Taylor Swift’s song “Tied Together With A Smile” is possibly one of the most emotional songs she has ever written. There have been so many times where I have felt as if I was tied together with a smile and barely holding on. So many times where I have hid how I really feel and acted like everything was okay. So, to the person who currently feels like they are tied together with a smile… here are some things I want you to know.

I know it seems like you have no control. Like you are falling apart. You feel like you aren’t worth it. Like you aren’t pretty. You are coming undone. Maybe something happened with a relationship. Maybe you are giving love away to so many people because you are desperate to find someone who will appreciate you and give you worth. But please know that the people you are giving love to do not value you if they throw you away so easily. You aren’t their responsibility or “price to pay” so they give you up as soon as they are done with you. That’s not love. That’s hate. That’s abuse. That’s hurt. You need to realize your value. Do you know how valuable you are? You are beautiful and you mean so much to God, your family, and your friends.

Maybe you are tearing at the seams because of the loss of a friend or the stress society puts on you to be perfect and accomplished. Whatever it is, please know that it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to tell someone, to trust someone. It’s okay to fall apart in someone’s hands and untie that smile. It’s okay to show someone how much you really cry. Because the people that truly love you won’t leave you. They will help you. They will stay by your side. But they can’t do that if you don’t show them what is really going on. If you can’t untie that smile yourself, let the ones that love you do it for you. And enjoy feeling the love wash over you.