The Power Of Finally Realizing Your Worth

The Power Of Finally Realizing Your Worth

It's okay to not miss someone.

I’ve always been the person to give second chances...and third and fourth and so on. I always thought that there’s a way to fix whatever’s going on so why would I leave someone so close to me? I’m not one to give up on people and I’m still not, but what I’ve learned is it’s okay to give up on people who are not willing to grow or fix whatever issues are at hand. I didn’t realize this by letting someone go, but I realized it when I was left behind for the last time.

All my life people have left without a trace and each time it slowly started breaking me. But for some reason, I always knew it would be okay for me. I always kept up with peoples lives after they vanished. They were such an important part of my life and I didn’t I want to let them go. I checked up every now and then to make sure they were happy with where they were. The thing about me was that if they ever needed me I was just a call away. No matter what happened, how badly it ended, I was someone they could talk to if they needed it...I was someone who always gave more chances.

For the last time, I was left by a group of girls I thought were my best friends. I thought I finally found the girls that would stand next to me at my wedding, move into the same neighborhood with, and raise our kids together one day. The thing is, after this time I realized my worth. I didn’t want to check up on them, I didn’t want to be there for them if they needed me, I didn’t want to destroy myself any more than I had these past 20 years. And guess what. That’s okay.

It’s okay to realize what you deserve and not dwell on the past. It’s okay to move on and grow into a different person, especially if you’re growing into an even better person than you already are. Don’t ever wish bad on someone else but just remember you don’t need to be the one that is always there to catch people when they fall. Let them live their lives how they want to live them and you do the same. There’s no reason to be hung up on toxic people because you have such a long and happy life to live. Even if they’re speaking badly about you, ignore it. You and the people you surround yourself with know what kind of person you are and no matter what someone else says, that’s not going to change.

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With your creaky beds, concrete walls, and mismatched tile floors, you are easily overlooked as just another room we were randomly assigned to— but you were different. Inside your old walls, I have made some of the best memories of my life that I will hold on to forever.

Thank you for welcoming my neighbors in with open arms who quickly became friends who didn't knock and walked in like you were their own.

I feel like an apology is needed.

We're sorry for blaring the music so loud while getting ready and acting like we can actually sing when, in reality, we know we can't. Sorry for the dance parties that got a bit out of control and ended with us standing on the desks. Sorry for the cases of the late-night giggles that came out of nowhere and just would not go away. Sorry for the homesick cries and the "I failed my test" cries and the "I'm dropping out" cries. We're sorry for hating you at first. All we saw was a tiny and insanely hot room, we had no idea what you would bring to us.

Thank you for providing me with memories of my first college friends and college experiences.

As I stand at the door looking at the bare room that I first walked into nine months ago I see so much more than just a room. I see lots and lots of dinners being eaten at the desks filled with stories of our days. I see three girls sitting on the floor laughing at God knows what. I see late night ice cream runs and dance battles. I see long nights of homework and much-needed naps. Most importantly, I look at the bed and see a girl who sat and watched her parents leave in August and was absolutely terrified, and as I lock you up for the last time today, I am so proud of who that terrified girl is now and how much she has grown.

Thank you for being a space where I could grow, where I was tested physically, mentally and emotionally and for being my home for a year.


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Life after high school isn't always what you expected it to be.


So you're about to graduate high school and you think you have it all figured out. You and your best friends are going to stay close throughout college and you're going to take those long road trips in college to see each other. Think again.

Life after high school isn't always what you want it to be. You think you'll miss high school, you'll always be close with your high school besties, and you'll have all this free time in college. That's just not entirely true. I personally do not miss high school. I don't really talk to anyone I went to high school with on a regular basis, and I'm totally OK with that. I have friends in college that I believe will be my lifelong friends whereas my friends in high school didn't make an effort to keep in contact with me after high school.

I haven't had all the free time I've dreamed of in college, because I'm busy with school and meetings. When I'm not doing homework, I'm making sure the rest of my life is in order and all my stuff for school is in line. I'm not the crazy party girl that people think I am because of where I go to school. I'd rather sit in bed and watch Netflix than go out with my friends. I'm not a 4.0 student, but I work so hard in my classes just to make sure that I'm passing. I study a week before tests and still don't always make A's. And that's OK. It's not what I expected during my college years, but it's what's happening, and most of my friends are the same way.

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