We have a long list of what we want in a partner — loving, compassionate, honest, understanding, stable, etc. It varies from person to person, as wants and needs are different for everyone, but at the end of the day, we want someone who loves us wholeheartedly.
We jokingly say we want our own Thomas Rhett and Lauren Akin love, or we want the relationship our parents have or our best friends who are so madly in love. We see these beautiful couples with so much love for one another, but we only endure another letdown and heartbreak. Not trying to be dramatic when I’m only 21, but I have so much going on that doesn’t involve having someone by my side.
Months and months ago, this is where I was.
You should love the guy who doesn’t love you back.
The guy who doesn’t make plans with you.
The guy who uses you at his convenience.
The guy who leaves you left on read for three days.
The guy who doesn’t communicate with you.
The guy who leaves you hanging on by a thread.
The guy who isn’t enough for you.
You should love the guy who isn’t enough for you.
Then, leave and know you deserve so much more than mediocre, more than decent-ish times.
Love can be complicated at times because it can’t be one-sided to be true. I once had a boyfriend, for a very short period, who adored me and treated me with so much respect and love; I could even compare him to Thomas Rhett in countless, thoughtful instances, but I wasn’t his Lauren Akin. My heart didn’t desire that love, and it ended. He deserved more than I was willing to give, so I set him free and I only pray those experiences touch his life in a positive light.
Then, you get a guy who you fall for and treat him as though he walks on water, but it isn’t mutual. This is important and I think it’s vital to experience— loving someone who doesn’t love you in return. When constantly have to fight reality and convince yourself this is worth keeping, you’ve already lost. When you are in a situation like this, once you are done, you will never, ever settle again; you will look right through the bullshit of excuses and know they just don’t feel the same, and it isn’t worth your time, energy, or tears.
You are meant for a beautiful love, and after experiencing this, it will only make you appreciate it more and in the future, you’ll give your love more wholeheartedly to someone who actually deserves it and honors you. One day, you’ll find a love that’s mutual and full, so in the meantime, you should leave behind the guy who is just dragging you down.
