The Power Of Finally Realizing Your Worth

The Power Of Finally Realizing Your Worth

It's okay to not miss someone.

I’ve always been the person to give second chances...and third and fourth and so on. I always thought that there’s a way to fix whatever’s going on so why would I leave someone so close to me? I’m not one to give up on people and I’m still not, but what I’ve learned is it’s okay to give up on people who are not willing to grow or fix whatever issues are at hand. I didn’t realize this by letting someone go, but I realized it when I was left behind for the last time.

All my life people have left without a trace and each time it slowly started breaking me. But for some reason, I always knew it would be okay for me. I always kept up with peoples lives after they vanished. They were such an important part of my life and I didn’t I want to let them go. I checked up every now and then to make sure they were happy with where they were. The thing about me was that if they ever needed me I was just a call away. No matter what happened, how badly it ended, I was someone they could talk to if they needed it...I was someone who always gave more chances.

For the last time, I was left by a group of girls I thought were my best friends. I thought I finally found the girls that would stand next to me at my wedding, move into the same neighborhood with, and raise our kids together one day. The thing is, after this time I realized my worth. I didn’t want to check up on them, I didn’t want to be there for them if they needed me, I didn’t want to destroy myself any more than I had these past 20 years. And guess what. That’s okay.

It’s okay to realize what you deserve and not dwell on the past. It’s okay to move on and grow into a different person, especially if you’re growing into an even better person than you already are. Don’t ever wish bad on someone else but just remember you don’t need to be the one that is always there to catch people when they fall. Let them live their lives how they want to live them and you do the same. There’s no reason to be hung up on toxic people because you have such a long and happy life to live. Even if they’re speaking badly about you, ignore it. You and the people you surround yourself with know what kind of person you are and no matter what someone else says, that’s not going to change.

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Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Here's What Happens When All Of Your Friends Have Babies

All of my friends back home are married with children. No, really, they are.


Over the past few months, three of my friends have shared their pregnancy news with me, and I couldn't be more thrilled. Baby news always stirs up a range of emotions for me. I'm excited and crying happy tears (no joke, I started to cry when my best friend told me and showed me her ultrasound).

Being "Auntie Meg" brings me such great joy. You see, I absolutely adore children, especially my friend's kiddos. They can easily brighten up my day with their giggles, love you, and their goodbye kisses & waves. I absolutely love getting to be "Auntie Meg"; it could potentially be my favorite role to fill.

I don't think I've ever loved human beings more than I love these babies. These are kiddos I would do almost anything for; they truly have my whole heart and I couldn't be more thankful for each and every one of them. I've loved getting to watch my friends grow into incredible parents.

I love getting to be one of the biggest cheerleaders for my friends and their kids. Listen, I can't wait for the day when they are older and are asking to come over more and spend time doing fun things with auntie Meg. I can't wait to watch them grow and I can't wait to be able to come alongside them and be a shoulder to cry on and one of the loudest voices cheering them on (Next to mom and dad, of course).

While there is just so much good about your friends growing up and having children of their own, if you are not careful, it can also fuel a person's self-doubt.

It can bring up questions like, "am I good enough?", "what is wrong with me?", "why am I not where they are at?" I would be lying if I said that I have never thought or felt these things, but here's the thing: you are good enough, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and their path is not your path; you will get there when you get there.

Those things are so important to remember in times when you begin to doubt yourself or your worth.

Believe me, you are good enough, there is nothing wrong with you, and that is not the path you need to be on at the moment. This is a great time for you to focus on you and the things you want out of life. What are your goals? What is on your bucket list? Just because you don't have the things your friends have, doesn't make your life any less fulfilled than theirs is. Your life is just as wonderful and fulfilling as theirs is, just in different ways.

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