I'm single and I definitely don't hate Valentine's Day. I actually really love it. It's an excuse to wear pink, which is my favorite!!! But it's also really cute to see all the adorable couples post cute and meaningful posts towards one another. Someday that'll be me, but I refuse to be jealous that it's not me this year.
Valentine's Day can really be a great day to learn about yourself. I think this year I learned that I'm stronger emotionally than I was a few months ago. I used to be so focused on finding a boyfriend that I would literally drive myself crazy! It was insane, I'd just try and find the good in every guy and automatically make them my boyfriend, even if they were clearly not right for me.
I've learned not to settle but most importantly I've learned not to rush anything. God will chose the right guy for me eventually, and whenever that will be, it will work because He put that guy in front of me for a reason, I wasn't searching. I know I've written about this before, but it's SO important. Patience is key.
I do a Bible study every day, and today's really touched me. It was a poem about pride. It refers to pride as a "cheater" because it cheats you of God's-given destiny, which is so relevant to this situation. It even mentions it in the poem, "I cheat you of love...because real romance demands sacrifice". You're probably thinking "Why would you have to sacrifice anything for love? That totally doesn't make sense." If you truly read it and let it sink into your heart, it does make sense! You're sacrificing your time and emotions.
You sacrifice time because you're just patiently waiting for the right one. You could be in meaningless relationships and having fun for a little, but ultimately you'd be wasting your time. You can make use of the time that you're waiting for the one God wants you to be with by working on yourself and your relationship with Christ. 1 John 4:8 states that if you don't know love that it's because you don't know God, because God IS love!
You're also sacrificing your emotions because it can be tough being single, especially when all your friends are in happy relationships or moving forward with their lives. As you get older, your friends start getting married and start having kids. You feel like you're missing out because that's what you want in life, but God knows you're not ready for it! It will be there when you're ready. He will make sure of it.
As I sit here drinking my coffee alone, writing this piece, on Valentine's Day, I realize that I am not ready for a relationship because MY life is just starting and I'm totally okay with that. When I am ready, God will provide. Until then, I will work on my foundation with Him and continue to better myself instead of being bitter.
