Why I Am Stepping Out Of My Comfort Zone And You Should Too

Why I Am Stepping Out Of My Comfort Zone And You Should Too

Standing on the edge may be scary, but jumping in to the uncomfortable may be the best way to grow


No one likes being uncomfortable. I, for one, hate change. I would be content just sticking to my routine and doing the same things with the same people every day for the rest of my life.

I know that's not realistic, though, and it is definitely not healthy. Humans are meant to grow, change and develop over time. We are not meant to be stagnant. But how exactly do you build up the courage to be vulnerable? Push yourself out of your comfort zone.

I am stepping out of my comfort zone at this point in my life for many reasons. I am starting new chapters of my life, whether I want to admit it or not.

I begin my senior year of college this fall; I turn a new decade, 20, in less than a month; and I just recently got out of a year and a half long relationship with the man I thought I was going to marry.


As much as I want to stay in the comfort of my routine and the past, it just isn't what my life needs right now. I need to use this time to explore and discover myself and the only way to do that is to put myself in cripplingly uncomfortable situations.

Even though my entire life at this point is one cripplingly uncomfortable situation.

Being vulnerable is different for everyone. One way for me is by writing for this website. I have always loved writing, but the thought of letting someone else read it made me want to throw up from anxiety.

Look at me now.

This is published on a website for anyone and everyone to read. A couple of months ago, I could not have imagined myself doing anything like this. I am so happy I did though.

Doing something uncomfortable has made me realize that this is something I really enjoy doing. I enjoy sharing my thoughts and opinions with others on subjects I am passionate about.

Not everyone is able to step up to the edge of their comfort zone and just dive into the deep abyss that is vulnerability. You can start slow.

No one is pressuring you to chop off all of your hair and move to a different state. If you're a college student, that might mean joining a new club or organization where you don't know anyone. It might mean introducing yourself to your professor and going to visit them during their office hours.

It could mean facing your fear of needles and going to donate blood, or even going out to dinner by yourself. It can be small stuff. As long as you are pushing yourself to experience new things, you are going to experience a change in who you are as a person.

Yes, you might feel awkward and strange, and you may end up doing things that you end up not liking. But you may also find a new passion, a new friend, or a new love for something or someone.

Challenge and change will help you grow as an individual and it will open your mind to new ideas and perspectives. And isn't that the goal for all of us? To become better versions of ourselves?

You may think, oh I'll start on new years, or on my birthday. No, that is not the right mindset. What better time to start than now?

Be uncomfortable. Be awkward. Be vulnerable.

That's how you'll find your courage and that is where you will ultimately find yourself.

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6 Important Must Knows For Dating Sassy And Sarcastic Girls

Brace yourselves boys, she's a tough one.

Dating a girl with a big personality can be tricky. They are some of the most amazing girls but to keep them, one needs to understand them. Here are six important things you must be aware of before you give your heart to a sassy and sarcastic girl.

1. Stubborn

She is going to be the most stubborn creature you will ever meet. I say "creature" because she might actually scare you with how much she refuses to back down until you have full proof she is wrong. And if you can’t prove her wrong, just suck up your pride and let her be right or she’ll never quit. But just remember that she’s simply passionate about whatever it is and you should be proud of her for that.

2. Bluntness

She is going to be blunt. So be prepared to hear the truth. She isn’t going to care how mad you get, if you’re being rude, she won’t be afraid to put you in your place. If your choice of clothing isn’t matching, she’ll tell you. Whatever it is, she isn’t going to keep the truth from you. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes she’s just a little too straightforward.

3. Sensitivity

Be careful sometimes with your choice of words. Though she is blunt, she is also sensitive. Her sarcastic personality is sometimes just a defense mechanism because she fears opening up. She worries a lot and continues to ponder the things you say. Remind her she is loved.

4. Friends

She is going to have a lot more guy friends than she will have girl friends. Why? Because guys tend to find more humor in her sarcasm and don’t take it so personal, whereas other girls take it as she’s being serious and just rude. However, don’t be jealous because trust me, you’re 100 percent hers and those guy friends are just that — friends.

5. Insults

She’s not going to flirt with you by giggling and blushing and calling you cute. She’s going to call you an idiot and smack you across the shoulder or back because to her, that’s easier than being all giddy and speechless over how much she likes you. And even when she’s calling you names, which really is in all fun and games, she doesn’t mean it seriously, she’s actually just saying “I love you” in her own special language.

6. Shorty

If she’s short in addition to being sassy and sarcastic, you’re in for a big treat with her. She is not only going to be full of fast wit, but she is going to have so much spunk in her you won’t know what to do. She will be so feisty that she won’t be afraid of anything or anyone and you yourself won’t even know how to handle her. That’s what makes her special.

It takes a certain type of person to be able to give their heart to someone who can so easily break it with their strong headed personality. But a sarcastic and sassy girl is going to be the one girl who is going to love you with all that she has. Treat her right, and she’ll treat you right.

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