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What It Was Really Like To Go Through Sorority Recruitment In College

Two weekends of high hopes and high heels.


Going through sorority recruitment is a concept that many girls can't wait to experience. While all girls want to "find their people" and make some memories, the fear of rejection or not having your outfit game be strong haunts girls for the two weekends of the process. As someone who recently went through spring recruitment, I can say that the process, while it may be tiring, is much more than worth it. While my experience was subject to my school and organized specifically by members of the school, the overall process should be fairly similar to any recruitment process in general. So, to help guide any girl considering whether or not rushing is for her, here is what it is really like:

Day 1 - Normally Called Values Round

This is the round where you visit every single house. Yes. Every. Single. House. By far, this is the most tiring. But if the girl next to you can do it, so can you. Seriously, you can do it. When I did it the girl next to me in my group had the flu and a 102 fever, but she just popped Ibuprofen, rallied, and still got a bid at the end of the process. For this round you're talking to girls about the easiest topic, yourself. This does mean that you'll probably have the same conversation a million times, so prepare yourself for a lot of "I'm from here, this is my major, and this is why I decided to rush."

Day 2 - Normally Called Philanthropy Round

For this round your list of houses will get shorter, and each sorority teaches you about which charities and philanthropies they each dedicate their services to. Girls will tell you about fun events they do to better the community and raise money for causes ranging from cancer, to vision impairment, to the Ronald McDonald House.

Day 3 - Normally Called Sisterhood Round

This is the round where the videos come out. Get ready for a lot of pop songs and footage of girls smiling, jumping, and hugging one another. As much as you want to say it's cheesy and gross, you'll find yourself loving it and hoping next year you'll be one of those girls waving a tapestry in the air with all her best friends.

Day 4 - Normally Called Preference Round

By far the best round, preference round only involves two or three houses, so by that point you've hopefully already narrowed it down to ones that you click with anyways. Oh, and did I mention you get food? It's been a long ride, but preference is the last step, so put on your heeled booties and your best smile, and have some killer conversations.

Day 5 - Bid Day

This is the point that officially marks the end of recruitment! You've made it through, you've found your place, and now it's time to celebrate. This day is all about meeting your new sisters, dancing like crazy, and having an all out glitter party, because trust me, if you've made it through recruitment, you deserve it!

Overall, sorority recruitment can be a stressful process, but it really is worth it in the end. If you be yourself, have some fun, and yes, "trust the process," you'll end up with more than friends, you'll have a family.

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Bethel Church's Gay Conversion Program Is A Huge Problem And We're Not Talking Enough About It

Religion doesn't give us a right to purposefully abuse a community.


About a year ago, in May of 2018, Bethel Church in Redding, California came out publicly against a set of proposed laws which would make it illegal for a licensed mental health professional to perform 'conversion therapy' in order to change the sexual orientation or same-sex attractions of a person. The head pastor of the church asked for members of Bethel Church to act against the three bills (California AB 1779, AB 2943 and AB 2119), urging them to contact their congressmen and ask for them to prevent the laws from passing, all in order for them to continue their harmful ex-gay ministry.

Today, Bethel Church is under scrutiny for the role out of their ex-gay conversion initiative, CHANGED. The website of the initiative movement claims that any change is possible through Jesus, and encourages those who identify as LGBTQ+ to abandon the "pain, rejection, and despair," of being LGBTQ+. (CHANGED website). This movement is not the first, but just the next in a long line of organizations claiming to provide change for those who identify as LGBTQ+, despite this being an impossibility. Ex-gay programs, in actuality, only serve to push those who go through them farther away from the love of God.

Conversion therapy for LGBTQ+ people has been proven not only to be completely ineffective but has also been found to cause intense mental issues and in many cases, a strong correlation to suicide. Those who have gone through ex-gay therapy programs such as Exodus International or Focus on the Family's Love Won Out have admitted that even after successfully completing the program they had not experienced a change in their same-sex attraction. The founder of Exodus International even claimed that by his estimation, 99.9% of those who had gone through his organization's therapy had not experienced any change in their orientation. Exodus International was considered intensely controversial, and their methods considered by most, if not all, mental health professionals to be incredibly damaging. Those who come out of conversion therapy experience intense feelings of depression and often experience a lack of self-worth.

As a Christian, I grieve every single time someone claiming to believe what I do comes out and condemns the LGBT community. It hurts to see one community I am a member of being hateful towards another community I am just as proud to be a part of. This news stung a little harder because I for a long time have loved Bethel Church's worship band. Their songs have spoken to me in ways I cannot fully describe, helping to bring me closer to the God I believe in. A God who I can say for certain would never advocate for something as damaging and destructive as conversion therapy. The same Jesus who Bethel's songs worship is the same Jesus who calls us to love everyone. Bethel Church is not following this call, and it is important that we speak out against conversion therapy, and not allow our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ to carry out such a harmful program.

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You Know You're From Trumbull, CT When...

The best memories are made in this boring, little, Connecticut town.


1. The majority of places you will consider to eat at are in Fairfield or Westport... Colony, Shake Shack, Country Cow, Playa Bowls, BarTaco

2. But if you find yourself too lazy to get on 95 for food, Panchero's is the go-to... never Chipotle. If it is past midnight, the choice always comes down to the McDonalds in Monroe, where you are almost guaranteed to see a group of people you know, or Merritt Canteen.

3. Once you got your license, your Friday night plans consisted of picking up friends, driving up and down Main Street, and, somehow, always finding yourself at the THS parking lot seeing who's car is there because there is nothing better to do.

4. In the Fall, you couldn't wait for Friday so that after school you and half of your grade could walk to Plasko's Farm for ice cream and apple cider donuts... and hope you could get them before the owners would yell at you to leave. (This one only applies to Hillcrest Middle School kids, AKA the inferior middle school in town).

5. You couldn't wait to be a senior so you could officially lead the BLACK HOLE at football games... if you were even willing to go in the cold.

6. You looked forward to the annual Senior Scav, the last week of summer before your senior year where a list of tasks is passed down by the recently graduated class... the official kickoff to senior year.

7. You pass by Country Club Rd. and get flashbacks from the worst Cross Country practices ever. Driving up Daniels Farm Rd. in the Fall and Spring, you are conditioned to yell "hi" out the window to your friends at practice.

8. You knew someone who worked at Gene's gas station... and found yourself spending more time there on the weekends than you would like to admit.

9. You are convinced Melon-heads are real after frequenting Velvet St. to see the abandoned insane asylum with your friends, IF you didn't want to drive all the way up to Fairfield Hills in Newtown.

10. You have had/have been to at least one middle school birthday party at the Trumbull Marriott.

11. You know that the 25mph speed limit on Whitney Ave. is way too slow... and can't help but hit a little air going down the huge hill at the top.

12. The guy at Towne likely knows your name.

13. You never find yourself turning right out of THS... that side of town is irrelevant for those who do not live there.

14. You know to avoid the Merrit Parkway from 4:00-7:00pm at all costs.

15. You know more than you would like to about people you aren't even friends with... in a town so small, things get around very quick.

16. Going shopping really means going to Target, or any store in the mall, for the millionth time that week.

17. The marching band was the best in the state and you would see them practicing, literally, every time you drove by THS.

19. Depending on the side of town you lived, you spent a lot of time at Five Pennies Park or Indian Ledge Park.

20. You would say you couldn't wait to leave, but when you got to college, you find yourself excited to come back to your hometown so you can reminisce on old traditions and make new memories.

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