Okay so here is a little backstory. Basically, my sister and I don't have the same dad. My mom remarried to my dad when my sister was 3 years old. Almost 10 years later my mom and dad wanted to have another child. That means when my brother and I were born my sister was just about 13 years older than us.
Growing up I didn't see her much because she was busy being a teenager; seeing friends, going to school and working. When I did see her it was kind of hard for me because she almost seemed like a stranger in my own home. We were never close as I grew up, and once she moved out I had an even more distant relationship with her.
As I grew into an awkward little teenager, we finally grew closer, she moved home for a bit and I got to see her more often. We also had more in common now that I wasn't a child only interested in dolls and boy bands. She was still very busy, but it was okay because I was happy to even have a small amount of a connection with my sister.
Growing up with a sibling much older than you isn't exactly an ideal thing since I didn't have another sister to do things with. I missed the opportunity for sleepovers and sharing makeup and talking about boys and all that fun stuff you experience when you have a sibling closer in age.
She and I hardly ever fought, however, which was an upside. She was more like a mother to me than a sister. She took care of me and gave me advice when she could, and made sure I was doing my best.
Having a sibling with a large age gap to you was interesting because she showed me all of my current favorite movies, tv shows, and everything else in between. She helped me appreciate things most people my age wouldn't appreciate as much. I taught her about new things too: movies, music, fashion, etc. I was able to learn, create, and get knowledge from her that most wouldn't get. I really appreciated that.
When she had her child, I became an aunt, and now I am able to watch him grow up just as my sister did with my brother and me. Life is crazy and weird and very interesting, especially when living a life completely different from your sibling's life.
Yeah, it can suck having a sibling that you aren't close with but chances are as time goes on you'll grow closer to them, and that will be a pretty cool thing. So I just want to say thanks to my sister for being there for me and always crying when I do adult things, its cute and I think its hilarious.
I love you! Now do me a favor: go hug your siblings.
