Giving Second Chances Can Hurt Emotionally, But I Believe There Is Good That Comes From It

I'm someone who will easily give someone a second chance. It's an odd thing to do and sometimes not a good thing, now that I think about it. Despite the wrong the person did, I hope to see that they have realized their mistake, and they won't do it again. It didn't me long to realize that it's much more than that.

I have a hard time trusting people, but when I do, I give them my entire heart. I don't mean to; that's just how I am. When I give someone a second chance, it means they have lost some of my trust, but I am still willing to restore that trust in hopes that they won't do it again. It's a very wicked thing because it can lead to betrayal over and over again, and it will be too late to realize how bad it is for me. And let me tell you, it hurts like hell.

I don't like when things change. When a friend of mine does something wrong, I'm inclined to stay friends with them, so I don't lose them. I don't want to change the style I'm living in, because that means I may have to lose my friend. So, I hope they change by giving them a second chance.

Sometimes, second chances don't work though. I'll end up giving them multiple chances, yet they continue to go below my expectations. So, I tell myself that I should stop being friends with them. But, how can I if I've known them for such a long time and have been through a lot together? It's what makes giving second chances a painful thing to do. I do it, so I don't have to lose that friend, even though it's not good for me.

Notice the reoccurring word here is hope. It's all blind faith and wishing. That's what makes it scary. I don't know if they will do it again or they will stop and change. Sometimes, people change, and sometimes, they don't. It makes you wonder if giving a second chance is worth all the pain. It's like a game of poker. You have to take that chance in order to get the money.

So, why do I still do it? Why do I go through the pain? It's simple.

I believe everyone person is still good, no matter what. I believe too much in that person. Does it make me vulnerable? Yes. Is believing someone and having too much good a good thing? It's debatable. Does it take too much emotional energy? Of course. But, when I give a second chance, I have good intentions, so that the people who get a second chance can do better and realize what they did is wrong. Giving a second chance can be a bad thing because it's mostly blind hope that the person will change, but I believe it is a good thing.

I feel happier. It doesn't go with what I was saying earlier, but it's true. It makes me feel like I'm doing a good thing for myself and for the other person because I may be able to help someone by giving them another shot. Despite what people think, I do believe that people can change. People can learn from their mistakes and giving them another opportunity can help prove that for them and me.

Whether the person is a robber, a murderer or someone who did something by mistake, they all have the potential to change. They just need to realize it and be given another chance. Sometimes, all that person needs is someone to believe that they will change. I'm not saying that everyone should start giving the criminals another chance in life. This is just something that I believe in. If that person blows their chance, I might not give them another.

We all have our own beliefs. You can choose to be someone who doesn't want to give second chances. It's not my decision to make. I'm willing to give that person another shot because that's who I am. Depending on if they choose to take that second chance, might affect how I feel about that person. I see it as a way to redeem themselves, and I know it will cost a lot, but sometimes, it's worth it.