When I stopped caring about what people may or may not have thought about me I stopped trying to be someone I am not.

I have been criticized all my life for being too loud, too outgoing, too honest, too talkative but you know what? That is who I am and when I finally stopped caring, I began to embrace my 'flaws.' When I stopped focusing on the flaws of my personality it became clear of the things I loved about my personality, which is what matters.

The flaws that make up each and every person shapes who they are. This is what is so beautiful about being different because we come together and fit like puzzle pieces, benefitting off one another. It is cliche to say that 'everyone is unique in their own way,' but it is true. It is something that is overused which makes the meaning less meaningful, but those words go beyond the cliche.

What I learned when I stopped caring is that I am who I am which is flawed but unique. It lifted a weight that has been on my shoulders and allowed me to relax and enjoy life. We seem to get caught up in the mist of trying to be 'perfect.' But, what is perfect? This is a word that varies from person to person, what someone does not care for about you another person will absolutely love.

When you stop caring you start caring about the things that mean the most to you in life. You have more time for the people you love and enjoy their presence. You live in the moment and forget about the mistakes of the past. How you perceive yourself is a reflection on how you view the world. The attitude you hold, defines how you will view the life you live.

Caring too much about our flaws is what makes them flaws. We have to redefine the word flaw, because it is so much deeper than the definition, afeaturethatmarstheperfectionofsomething. But, the thing we all get so hung up on is the world perfection. What is perfection? Who dictates what it is? What are the standards? Guess what. There are no standards of perfection because it can be taken so many different ways. A flaw could be a book out of order in the library or having a crooked smile. But, instead of calling it a flaw it could just be different. We have these preconceived notions of how things are supposed to pan out in life but why? Not everything will go the way you plan. So when you stop caring about the ending of how it works out you start focusing on the stuff happening in the moment.

What I have learned when I stopped caring is that suddenly everything fades, you stop listening to what people have to comment on in life, you become happier. You become you.