I've been with my amazing boyfriend for almost two years, and I know we're settling into the next part of our relationship: post-honeymoon. The honeymoon phase is known for putting rose-tinted glasses on people and making your partner seem more magnificent than they are.
People think their partner is perfect, that their relationship is perfect. Everything is bright and full of colors and sparkly.
Obviously, none of that lasts. No person or relationship is perfect, and the world can't always be glowing with the love you hold for your partner. My boyfriend and I went into our relationship knowing these things, but that didn't stop me from thinking it all anyway.
The power of the honeymoon phase is strong, but I'd like to think I have always been prepared for the end of it.
For the past few weeks, I've been thinking about how things will change once the honeymoon phase has ended and what I've been noticing with our relationship recently.
I think the honeymoon phase is starting to fade as my rose-tinted glasses fade back to being clear and boring, but that won't stop me from loving my wonderful man or enjoying what we have.
For me, B isn't thought about at all.
It's A all the way.
Relationship starts—everything goes bright
And colorful
And lovely.
The honeymoon phase is the best time in the relationship
Because everything feels so good
Because there's no reason to fight.
Estimates can't seem to agree on when it ends
But like most things
It comes to an end.
This is when the real relationship begins.
Their quirks and bad habits become less adorable:
A) It's part of who they are and who you love
B) They're annoying and unbearable
Time away from them doesn't feel so bad anymore:
A) It makes the relationship stronger
B) You crave more time away
The world seems less rosy than it was before:
A) It's still comfortable and warm and cozy
B) There's no real reason to stay
Things aren't as electric as they once were:
A) Little things make it exciting again
B) Someone new has a spark
A and B aren't always a choice you get to make.
The honeymoon phase ends
And sometimes it's A
And sometimes it's B.
