From The Girl Who Skipped The Spring Break Party Scene

From The Girl Who Skipped The Spring Break Party Scene

Not your typical spring break.

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I'm a junior in college. It's a very weird year. Some people seem to have their whole lives figured out, and some are still unsure of their majors. Regardless of which one of those people you are, there are a lot of things going on, and you feel out of control. Thankfully, spring break comes at just the perfect time.

Along with the feeling of my somewhat different year, I had a somewhat different spring break. When you're young, spring break is a time to relax with your family, whether that be going on a trip or just staying at home. I became accustomed to this all throughout middle school and high school... but then came college.

Spring break in college is very much a different type of break than your idea of a relaxing family vacation. For a lot of people, it means packing all your friends into one hotel room to keep the prices down and constant partying. Constant. It really isn't a break at all. I'm not saying this is bad, because I've done it and it's very fun, but it's also very tiring.

So, this year I took a different approach to spring break... a mix of both.

I was slow trying to plan something with my friends, so instead, I decided that I would just come home and have a relaxing break. This sounded great until I realized that 10 days at home with most of my friends being gone or busy would sadly not be the great vacation I thought it would be. That's where my lovely mom stepped in. She had the idea for us to take a little girls trip for a few days to Florida.

It might not sound like much, but it was honestly one of the best spring break vacations I've ever had. The trip wasn't anything fancy — we took a brutally early flight out Monday morning, stayed in a dinky little motel by the beach, and returned home on a late flight Wednesday night.

So, maybe you're wondering: How this was the best trip? For starters, there was no pressure to have a plan, make plans ahead of time, or even to look nice. We got up early in the morning, went to the beach, got lunch, went back to the beach, got dinner, and went to bed. Obviously, there were little things in between, but the main gist was just that.

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Not only did I feel completely relaxed, but I got to truly spend time with my mom. Not a quick dinner after a long drive home from school or sitting on the couch playing on the phone while she sat next to me. It was refreshing to spend time with someone I love so much. When you go to college, it's easy to get wrapped up in everything that's going on, and although I call my mom once a day (OK, maybe a few times), I forget how much I love hanging out with her.

Obviously being on the beach for a few days was nice too, but our little vacation gave me the best of both worlds. I got to have a fun spring break, just a bit differently than I usually would have. This time I didn't party so hard that my body hurt; instead, I gave my body the relief it needed.

I wouldn't have thought changing it up would give me so much joy, but sometimes you need a little change of pace.

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PSA: Keep Your Body-Negative Opinions Away From Little Girls This Summer

But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with.

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It's officially swimsuit season, y'all.

The temperature is rising, the sun is bright and shining, and a trip to the beach couldn't look more appealing than it does right now. This is the time of year that many of us have been rather impatiently waiting for. It's also the time of year that a lot of us feel our most self-conscious.

I could take the time to remind you that every body is a bikini body. I could type out how everyone is stunning in their own unique way and that no one should feel the need to conform to a certain standard of beauty to feel beautiful, male or female. I could sit here and tell you that the measurement of your waistline is not a reflection of your worth. I completely believe every single one of these things.

Hell, I've shared these exact thoughts more times than I can count. This time around, however, I'm not going to say all these things. Instead, I'm begging you to push your insecurities to the side and fake some confidence in yourself when you're in front of others.

Why?

Because our negative self-image is toxic and contagious and we're spreading this negative thinking on to others.

We're all guilty of this, we're with family or a friend and we make a nasty comment about some aspect of our appearance, not even giving a single thought to the impact our words have on the person with us. You might think that it shouldn't bother them- after all, we're not saying anything bad about them! We're just expressing our feelings about something we dislike about ourselves. While I agree that having conversations about our insecurities and feelings are important for our mental and emotional health, there is a proper and improper way of doing it. An open conversation can leave room for growth, acceptance, understanding, and healing. Making a rude or disheartening remark about yourself is destructive not only to yourself, but it will make the person you are saying these things around question their own self worth or body image by comparing themselves to you.

My little sister thinks she's "fat." She doesn't like how she looks. To use her own words, she thinks she's "too chubby" and that she "looks bad in everything."

She's 12 years old.

Do you want to know why she has this mindset? As her older sister, I failed in leading her by example. There were plenty of times when I was slightly younger, less sure of myself, and far more self-conscious than I am now, that I would look in the mirror and say that I looked too chubby, that my body didn't look good enough, that I wished I could change the size of my legs or stomach.

My little sister had to see the older sibling she looks up to, the big sis she thinks always looks beautiful, say awful and untrue things about herself because her own sense of body image was warped by media, puberty, and comparing herself to others.

My negativity rubbed off onto her and shaped how she looks at herself. I can just imagine her watching me fret over how I look thinking, "If she thinks she's too big, what does that make me?"

It makes me feel sick.

All of us are dealing with our own insecurities. It takes some of us longer than others to view ourselves in a positive, loving light. We're all working on ourselves every day, whether it be mentally, physically, or emotionally. But our own baggage shouldn't be shoved on to those we surround ourselves with, our struggles and insecurities should not form into their own burdens.

Work on yourself in private. Speak kindly of yourself in front of others. Let your positivity, real or not, spread to others instead of the bad feelings we have a bad habit of letting loose.

The little girls of the world don't need your or my negative self-image this summer. Another kid doesn't need to feel worthless because we couldn't be a little more loving to ourselves and a lot more conscious of what we say out loud.

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Stop Missing Summer Because Of Your Terrible Sleeping Patterns

It's a bad habit.

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We've all been guilty of a self-indulgent lie-in from time to time, whether we went to bed late the previous night or need a mental health day. But when summer rolls around, it becomes so easy to let the occasional lie-in until noon turns into a horrible habit.

Admittedly, it is nice to put off responsibilities that hang over our shoulders during the school year by staying in bed. It's great to be lazy every once in a while. It can do wonders for your mindset.

However, if you have nothing begging for your attention when the semester is over, that habit can become self-destructive in a way. You stay up past midnight, wake up around noon, dress—and then, the day is nearly over.

It becomes a vicious cycle that is difficult to undo, and if you don't undo it, you're missing out on a large chunk of your summer.

I find this has been happening to me recently. I stay up until two in the morning as I only work a few days a week, and wake up around noon. But in two hours, my sisters finish school, and what have I accomplished? Absolutely nothing!

The self-indulgent lie-in becomes miserable as you see those wasted hours turn to dust, and before you know it, you've already been at home for a month. What do you have to show for it? Days spent waking at noon and barely being productive?

If your sleeping patterns are in your control, I'd advise you to curl up in bed earlier, wake up earlier, and enjoy the world earlier. This is the free time you've been craving all year, and if you're not enjoying it properly, no one else will! The second you let your summer fall out of your control, you become irritated with yourself for letting it happen at all.

There is so much to take advantage of in the early mornings that you're sleeping through! So dress, head outside, and breathe in the summer for what it's worth!

(Also worth noting that sleeping until noon occasionally can be wonderful too, as we all need our relaxing time, but don't get sucked into the habit all over again.)

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