I Learned A Lot More Than Just Sex And The City From Watching 'Sex And The City'

I Learned A Lot More Than Just Sex And The City From Watching 'Sex And The City'

Life, fashion, relationships, friends.

It's that stereotypical tv show that you would assume is exactly what it sounds like. The plot of four women in the monogamous city of New York. Most people would roll their eyes at the sound of this show, however, I learned so much more from it.

I learned that it could take years and mistakes to find "the one."

Sure there is that one perfect man or woman out there for you and you too could find your perfect Mr.Big, but a majority of the show is based on bad relationships and this is exactly what my 20-year-old mind needed to see. Carrie met Mr.Big 10 years prior to knowing he would be the one she would end up with, and even then their relationship involved a lot of ups and downs. There were weird hookups in between and those are okay, some people need those. There were also some really great people in between which taught lessons.

I learned that not all broken relationships are a waste.

I personally get so caught up in every relationship thinking "either this is the guy I'm going to marry or we will break up" this is far too high of a concept for a 20-year-old to be thinking, and that is why I am grateful for the show Sex in the City. It changed my thinking to 'even if this relationship doesn't work out, I learned something from it.'

I now believe relationships are sometimes necessary even if it doesn't work out in the end, because truth be told you learn a lot about what you want in your significant other and in yourself when you reflect back on what you did and didn't like about your broken relationships.

I learned to have the confidence to wear what I want to wear.

Sure the T.V. show was based in the 80's and the 90's and some outfits were just downright out there, That didn't stop Carrie from pairing leopard print with polka dots and still manage to be the best looking one in the room. I admire the show for giving each character such different styles and each woman completely working them. Like placing Samantha in a deep "v" button down suit and the tallest pair of heels because she is a boss lady.

Or sweet Charlotte in a sundress and sunhat looking like she was going to a derby each day. And my favorite part of the show's fashion was Carrie's closet, not only did it become a problem in multiple episodes due to the size and price, but people still envied her for it and couldn't be mad because she worked every single outfit she put on.

So take that mom and dad, yes "I like my money where I can see it, hanging in my closet."(a direct Carrie Bradshaw quote) All in all, I've always felt I have had a more out there sense of style and sometimes I'm scared others might not understand it. I now don't even worry about what others would think because Carrie could be wearing an outfit I completely didn't understand at the beginning of the episode and by the end of the episode, I was wishing I was wearing what she was.

I learned it's okay to be single and do you.

I hate to admit it but my favorite character of the show, Carrie actually at times bothered me because of how needy she was at times for a man and a relationship, at this point I began to admire the character, Samantha. Samantha played a character who was older than all of her friends and never once complained about being lonely and needing a man to make her feel whole (MAD PROPS TO YOU GIRLFRIEND).

Samatha was just too busy with her career which she had loved and felt she had all the love that she needed from her friends, so why even try to settle with a man? After watching the show I realized how important it is to take the time for yourself and figure out what you want prior to settling down because settling down could change what you want to even do or where you want to go in your career field or to live. Live first, and maybe just maybe along the way someone will fall into your life.

I learned no matter what your real friends will always be there for you

From awful relationships to horrible outfit choices, and just awkward moments that are unforgettable (like Charlotte pooping her pants) The women in the show remain nothing but there for each other. And even when they don't support their friend's decisions, like Carrie dating Big and then not dating him and then dating him again and so on and so forth.

No matter what your friends do respect their decisions, but don't go without giving your true opinion after all your friend's opinions are what matter the most. and I mean who doesn't know you better than your friends you tell them literally everything. Remember when your friends were there for you when they may need a little extra care, ditch your man or your selfish night in, grab a bottle of wine and Chinese or in the case of the show, put on your best outfit and get ready to get your friend drunk with some cosmos.

Whatever you do, remember your friends, and remember the table you have every Saturday morning at your favorite brunch spot with them cause those are the true precious moments you'll have in your life.

So whether it be relationships, friendships, sex, or fashion, go live your own Carrie Bradshaw lifestyle. Figure out what you want, figure out where you want to be, and figure out something fabulous to wear along with way, but most importantly thank the people who are there with you, your friends.

Cover Image Credit: Sierra Gardner

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18 Times Kate Middleton Was Actually All Of Us In College, Beside The Princess Thing

Every girl has to go through her clueless college stage before she reaches Duchess status.

Kate Middleton is basically a household name by now, and how could this not be the case when she has the gorgeous hair, kind smile, and incredible fashion sense. With her constantly in the spotlight looking so put together, we sometimes forget that the Duchess was actually all of us in college!

Here are 18 times that Kate proved she was just like all of us.

1. Going all out in the name of school spirit

There is nothing like breaking out the war paint and screaming for your home team. Like Kate, we all love to get a little messy and make some memories with our friends.

2. Hanging out with the roomies

Some people may not get lucky in this area but for those who are best friends with their roommates, they understand the love. It's a dream come true for everyone who has always wanted to live with their best friends. It's like a sleepover that never ends.

3. Dressing up cute on the first day of school...

You got to make a good first impression on your way to school. Whether it's during your 7 A.M or 4 P.M., it's always best to dress to impress.

4. ...and wearing yoga pants for the rest of the year

And this goes all the way until the last week of school when you don't bother getting out of bed to wear pants at all.

5. Going grocery shopping and throwing in cookies, ice-cream, and every type of Pringles because your mom isn't there to say no

You'll probably regret that in a few months when the Freshman Fifteen kicks in.

6. Walking for miles from your car to your dorm carrying groceries

We can't park by the apartment for a solid five minutes to carry our groceries up to the kitchen or we will risk a ticket, but we can walk a few miles carrying food that gets heavier, and heavier, and heavier with every step.

7. Going out for a night on the town on a Friday night

Dancing, laughter, and fun? Everyone in college has been to a party or two. It's a classic part of the college experience. Sometimes you just need a distraction from all the essays and tests.

8. Being so late to class you threw on whatever your hands grabbed next

We've all been there. Our alarm doesn't go off, we press snooze a few too many times, or forget to even set an alarm and next thing you know we are running around the dorm room like Taz from Looney Toons. You throw on whatever, then run to class.

Unfortunately 9/10 times our outfits don't turn out. Although, Kate can certainly pull off this look, no matter how mismatched.

9. Pretending your walking to the same building as the cute boy you met so you have the excuse to keep talking to him

I am very guilty of doing this. Although I missed my class, at least I got to talk to the really cute boy who has class at 9:45 in the STEM building. It was worth it.

10. Sitting on the floor or standing because you're a poor college student who can't afford chairs or tables

Eating on the floor? Always. Being a college kid is tough and sometimes you have to sacrifice some things to obtain the others. Such as choosing chocolate milk and Halo Top over vegetables and hair conditioner.

Judging by Kate's beautiful locks, she chose the conditioner.

Probably the vegetables too.

We should just all follow her example.

11. Going on cute date with the boy you followed to class-turned-boyfriend

Now my short-lived romance may not have extended farther than us talking and walking to his class, but Kate and William obviously had a better ending. Nevertheless, college is the place to grow and date and possibly find the one.

12. Keeping your hair long and growing because you can't afford to get it cut

Don't trust your roommate. No matter how many times she begs you to let her cut it. Don't.

13. Turning 21 and getting dressed up and going out with your best friends

While this one probably doesn't apply to Kate, since you can drink at age 18 in most countries, all my people in the United States know the sweet freedom of turning 21. It's an iconic time in a students life and marks a huge milestone as well.

14. Passing out flyers for some type of movement or protest

Everyone wants to be a part of something bigger - which is why college is the time to stand up for what you believe in. May that be RedforEd, Planned Parenthood, anti-Abortion, Trump, the Wall, pizza bagels, it's all an exercise of the first amendment.

15. Ranting to your friends about the professor that just "doesn't understand you"

You know your thinking about that professor right now as you read this. And you know that that's your reaction whenever they give you a bad grade or say something you disagree with at the tiniest degree.

16. Getting glammed-up for those senior photos

Pick out your best outfit and make sure it's a good hair day because everyone will be viewing these photos forever... and in Kate's place that is more than true. Luckily she looks as gorgeous as ever. Does she ever have a bad hair day?

17. Walking out of your last class knowing you'll never have to write a single paper again

And purposefully not thinking about how you will be going into the real world in less than a few days.

18. When you've graduated and realized you have no idea what you're going to do with your life

Maybe a prince will be right around the corner to sweep you off your feet so you won't have to figure your life out.
Cover Image Credit: Laura Warshauer

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20 Amazing Songs You Need For Your Travel Music Videos

Planning to make your new travel video? Use one of these songs as your perfect background music!


Based on the mood you're currently feeling, here are 20 different songs categorized by when you should use them for a traveling music video:

1. For Those Classic Summer Feels

"Harvest Moon" by Poolside

"Gone" by JR JR

"Hold My Hand" by Jess Glynne

"Summer" by Calvin Harris

For all the lake adventures and mission trips, these are the perfect songs to put behind them to share your experience. Using these songs, your video can have a perfect summer vibe to it!

2. For A Good Winter Vacation

"The Days" by Avicii

"Something Just Like This" by The Chainsmokers

"Roses" by The Chainsmokers

"It Ain't Me" by Kygo ft. Selena Gomez

It's hard finding a perfect song for a cold winter day. These songs can work amazingly to any snowy adventurous video you've made for your winter break.

3. For Everyday Adventures

"Shut Up and Dance" by WALK THE MOON

"To Let Myself Go" by The Avener

"All That Matters" by Justin Bieber

"Youth" by Troye Sivan

We all have our daily vlogs filled with school and friends. These songs can put a touch of amusement and thrill to these videos!

4. For The Perfect Spring Break At The Beach

"Steal My Girl" by One Direction

"The Nights" by Avicii

"Runaways" by Galantis

"Bohemian Rhapsody" by Queen

Every girl has the perfect week at the beach once a year! These songs can show off how incredible your experience with your friends was.

5. For Those City Nights

"Bullet Train" by Stephen Swartz

"Love You Like A Love Song" by Selena Gomez

"G.O.M.D." by J. Cole

"The Heart Wants What It Wants" by Selena Gomez

We all take visits to the city and never have the right songs to make a video with. These upbeat songs will make your city vlog into a perfect travel video!

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