I Learned A Lot More Than Just Sex And The City From Watching 'Sex And The City'

I Learned A Lot More Than Just Sex And The City From Watching 'Sex And The City'

Life, fashion, relationships, friends.

It's that stereotypical tv show that you would assume is exactly what it sounds like. The plot of four women in the monogamous city of New York. Most people would roll their eyes at the sound of this show, however, I learned so much more from it.

I learned that it could take years and mistakes to find "the one."

Sure there is that one perfect man or woman out there for you and you too could find your perfect Mr.Big, but a majority of the show is based on bad relationships and this is exactly what my 20-year-old mind needed to see. Carrie met Mr.Big 10 years prior to knowing he would be the one she would end up with, and even then their relationship involved a lot of ups and downs. There were weird hookups in between and those are okay, some people need those. There were also some really great people in between which taught lessons.

I learned that not all broken relationships are a waste.

I personally get so caught up in every relationship thinking "either this is the guy I'm going to marry or we will break up" this is far too high of a concept for a 20-year-old to be thinking, and that is why I am grateful for the show Sex in the City. It changed my thinking to 'even if this relationship doesn't work out, I learned something from it.'

I now believe relationships are sometimes necessary even if it doesn't work out in the end, because truth be told you learn a lot about what you want in your significant other and in yourself when you reflect back on what you did and didn't like about your broken relationships.

I learned to have the confidence to wear what I want to wear.

Sure the T.V. show was based in the 80's and the 90's and some outfits were just downright out there, That didn't stop Carrie from pairing leopard print with polka dots and still manage to be the best looking one in the room. I admire the show for giving each character such different styles and each woman completely working them. Like placing Samantha in a deep "v" button down suit and the tallest pair of heels because she is a boss lady.

Or sweet Charlotte in a sundress and sunhat looking like she was going to a derby each day. And my favorite part of the show's fashion was Carrie's closet, not only did it become a problem in multiple episodes due to the size and price, but people still envied her for it and couldn't be mad because she worked every single outfit she put on.

So take that mom and dad, yes "I like my money where I can see it, hanging in my closet."(a direct Carrie Bradshaw quote) All in all, I've always felt I have had a more out there sense of style and sometimes I'm scared others might not understand it. I now don't even worry about what others would think because Carrie could be wearing an outfit I completely didn't understand at the beginning of the episode and by the end of the episode, I was wishing I was wearing what she was.

I learned it's okay to be single and do you.

I hate to admit it but my favorite character of the show, Carrie actually at times bothered me because of how needy she was at times for a man and a relationship, at this point I began to admire the character, Samantha. Samantha played a character who was older than all of her friends and never once complained about being lonely and needing a man to make her feel whole (MAD PROPS TO YOU GIRLFRIEND).

Samatha was just too busy with her career which she had loved and felt she had all the love that she needed from her friends, so why even try to settle with a man? After watching the show I realized how important it is to take the time for yourself and figure out what you want prior to settling down because settling down could change what you want to even do or where you want to go in your career field or to live. Live first, and maybe just maybe along the way someone will fall into your life.

I learned no matter what your real friends will always be there for you

From awful relationships to horrible outfit choices, and just awkward moments that are unforgettable (like Charlotte pooping her pants) The women in the show remain nothing but there for each other. And even when they don't support their friend's decisions, like Carrie dating Big and then not dating him and then dating him again and so on and so forth.

No matter what your friends do respect their decisions, but don't go without giving your true opinion after all your friend's opinions are what matter the most. and I mean who doesn't know you better than your friends you tell them literally everything. Remember when your friends were there for you when they may need a little extra care, ditch your man or your selfish night in, grab a bottle of wine and Chinese or in the case of the show, put on your best outfit and get ready to get your friend drunk with some cosmos.

Whatever you do, remember your friends, and remember the table you have every Saturday morning at your favorite brunch spot with them cause those are the true precious moments you'll have in your life.

So whether it be relationships, friendships, sex, or fashion, go live your own Carrie Bradshaw lifestyle. Figure out what you want, figure out where you want to be, and figure out something fabulous to wear along with way, but most importantly thank the people who are there with you, your friends.

Cover Image Credit: Sierra Gardner

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9 Reasons Crocs Are The Only Shoes You Need

Crocs have holes so your swag can breathe.

Do you have fond childhood objects that make you nostalgic just thinking about your favorite Barbie or sequenced purse? Well for me, its my navy Crocs. Those shoes put me through elementary school. I eventually wore them out so much that I had to say goodbye. I tried Airwalks and sandals, but nothing compared. Then on my senior trip in New York City, a four story Crocs store gleamed at me from across the street and I bought another pair of Navy Blue Crocs. The rest is history. I wear them every morning to the lake for practice and then throughout the day to help air out my soaking feet. I love my Crocs so much, that I was in shock when it became apparent to me that people don't feel the same. Here are nine reasons why you should just throw out all of your other shoes and settle on Crocs.

1. They are waterproof.

These bad boys can take on the wettest of water. Nobody is sure what they are made of, though. The debate is still out there on foam vs. rubber. You can wear these bad boys any place water may or may not be: to the lake for practice or to the club where all the thirsty boys are. But honestly who cares because they're buoyant and water proof. Raise the roof.

2. Your most reliable support system

There is a reason nurses and swimming instructors alike swear by Crocs. Comfort. Croc's clogs will make you feel like your are walking on a cloud of Laffy Taffy. They are wide enough that your toes are not squished, and the rubbery material forms perfectly around your foot. Added bonus: The holes let in a nice breeze while riding around on your Razor Scooter.

3. Insane durability

Have you ever been so angry you could throw a Croc 'cause same? Have you ever had a Croc bitten while wrestling a great white shark? Me too. Have you ever had your entire foot rolled like a fruit roll up but had your Crocs still intact? Also me. All I know is that Seal Team 6 may or may not have worn these shoes to find and kill Osama Bin Laden. Just sayin'.

4. Bling, bling, bling

Jibbitz, am I right?! These are basically they're own money in the industry of comfortable footwear. From Spongebob to Christmas to your favorite fossil, Jibbitz has it all. There's nothing more swag-tastic than pimped out crocs. Lady. Killer.

5. So many options

From the classic clog to fashionable sneakers, Crocs offer so many options that are just too good to pass up on. They have fur lined boots, wedges, sandals, loafers, Maryjane's, glow in the dark, Minion themed, and best of all, CAMO! Where did your feet go?!

6. Affordable

Crocs: $30

Feeling like a boss: Priceless

7. Two words: Adventure Straps

Because you know that when you move the strap from casual mode chillin' in the front to behind the heal, it's like using a shell on Mario Cart.

8. Crocs cares

Okay, but for real, Crocs is a great company because they have donated over 3 million pairs of crocs to people in need around the world. Move over Toms, the Croc is in the house.

9. Stylish AF

The boys will be coming for you like Steve Irwin.

Who cares what the haters say, right? Wear with pride, and go forth in style.

Cover Image Credit: Chicago Tribune

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From One Nerd To Another

My contemplation of the complexities between different forms of art.


Aside from reading Guy Harrison's guide to eliminating scientific ignorance called, "At Least Know This: Essential Science to Enhance Your Life" and, "The Breakthrough: Immunotherapy and the Race to Cure Cancer" by Charles Graeber, an informative and emotional historical account explaining the potential use of our own immune systems to cure cancer, I read articles and worked on my own writing in order to keep learning while enjoying my winter break back in December. I also took a trip to the Guggenheim Museum.

I wish I was artistic. Generally, I walk through museums in awe of what artists can do. The colors and dainty details simultaneously inspire me and remind me of what little talent I posses holding a paintbrush. Walking through the Guggenheim was no exception. Most of the pieces are done by Hilma af Klint, a 20th-century Swedish artist expressing her beliefs and curiosity about the universe through her abstract painting. I was mostly at the exhibit to appease my mom (a K - 8th-grade art teacher), but as we continued to look at each piece and read their descriptions, I slowly began to appreciate them and their underlying meanings.

I like writing that integrates symbols, double meanings, and metaphors into its message because I think that the best works of art are the ones that have to be sought after. If the writer simply tells you exactly what they were thinking and how their words should be interpreted, there's no room for imagination. An unpopular opinion in high school was that reading "The Scarlet Letter" by Nathaniel Hawthorne was fun. Well, I thought it was. At the beginning of the book, there's a scene where Hawthorne describes a wild rosebush that sits just outside of the community prison. As you read, you are free to decide whether it's an image of morality, the last taste of freedom and natural beauty for criminals walking toward their doom, or a symbol of the relationship between the Puritans with their prison-like expectations and Hester, the main character, who blossoms into herself throughout the novel. Whichever one you think it is doesn't matter, the point is that the rosebush can symbolize whatever you want it to. It's the same with paintings - they can be interpreted however you want them to be.

As we walked through the building, its spiral design leading us further and further upwards, we were able to catch glimpses of af Klint's life through the strokes of her brush. My favorite of her collections was one titled, "Evolution." As a science nerd myself, the idea that the story of our existence was being incorporated into art intrigued me. One piece represented the eras of geological time through her use of spirals and snails colored abstractly. She clued you into the story she was telling by using different colors and tones to represent different periods. It felt like reading "The Scarlet Letter" and my biology textbook at the same time. Maybe that sounds like the worst thing ever, but to me it was heaven. Art isn't just art and science isn't just science. Aspects of different studies coexist and join together to form something amazing that will speak to even the most untalented patron walking through the museum halls.

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