New Year, New Semester, But Still The Same Me

New Year, New Semester, But Still The Same Me

Forget the saying "New Year, New Me!"


Everyone on Social media Always says the same thing, "New Year, New Me," but they never actually do anything. Thus making them the same them they were the previous year. The Saying is worn out now, it has even become a joke to many. Which is understandable given that society's humor has just developed into something no one quite understands.

Regardless, Using the phrase "New Year, New Me" is like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound. It has no real meaning unless you actually do something about it. People say the phrase to be trendy, but in all honesty, no one really cares. So what if you post a picture with the saying as the caption, you will still be the same person if you do not do something to change.

In a way, it is a New Years resolution, and everyone knows that most resolutions never work out, especially for me. The past few years I made many resolutions in which I never honestly stuck to. I entered most years with empty promises to myself, and lying to one's self is not a good thing to do.

Be truthful and not makeup goals that are clearly not going to be attained due to the lack of real motivation. Set smaller personal goals that you know will still change your lifestyle for the better but also with little effort. Start off little, Do not go into this year saying you'll lose weight, say you'll change your eating habits. Most people do not want to put much effort into things, and by changing smaller things you could easily get to your "Ultimate" goal.

However, Saying you'll change yourself every new year seems to be self-deprecating in a way. Wanting to better one's self is not a crime, but wanting to change yourself because it is trendy should not be encouraged.

While it's good to want to change one or many of your toxic habits and forgive others. But in reality, if you truly do not want to change, It will not happen. Stilling to resolutions is a major test of one's will power and I have not met many people who have honestly stuck to theirs.

In a sense, new years resolutions seem to cause more problems than actual solutions to one's problems. Saying "New Year, New Me" will not magically end the argument you were having, or magically poof the weight you want to get rid of away. It does not fix anything.

So this year I am doing it a tad bit different. I plan on being the same person I have always been and try to work on the many toxic traits I have. Maybe eat better, who knows. I want to make more friends, be more outgoing.

Most of all I want to really love myself. I encourage everyone to discard of the saying, "New Year, New Me." And just learn to love your self.

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It's OK To Choose Yourself First Sometimes

You shouldn't feel bad about putting yourself first.


Life can be pretty overwhelming at times, and it doesn't make it easier when you are trying to please everyone around you. Sometimes it gets to the point where you want to make sure everyone around you is OK that you forget to focus on yourself once in a while. I know this because that is what I do - on a daily basis. However, as I have entered my first year of college, I have realized now more than ever that I need to focus on myself once in a while.

I used to believe that putting myself first was selfish and that by not checking in on my friends every day I was being a shitty friend. Now I understand that if people leave due to you wanting to take care of yourself, then open the door for them on their way out. You don't need those type of people in your life, because real friends would want you to take care of yourself. If you go through life only doing things for others you are saying it's OK to put yourself last. But at the end of the day, the only person on this earth you need to take care of is yourself.

You have to make sure you are healthy; you have to make sure you are making a living for yourself; you have to make sure you are mentally stable; you have to make sure that you are happy. Only you. Thinking that choosing yourself makes you selfish is the farthest thing from the truth. If anything, choosing yourself is brave. Choosing yourself shows that you will not let what other peoples opinions of you affect your mindset. You know yourself better than anyone and you know what you need to do in order to maintain your well being.

The amount of stress people have to deal with these days is unbelievable. If you take even 30 minutes out of your day to focus on you, that could make all the difference in the world. Choosing yourself does not always mean going to have a spa day or sleeping in to watch Netflix. Choosing yourself could be reading instead of going out with friends. It could be eating your favorite food for lunch. It could be deleting social media. Every person has different methods of self-care that fit into his or her specific lifestyle. Choosing yourself could make all the difference in the world because it reminds you that you are important too. Sometimes the world just gets a little too hectic at times, and you want to make sure everyone around you is OK, but you have to remember to make sure you're okay, too.

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An Open Letter To The City Council of Munford, Alabama

The Eagles said it best, "You can't hide your lyin' eyes."


In October of 2018, my Sons of Confederate Veterans Camp #454 (Samuel C. Kelly) was looking for a meeting spot. After much searching, and some hateful treatment by staff at the Friendship Community Center, we found Munford. It seemed like a godsend The Mayor came out of her office when she heard us discussing with the staff what plans we had regarding our camp meetings if approved. The Mayor, Mrs. Fambrough was thrilled that we had come to Munford. She literally welcomed our camp with open arms. After a brief discussion, she told us that she was perfectly fine with us meeting there. She did add that we need to introduce ourselves (myself and my Lieutenant) to the council. To clarify any questions or answer any questions. We made plans to attend, added ourselves to the agenda, and waited.

December 4th rolled around, we attended wearing coats and ties. We began handing out information packets in the council meeting. Adding that this was a work session for the council, there were some absentees. I took this into consideration and I left additional information packets with the Mayor. We were again graciously accepted by all in attendance. We left a $300 check with the Magistrate of the town to be used towards the upkeep of the meeting hall we intended to be using. All went well after that, and we left so the council could finish their business.

December 11, 2018 I received a text message in all caps saying: "DO NOT EVER PUT A REBEL FLAG AT THE BLUE HOUSE! YOU WILL NO LONGER MEET THERE IF THAT'S THE CASE! Thank You" Baffled, bewildered, and confused to say the least, I had no idea what to do. The "rebel flag" she refers to is the Confederate battle flag. The literal trademarked logo of the Sons of Confederate Veterans. In fact, the Sons have full ownership, this is stated by the Confederate Veterans who voted to pass this organizational responsibility down to the Sons.

I set up a meeting with the mayor 48 hours from the time I received the text message, I carried more documents to explain to her the importance of this organization. She acted like there was no misunderstanding. We would be allowed to use our flags, as long as we did not leave them in the meeting place permanently. She once again had a smile on her face and was glad to have us. We left in a confused state

January rolled around, we held our first camp meeting and began planning events for the year. This was to include voluntary painting the meeting house inside, improving the lights, removing old wallpaper, and restoring the front porch. The meeting went well. We had about 8 in attendance, all were ready to help improve our new meeting place. Having a new meeting place meant taking pride in it, our podium was left on loan there, we hung framed articles of local history there, and even began working on a project that would include a crowd of possibly 10,000 people.

All of these plans collapsed when we submitted a letter of agreement to the City, as requested. The city began a month-long period of feet dragging. Instead of the council agreeing, they did not provide an answer.

On February 7th, 12 days before our camp meeting, I received an email. The Mayor stated that the council decided not to agree to our terms, they offered little to no options for a renegotiation or a meeting to try and get this decision reversed. We were told to come to Munford retrieve our belongings. I immediately demanded our donation check back, which they agreed to return.

My purpose in writing this letter is to ask the City Council, why were we refused? The Sons of Confederate Veterans is a 501(c) 3 nonprofit. By denying us the right to meet, even by paying you have opened up the opportunity for us to sue for discrimination. A. Federal. Court. Opportunity.

Munford, this is not the attention you want. We as an organization deserve answers. I have moved on, but for the sake of my camp members, they deserve an apology. You cannot consider yourself tolerant people if you remove things that honor our veterans.

We cleaned your monument for free.

We gave you free copies of research that took hours to obtain.

We collaborated on finding you lights for your flagpoles.

We gave you a service of writing a history on a historic home, this will not be fulfilled.

We gave you assistance on a veterans memorial, this will not be fulfilled.

You gave us an eviction notice with no explanation.

Zachary C. Grizzard

Camp Commander

Samuel C. Kelly Camp #454 Oxford & Munford, Alabama

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