Christmas presents under the tree, feating around the table, and endless amounts of quality time with loved ones.
But not for everyone.
A homeless man sleeps in a post-office on the night of Christmas Eve.
A mother hopes that there will be enough food to last the winter.
And a child wonders why Santa doesn't bring toys to their house.
In reality, Christmas is not a great time for many. Almost every day I went to a coffee shop called Castellos. The waitress is very nice, and one day I asked her if she is excited about the holidays. Her English isn't great but she replied, "No, my family is not good". This is a woman who is bright every day, and she is not cheery about the holiday season.
During the rest of the year its easy to stay busy with work or school. There are plenty of people to interact with on a daily basis, but when they all go home to see their families that is when the loneliness kicks in. The holidays are a time when being alone is most painful, but I am here to tell you that you are not alone. There is a sigma is movies that Christmas is a perfect magical time of the year. Where lovers get together and parents shower their children in love. Spending time with family might be good for some, but for others, it might be a reminder of how alone you really are.
Loneliness is never fun, but there are some ways to combat these negative emotions.
Local churches are very willing to open up their doors for people who may not have anyone to spend Christmas with. There are Blue Christmas church services you can look for. These are services for those who are going through difficult times during the holidays.
Being alone can also help with channeling self-care. Maybe head over to that yoga class you have been dying to take. Most businesses are open before and after Christmas. Getting out can help your chances of meeting people who are going through the same things you are.
Give a friend or coworker a call. It is likely that people have time off work/school and would love to hear from you. This could be a good break from family for them, and a comforting conversation for you.
if you are alone during the holidays this year I promise this won't last forever. There are seasons of loneliness and seasons of relational fulfillment. Don't be afraid to reach out to people. You might be surprised at how many people really care.
