobe, where he is meant to be asleep when Old Nick visits.

Room is home to Jack, but to Ma, it is the prison where Old Nick has held her captive for seven years. Through determination, ingenuity, and fierce motherly love, Ma has created a life for Jack. But she knows it's not enough...not for her or for him. She devises a bold escape plan, one that relies on her young son's bravery and a lot of luck. What she does not realize is just how unprepared she is for the plan to actually work.

Told entirely in the language of the energetic, pragmatic five-year-old Jack, Room is a celebration of resilience and the limitless bond between parent and child, a brilliantly executed novel about what it means to journey from one world to another."

10. Replica

"Two Girls, Two Stories, One Book"-

11. Mother, Can You Not?

"In Mother, Can You NOT?, Kate Siegel pays tribute to the woman whose helicopter parenting may make your mom look like Mother Teresa. From embarrassing moments (like her mother’s surprise early morning visit, catching Kate in bed with her crush) to outrageous stories (such as the time she moved cross country to be near Kate’s college) to hilarious mantras (“NO STD TEST, YOU WON’T BE GETTING SEXED!”), Mother, Can you NOT? lovingly lampoons the lengths to which our mothers will go to better our lives (even if it feels like they’re ruining them in the process)."
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Bring Back The Art Of The Hand-Written Letter

Instead of moving forward in communication lets go back.


Now a day when you think about communicating with another person, texting, calling and emailing may pop up in your head on ways to do so. Though there is another way to communicate with others which is a handwritten letter. Yes, this is actually a way of communication that cost you money as you have to pay for the shipping but when you really think the other mediums cost money to send also.

You would have to pay at least $20 a month for phone or internet to get email, text or call which is way more expensive than a letter which is less than a dollar to send.

And it wasn't till last week when I was writing my aunt a hand-written letter that I really noticed how far we have progressed and evolved in communication. As I was writing I had to google search how to properly format the beginning of the letter. Then when I was finished with writing the letter and having to fill out the information on the envelope, I realized that I didn't know where to place the stamp because unlike greeting cards it doesn't have a box marking where to place the stamp so another google search occurred.

Maybe if we lived in a world where communication wasn't at our fingertips there may not have been a need for the google searches about a handwritten letter and sending them.

Don't get me wrong though I think the evolution of communication on the ability to send and receive information is great. But there always going to be something nostalgic and amazing about a hand-written letter. It could possibly be that you know that person had to take a certain amount of time out of their day to send the letter to you from either getting stamps to actually posting it in the mail. Another way of thinking about it though is that if you didn't mean something to the person sending the letter or they didn't mean something to you a quicker way of communication would have occurred or it would have been typed and posted in the mail.

So, let's maybe all take the time this year and write a letter to a loved one or a friend that may not live close by. Experience the feeling that the letter can bring to both you and the receiver because honestly nothing can compare to the what you feel after finish writing after your hand cramping or going to your mailbox and seeing a white envelope with your name written.

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