A New Perspective Of Love

A New Perspective Of Love

It has more faces than a ten-sided dice

I used to think that love was just a thing that you had for someone you cared for. I saw it as such a surface emotion/feeling and as if it could be wiped away when you got tired of it. I may not have been in many relationships in my life, but I still remember the first time I knew that I loved someone. He doesn't know it and he never will because I didn't love him, I just thought I did. I used to think of love as an anchor and I imagined that if you loved someone enough that they would just be pulled towards you. I know now that this is not true.

When I went to college, I was all about the cute boys. I'm not going to lie, there are so many cute boys and men at college, that you won't know what to do with yourself. I remember my friends and I would stay up late talking about some boy that one girl thought was cute and we would all compare and share our "boy problems". There was this one boy who I called "the cute blonde boy". It has taken me a year and a half to finally talk to him. I don't remember why I was so scared to talk to him, but I was. Remember that no boy is worth that anxiety or missed sleep.

The concept of love was always confusing to me, I could never understand how you could love someone so much that you would do anything for them. I would always say to people that I would do anything for anyone even if I didn't know them, but I had never done that before I did. I just did it; my reasoning was why not? It has taken me nineteen years to understand what love means and I know that my definition of it will continue to change. The way that we love other people is so different to the way that you love your best friend or the way you love your parents. Love can take so many faces that sometimes we don't recognize them.

I finally understood love when I went back to church. I had never stopped praying, but I had stopped going to church because I didn't know anyone that went. The moment I walked into that room, I could feel the love radiating off of every person in that room. It was at that moment, I could actually declare that I would go and do anything for anyone even if I didn't know them. I only knew one person in that room, but I was ready and I was willing to lay down my life for any one of them because I was reminded that we're all related, we're all children of God.

Love isn't something that simply appears, it has to grow and develop just like us. There are people in my life who I wasn't that close to a year ago, but today I can't imagine life without them. I love those people more than they will ever know. 1 John 3:18 says " Dear children, let us not love with words or speech by with actions and in truth." I could say to my friends that I love them so much and they can say that back, but I know they love me when they answer my calls in the middle of the night or they randomly ask me something just to make sure I remember that I am important.

All love should be unconditional. I mean, why not? Why should you hold back and save your love for someone else? There is no one on this earth who doesn't deserve to be loved, we all deserve it. I know sometimes it can be difficult to imagine that there is someone out there who loves you and wants to show you love, but they are. The people who love you don't have to be the person you marry or date, they can be your mailman who you always say hello to, or the lady at the grocery store who you smile at or the child you help cross the road.

If you live without love, then I don't know how you survive. If I didn't have love in my life I don't think I would be able to survive. There was a time in my life when I didn't think that love could be given to me, but I was wrong. There were so many people who wanted to love me and there are so many people who want to love you too. The next time you say to someone that you love them, I want you to think about what that means to you and to them. You could be the only love they get that day or in their life. Make every piece of love you get mean as much as the piece of love you give.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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5 Facts About Spiritual Gifts That You Need To Know

Different gifts, but from the same Spirit


1 Corinthians 12:4-5 states; "[4] There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. [5] There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord." We see that there are multiple spiritual gifts, but they all come from the same Lord.

1. We all have different gifts and that's okay


Just like a body has different parts that each has its own function, that's like the body of Christ. We all have different gifts and different purposes, but we're all part of the body of Christ. God has a plan for you and has given you certain gifts. God doesn't call the equipped, he equips the calling.

2. There are various spiritual gifts mentioned in the Bible


Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12, and Ephesians 4 are some of the bible passages that talk about spiritual gifts. Giving, leadership, mercy, prophecy, service, tongue interpretation, administration, discernment, hospitality, missionary, and evangelism are some of the spiritual gifts that people can have. We can desire any gift, but it's God's choice on what gifts He gives us.

Remember, everyone can receive speaking in tongues via baptism in the Holy Spirit, but not everyone will get the gift of tongue interpretation.

3. Spiritual Gifts are supernatural abilities that are either given or enhanced via the Holy Spirit


God gave us these Spiritual gifts because God wants to invest in His church.

4. Spiritual gifts are for strengthening others


We have spiritual gifts in order to help others.

5. It does take time for gifts to mature and develop


Like with a skill that you have, it does take time for you to own said skill. You put in the work, and because of that, you grow in your skill, and you get better. That's the same way with your gifts. God gives each of us certain gifts to use, and it will take time to mature those gifts.

Spiritual gifts are important.

In Romans 12:6 states; "[6] We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; [7] if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; [8] if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully."

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