I’m Naked And Still Not Asking For It

The feminist movement is growing ever so rapidly; and although I want my rights just as much as the next person, some of the positions that I’m seeing are just a little too extreme.

Recently, the “Still Not Asking For It” movement was brought to my attention by one of my close friends. He sent me the picture that I used as my cover photo and he basically said that it was complete bullshit! He, just like many other males would have, pretty much said that if a female were to come back to his place and get bucky naked, he’s smashing! No if’s, and’s, or but’s about it.

I have to admit that I pretty much agreed with him. The feminist movement began growing when rape culture became prevalent in America. From what I understand, a feminist’s position is pretty much along the lines of not deserving to be raped despite how they choose to dress, look, or act. I get that. I agree with that. No woman deserves to be raped. Cool.

However, I believe that this whole movement has given women a sense of entitlement regarding sex and some have just taken it too far. The problem with the entire movement lies with one word: provoke. It can be agreed upon that some actions simply cannot be viewed as anything but acts of enticing another party. Having said that, while it is true that she’s not “asking” for sex by suddenly getting naked, she’s still provoking him! I don’t care how much she yells about her body being hers, I don’t know any man – young or old – who could watch a woman walk around his apartment butt naked and not assume that she wants to have sex… especially if he didn’t ask her to take anything off or suggest that he wanted to do anything sexual in the first place. Actions speak louder than words. So if a man sees a woman casually stripping naked in his living room, what is he to do? Offer her a soda?

I don’t really see the point in the “Still Not Asking For It” movement. Maybe I just don’t understand! I mean, I know that the feminists are trying to make a statement, but this isn't the way to do it. I feel like it’s a radical and irrational idea for a woman to flaunt her body in a way that says “come and get me; I'm ready,” while expecting for the guy to still ask for sex. You’ve already gotten 40% of the work out of the way on your own! Asking would probably be the farthest thing from his mind…

Also, I can’t help but wonder how the case would be handled in court if the situation were to actually occur. Legally, rape is defined as “the penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person without the consent of the victim.” (justice.gov) Yes, something would be penetrated; and no, the victim (in this case, the woman) wouldn’t have consented verbally. But does it matter that she just walked in the house and took off her clothes? Does that count as consent?

What do you think? Leave me a comment with your opinion. Let’s talk about it!